K1 visa

[InHisTime 110]

Hi Vjers,

I want to share to you my situation and ask an idea about our K1 visa.

I went to US August 2010 for a fiance Visa but me and my Fiance didn't get along well he didnt marry me.

So I stay at my aunt's in US while staying with her I know and meet a guy a friend of her and we make friends.

But after the friendship we fall inlove each other and he dont want me to go back home so he marry me and we thought that he can change my status into permanent resident but it was not so i go back home and we reapply a petition for my visa to be able to come back in USA. I went back home February 19 2011 I stay in USA for 6 months through the fiance visa. So now i am t my home country we filed a petition dec.2010 before i go back home and now its been 1 year and 6 months when i left USA and We are wondering why it is that it takes too long? Its been 1 and 6 months and no progress of the petition. we live separately i live here in my home country and he lived in USA and he dont have a plan to visit me here because he just want to wait me there he is very busy with his work and no time to visit here but i understand anyways we always chat and talk online everyday.

I have a question.

Why it is the reapply spuose visa takes too long?

It is needed for him to come here and visit me in my home country?

Do i still have a chance to come back in his country since i came there for fiance visa with other guy and marry other USC?

Anyone here has the same experience in me? Can i ask your idea or comments?

Sincerely,

RJoy

Hi there, I think your case is very complicated. I suggest that...

First, you need to find out from your husband these info.

1. What type of visa he filed (since you are married with him, K-1 is not applicable), it should be CR-1, spousal visa;

2. If he filed, then he should have a copy of the receipt which you can use to track the status of your case at the USCIS website;

3. NOA1 -- if he really filed, then he should have a copy of NOA1 (notice of action)

It has been long, if your hubby really filed, he should know any updates by all means. He could also call USCIS or maybe if he is really concern, make an appointment for personal follow up at the USCIS office.

There is something very strange in your story, but at least you should find out what really the actual status so you won't be waiting for nothing. Above all, ff your husband isn't interested in coming to visit you, then you have to doubt about his sincerity.

I don't wanna judge you why you got married with another man, instead your petitioner. As you have said, you and your Fiance didn't get along well. While I understand your reason, but it is really a red flag marrying another man in just few weeks of meeting. If it didn't work out with the petitioner, you should have left the states before the 1-94 expires because that is the visa agreement. You could visit your aunt, but, still you need to come home. And, now this is it -- you are having trouble with your past action. Anyway, I still understand your cirmcumtances -- try to learn your mistakes and next time be careful of your actions.

I could really feel your situation, but, I'm grateful to God for giving me STRENGTH and GUIDANCE while I was in the USA. I too experience similar situation. I got disagreement with my Fiance because I wasn't treated well with one member of his family. I wasn't expecting it to be that way. My aim to go there was to marry him, but, things changed. We got marriage license already, but I just have to make a decision of not marrying at that moment since there were lots of domestic issues. I felt I couldn't bring out the best in me because of too much bad influences of the family -- it was really a bad start. I had fears that I might not be able to adjust my life well in the USA because of the kind of environment created for me.

While trying to enjoy my stay before my 1-94 expires, I met some new friends out there in the nice shopping malls. Actually, I had to go out because I felt homesick and as if my mind was being tortured everyday as I wasn't doing anything. I told these new friends about my K-1 visa and the things happening to me. As a good gesture, 2 or 3 men pity me and offer to help so I could stay in America. One guy, single, interested of marrying me so I could stay there. Wow! I was just listening and smiling, but, deep in my heart, do they really know what I am going through? Do they know where I coming from? or Do they know what they were saying? Hugh!!! I came there for Love -- I love my Fiance and I was heartbroken, but, it doesn't mean I would just hop from one man to another so I could leave in America. Wow! that guy was even telling me that he would hire an immigration lawyer to help us with the paperwork.

Hey! silently, I told myself, if only America was my purpose, I could just marry my Fiance despite how I was treated in the house. But, I didn't, I have myself worth.I was hoping to have a lifetime relationship. I still have my choice -- to come home and get back to my good job / life here. It's all about self respect and know what you really want in life. America is really nice, but I also value my happiness and freedom. I have some close family/relatives in the states but I never bothered to ask help from them as I believe God would bring me home safely.

