Divorce and still waiting for conditional green card

[love100 0]

I have been here for 10 months, and a lot of things have happened.. It feels like we were married for years.. Now he (US citizen) said he doesn't love me and he wants me to leave.. We filed for the green card in January and i still didn't get any news..

I have done everything in my country to be with him, i worked my #### off to afford everything. I am even working here all the money i have been making with him goes for his kids (trips, presents, etc, etc)

Now we have 4000 in savings and he wants me to buy a ticket and leave..

I don't think i deserve that..I wasted one year of my life in my country doing things to be here with him, i didn't go to school in my country because i had to find 2 jobs in order to have money for paperwork, trips to embassy, which it was in another town,printing everything, etc , etc

and now i wasted another year here.. and all the money i made here..

I told him all what i have done for him before and since i got here.. and he doesn't care.. he says we fight to much and he is tired.. but he fight because i asked him not to or to do something and he doesn't do it, i ask him again and again so one day i get mad and he gets more mad at me for getting mad at me.. he twist every conversation, he is always right, and I always had to ask for forgiveness even when it wasn't my fault.. In 10 months there wasn't one time he say I am sorry ..I also time ago found out he was on dating websites when i was in my country...he said he didn't cheat that he only did it because he was lonely and he wanted some attention..

I feel so bad right, I can't stop crying and thinking how my life is ruined for a person that doesn't even deserve me..and the worst thing is that I still love him..

My question is , what should i do?? Should I just live the country even if we are not divorced (in my state you have to be separated for one year before the divorce is final)?

Can he just kick me out? we lived in a rented house (in his name, all the bills are in his name)

If he leaves the house and goes to live somewhere else, can he do that if we are still married?

how can i let immigration know what is going on.. and that this is no my fault

Is there a way to make him pay all the damage and the waste of time and money that i made

I really don't know what to do..I don't know where to go, who to talk to?

[Shiobhan 235]

If it is your husband you R legal here and have the rght work Y would U go to immigraton? marriages & relationships end no matter where U R from, dont run home with your tail between your legs or let him send U anywhere; so U dont live in misery start looking a job, if U have one start looking a room in a decent home get your room without telling him and move out when he goes to work, if he wants to talk after insist on counselling if that dont work better to move on, afer only 10 mth U wont get halfor too much in your favor..

good luck.... keep the faith

[dimitrius 0]

That is a truly unfortunate situation, I am deeply sorry about what is happening to you.

I am not a very knowledgeable person about laws, but if you are married you get certain privileges as his wife. I would HIGHLY suggest finding and consulting with a lawyer. Many lawyers don't charge for consultations. I think your husband assumes you won't fight him, but if you can't talk it over, it's lawyer time. And I'm pretty sure you might be able to sue for property and damages.

[Caryh 5,206]

If your husband pulls the I-864, Affidavit of Support, you're going to have troubles. You will be denied a green card and any EAD/AP will then be invalid. If he had abused you, you might have a claim to self adjust, but without the conditional green card, you'll have no valid way of staying in the USA. If you do get the conditional green card, you can then remove conditions after the divorce on your own.

You'd have to talk with a lawyer about any monetary settlement you can get from your husband. Most courts are not too big on awarding much of anything when a marriage was very short. And the time to get to court will likely be longer than your legal stay time if your husband pulls the I-864. I've seen people who don't want to get to court for a divorce drag things out for years. I'm sorry you find yourself in such a hard situation. I wish I could give you better news and advice, but your options are pretty limited without the green card and he can prevent you from getting one easily at this point by removing his sponsorship.

I hope the two of you can find a way to resolve your differences and save your marriage.