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[M & C 6]

For anyone who may be wondering whatever happened at our interview, here goes: On Monday, my husband and daughter went in for their interview. He felt like everything went well. He answered all questions about me, us, my family that were asked. At the end, he was asked if he had anything from his daughter's mother giving permission for her to immigrate. He brought out the letter she had signed (we decided to wait until the interview to have it notorized, and only if asked to do so, which we expected). The man said everything looked good, but they couldn't issue him a visa without the notorized letter for our daughter, since they'd applied together. He asked for my husband to go to the embassy website to schedule an appointment for our daughter's biological mother to come in and have the letter notorized and to ask her some questions.

We scheduled the appointment, then the next day a lady from the embassy called and asked him to come in at noon Thursday (today) and bring the mother, but not our daughter. They were instructed to bring her birth documents and pictures.

They were at the embassy for five hours today, during which time, they were separated and each interviewed twice by the legal department and questioned extensively about their relationship. They asked several questions trying to trip them up and say they were married (which they are not, never have been, and have been living in separate countries for about 6 years now). They asked things like "How can you have a baby and not be married?", "Where do you stay when you come to Lagos?", ""Where does the child's mother live?" "Do you ever go to visit her when you go to Lagos?", and "In Ghana, when you are at market when your daughter gets out of school, who takes care of her?". They asked the mother the same questions.

After all that, he was given a letter saying the case needs more administrative processing and they would call him when they finish processing everything. Something like that. I plan to have him scan the letter to me so I can see exactly what it says.

[Olomi_811 130]

That went faster than most of what they schedule. Remain positive. As for the "how do you have a baby and not get married?" question I don't know if I could have stopped myself from saying "the same way it happens in the US or any place else."

[M & C 6]

That went faster than most of what they schedule. Remain positive. As for the "how do you have a baby and not get married?" question I don't know if I could have stopped myself from saying "the same way it happens in the US or any place else."

Yeah. He told them "It is possible for a woman to give birth and not be married." I think I would have asked "would you like a blow by blow explanation?" but that probably would have made the guy mad.

Edited April 19, 2013 by M & C

[ErinO 9]

Its so sad these CO don't understand what it means for two loved ones to be apart! Why d silly questions!. Be positive..all gonna come to pass sooner than u think. GOODLUCK

[M & C 6]

Its so sad these CO don't understand what it means for two loved ones to be apart! Why d silly questions!. Be positive..all gonna come to pass sooner than u think. GOODLUCK

Thank you. Encouragement helps.My husband is showing a very positive attitude about the whole thing. He keeps telling me he's not worried, because he has "no skeletons on his shelf." Let's hope they investigate quickly. It's hard having another roadblock put up in our path, but I guess it just wasn't our time to be together quite yet.

Edited April 21, 2013 by M & C