Now, I'm glad I came home and didn't overstay. Me and Fiance are still talking after all what happened. He is a nice guy, but maybe it wasn't the right time for us. We have to learn our lessons well and maybe be better prepared in the future. Life goes on, at least I have my peace of mind and no regrets. LOL

Sometimes, when we are down or vulnerable, there are those people who come to our lives trying to help us, but it is best to just thank them anyway -- we still have to determine if it is the right thing do or not. Always, we need to seek God first so we find the right path.

Just sharing, hope this helps especially to those who are in similar situation. God bless everyone!

[masipag 6]

Inhistime,

Very well said,we had similarity on our experience...I came here on k-1 too things ddnt work out.I know america is a nice country to live I wasn't sure of marrying him so I go back home with peace & respect to myself.no over stayed.no bad records.I Salute you!!! I just thought that if I stay & being illegal pple around me will use it to threat me.I am so proud of myself that I never overstayed and now I am back in us with great smile & peace of mind.I hope OP will find some answers of her problem soon.

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Hi there, I think your case is very complicated. I suggest that...

First, you need to find out from your husband these info.

1. What type of visa he filed (since you are married with him, K-1 is not applicable), it should be CR-1, spousal visa;

2. If he filed, then he should have a copy of the receipt which you can use to track the status of your case at the USCIS website;

3. NOA1 -- if he really filed, then he should have a copy of NOA1 (notice of action)

It has been long, if your hubby really filed, he should know any updates by all means. He could also call USCIS or maybe if he is really concern, make an appointment for personal follow up at the USCIS office.

There is something very strange in your story, but at least you should find out what really the actual status so you won't be waiting for nothing. Above all, ff your husband isn't interested in coming to visit you, then you have to doubt about his sincerity.

I don't wanna judge you why you got married with another man, instead your petitioner. As you have said, you and your Fiance didn't get along well. While I understand your reason, but it is really a red flag marrying another man in just few weeks of meeting. If it didn't work out with the petitioner, you should have left the states before the 1-94 expires because that is the visa agreement. You could visit your aunt, but, still you need to come home. And, now this is it -- you are having trouble with your past action. Anyway, I still understand your cirmcumtances -- try to learn your mistakes and next time be careful of your actions.

I could really feel your situation, but, I'm grateful to God for giving me STRENGTH and GUIDANCE while I was in the USA. I too experience similar situation. I got disagreement with my Fiance because I wasn't treated well with one member of his family. I wasn't expecting it to be that way. My aim to go there was to marry him, but, things changed. We got marriage license already, but I just have to make a decision of not marrying at that moment since there were lots of domestic issues. I felt I couldn't bring out the best in me because of too much bad influences of the family -- it was really a bad start. I had fears that I might not be able to adjust my life well in the USA because of the kind of environment created for me.

While trying to enjoy my stay before my 1-94 expires, (1) I met some new friends out there in the nice shopping malls. Actually, I had to go out because I felt homesick and as if my mind was being tortured everyday as I wasn't doing anything. I told these new friends about my K-1 visa and the things happening to me. As a good gesture, 2 or 3 men pity me and offer to help so I could stay in America. One guy, single, interested of marrying me so I could stay there. Wow! I was just listening and smiling, but, deep in my heart, do they really know what I am going through? Do they know where I coming from? or Do they know what they were saying? Hugh!!! I came there for Love -- I love my Fiance and I was heartbroken, but, it doesn't mean I would just hop from one man to another so I could leave in America. Wow! that guy was even telling me that he would hire an immigration lawyer to help us with the paperwork.

Hey! silently, I told myself, if only America was my purpose, I could just marry my Fiance despite how I was treated in the house. But, I didn't, I have myself worth.I was hoping to have a lifetime relationship. I still have my choice -- to come home and get back to my good job / life here. It's all about self respect and know what you really want in life. America is really nice, but I also value my happiness and freedom. I have some close family/relatives in the states but I never bothered to ask help from them as I believe God would bring me home safely.

Now, I'm glad I came home and didn't overstay. Me and Fiance are still talking after all what happened. He is a nice guy, but maybe it wasn't the right time for us. We have to learn our lessons well and maybe be better prepared in the future. Life goes on, at least I have my peace of mind and no regrets. LOL

Sometimes, (2) when we are down or vulnerable, there are those people who come to our lives trying to help us, but it is best to just thank them anyway -- we still have to determine if it is the right thing do or not. Always, we need to seek God first so we find the right path.

Just sharing, hope this helps especially to those who are in similar situation. God bless everyone!

(1) Gowon disapproves but suspects InHisTime doesn't give a Rats patootie about Gowons opinion.

(2) Gowon heartily approves and tips his bowler hat to the Lady.

[InHisTime 110]

(1) Gowon disapproves but suspects InHisTime doesn't give a Rats patootie about Gowons opinion.

(2) Gowon heartily approves and tips his bowler hat to the Lady.

Hi Gowon! thanks for your comments. Btw, what is "rats patootie" ? Is it "care" ? Not really sure, so sorry...just heard about this expression ? hope you could explain. Thank you and may the Lord bless you and your fiancee.

[InHisTime 110]

Inhistime,

Very well said,we had similarity on our experience...I came here on k-1 too things ddnt work out.I know america is a nice country to live I wasn't sure of marrying him so I go back home with peace & respect to myself.no over stayed.no bad records.I Salute you!!! I just thought that if I stay & being illegal pple around me will use it to threat me.I am so proud of myself that I never overstayed and now I am back in us with great smile & peace of mind.I hope OP will find some answers of her problem soon.

Ohh "masipag", thank you for your comments. Yeah, it was one of the best decisions I made in my life, though it was painful, of course. I'm glad that you too made the right choice. Don't worry, everything happens for a reason. At least we went to see the actual situation, so no regrets. Be happy and take care of yourself always. God bless you "masipag". Yeah, let's hope that OP would find her way out and attain true peace.

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Hi Gowon! thanks for your comments. Btw, what is "rats patootie" ? Is it "care" ? Not really sure, so sorry...just heard about this expression ? hope you could explain. Thank you and may the Lord bless you and your fiancee.

Yes, it is care. I meant you may not care that I don't approve of you meeting "Guys" while you are already engaged to your Fiance.

I meant no harm and like I said I respect your refusing to listen to detractors, especially when you are in a weker position.

[InHisTime 110]

Yes, it is care. I meant you may not care that I don't approve of you meeting "Guys" while you are already engaged to your Fiance.

I meant no harm and like I said I respect your refusing to listen to detractors, especially when you are in a weker position.

Oh! thanks for explaining, Gowon I was just saying that maybe it is best to be extra careful when we are weak or depress so as not to repeat same problem over and over. As you know there are guys who take advantage of the situation. But as always there are good and bad guys anywhere, anytime. Just what happened to the OP, instead of coming back home, she ended up marrying another one in just very limited time - quite strange, now she gets another trouble as she clearly violated the immigration laws. Hope OP could work out things well with her hubby. I guess there is nothing wrong in meeting new friends or acquaintances as long we keep ourselves upright and know our limitations. At least, for me, it helped lessen my stress when I managed to share my circumtances as living in the states was really a bit nightmare for a while. Well, thank you for the new "expression" I learned from you. Thank you for trying to help other members in VJ. You really give good advices! There's one guy here in VJ too, but, I don't see him posting anymore. He was an ICON in VJ -- very brilliant and helpful. Thanks and may the Lord bless you and your fiancee ! All the best !

[Rjoyjoy 0]

Hi Vjers,

FOr those who commented positive and Negative still thankful that i got an idea from here. Anyways the two links that u given me here is not me i am different person. I got now the case number from my hubby and i track it at USCIS website and its in INITIAL REVIEW. tHAnks guys you help me alot by giving those ideas.

[TnJ 131]

Hi Vjers,

FOr those who commented positive and Negative still thankful that i got an idea from here. Anyways the two links that u given me here is not me i am different person. I got now the case number from my hubby and i track it at USCIS website and its in INITIAL REVIEW. tHAnks guys you help me alot by giving those ideas.

Good. You got receipt. Just be prepared to explain yourself when the time comes and any possible added delays in the process. Good luck.

[InHisTime 110]

Hi Vjers,

FOr those who commented positive and Negative still thankful that i got an idea from here. Anyways the two links that u given me here is not me i am different person. I got now the case number from my hubby and i track it at USCIS website and its in INITIAL REVIEW. tHAnks guys you help me alot by giving those ideas.

Wow! that's great! Hope things work out for the best. May God bless you and your hubby