Grass not always greener

[~happyndinlove~ 540]

She is planning an escape it sounds, she is making friends and trying to get a licence to drive off and maybe even abandon her kids! How long has she been in the usa? If not long, then send her back home

Sounds like it might be immigration fraud, maybe she came to the usa with other plans and just used you to get here

You win a

or.. .maybe you are right...maybe.... they have been together for 16 years,,married 10 years ago...had 2 children ..waited and waited some more.....all so she could (fraudulently) get to America ,obtain a green card and abandon her kids....Brilliant!!!

1 is not enough...you win 2... :bonk:

P.S. Makes me laugh when people post "send" her home. All Hail the Mighty American and his Amazing SENDING powers.

Awwww...you get 3... :bonk: ...you're a winner!

Edited August 11, 2011 by ~happyndinlove~

[giamimigio 21]

You win a

or.. .maybe you are right...maybe.... they have been together for 16 years,,married 10 years ago...had 2 children ..waited and waited some more.....all so she could (fraudulently) get to America ,obtain a green card and abandon her kids....Brilliant!!!

1 is not enough...you win 2... :bonk:

P.S. Makes me laugh when people post "send" her home. All Hail the Mighty American and his Amazing SENDING powers.

Awwww...you get 3... :bonk: ...you're a winner!

i'm gonna give that one the Diabolical Plan of the Decade award. :rofl:

[gretchen_darren 67]

The big question is why is she saying this????

gusto nya ako layasan kse asar sya sa akin

Like He I abandon he pissed she (me) and mine.

Can also be loosely translated, I wanted him to run away from me pissed.

Something is wrong. The key is what and why. What have you done wrong to her. Why does she feel so upset, and what have you done to her. Or is this someone else??? the key reference here is he.

Best of luck to you. I hope things improve.....

[DavenRoxy 1,073]

You win a

or.. .maybe you are right...maybe....Brilliant!!!

1 is not enough...you win 2... :bonk:

you're a winner!

your grumpy old-man-ness is showing again...

[~happyndinlove~ 540]

your grumpy old-man-ness is showing again...

1. You are calling me old? I'm 46 and still full of vigor and vinegar. How old are you?

2. I used lot's of laughing smiley's. I think you're the grumpy one.

[DavenRoxy 1,073]

It's the tone, not the emoticons, and your meaning, of course.

As for me? I am MUCH younger than ye...

[TravellingNomad 12]

ok everyone i got an update. i finally talked to her yesterday afternoon. and no...it wasn't a mexican stand off type confrontation. finally got an answer and it was one of those defining moments for me. i asked her yesterday afternoon why she was so unhappy when im around and seems like she's not into the marriage anymore. she told me that when she got here, it was because she really missed her family back home. i really do understand because this is the first time she's been this far away from them since she was born. then she said she started to get used to being here and trying her best to get acclimated with the way of life here. but one thing she hated was that i smoke. so she said that she thought if she made such a big change in life (immigrating to a new country for me), that the least i can do was make a small change myself. she's been telling me for a very long time to quit but haven't. so beginning of July she requested i stop and i did, cold turkey. about a week after i quit, i asked her why she was acting the way she was not talking to me . she said something and i guess i got irritated and told her "hopefully you work soon so that we don't see each other as much anymore". i told her i said it as a joke because of how she was not talking to me and that i felt she didn't want to be around me. i could've sworn i wasn't irritated but she told me that it sounded like i was snapping at her. then she told me that ever since i quit cold turkey, i've been snapping at her and she didn't know why. right when she said that, we looked at each other and i swear both of us saw the lightbulb come on. she then asked me if it could be because i was quitting smoking at that time. she said she only started noticing me having a bad attitude when i stopped smoking.

i feel sooo terrible at how i've been acting towards her. i should've expected a change in me when i decided to quit cold turkey and gave her a heads-up, but i didn't think i would be that bad. so to somewhat make up for it, i gave her a big wet kiss right smack on the lips and gave her a really big and tight hug! she told me that i was very cranky and snappy the first couple of weeks of me quitting and that im actually back to my normal self again. but even though i wasn't cranky and snappy anymore, she told me she just got hurt at what i said and every time she saw me, it comes back and gets her really down. she said she thought i didn't want to be with her anymore when i said that that's why she started mentioning divorce in a semi-joking way because she wanted to see where she stood with me. i know it doesn't make up for me being such a jerk, but i told her that everytime i think about her, she still makes my heart skip a beat like the very first time i saw her when we were kids. i also said to her that i still get excited and look forward to seeing her when she's out of my sight. now to surprise her by getting a dozen tulips (her favorite flower) delivered to her.

i am glad to say we were able to talk. im especially glad that she was able to get her sama ng loob off her chest. thanks everyone for listening (or reading for that matter) and giving advise.

[jim 66 6]

ok everyone i got an update. i finally talked to her yesterday afternoon. and no...it wasn't a mexican stand off type confrontation. finally got an answer and it was one of those defining moments for me. i asked her yesterday afternoon why she was so unhappy when im around and seems like she's not into the marriage anymore. she told me that when she got here, it was because she really missed her family back home. i really do understand because this is the first time she's been this far away from them since she was born. then she said she started to get used to being here and trying her best to get acclimated with the way of life here. but one thing she hated was that i smoke. so she said that she thought if she made such a big change in life (immigrating to a new country for me), that the least i can do was make a small change myself. she's been telling me for a very long time to quit but haven't. so beginning of July she requested i stop and i did, cold turkey. about a week after i quit, i asked her why she was acting the way she was not talking to me . she said something and i guess i got irritated and told her "hopefully you work soon so that we don't see each other as much anymore". i told her i said it as a joke because of how she was not talking to me and that i felt she didn't want to be around me. i could've sworn i wasn't irritated but she told me that it sounded like i was snapping at her. then she told me that ever since i quit cold turkey, i've been snapping at her and she didn't know why. right when she said that, we looked at each other and i swear both of us saw the lightbulb come on. she then asked me if it could be because i was quitting smoking at that time. she said she only started noticing me having a bad attitude when i stopped smoking.

i feel sooo terrible at how i've been acting towards her. i should've expected a change in me when i decided to quit cold turkey and gave her a heads-up, but i didn't think i would be that bad. so to somewhat make up for it, i gave her a big wet kiss right smack on the lips and gave her a really big and tight hug! she told me that i was very cranky and snappy the first couple of weeks of me quitting and that im actually back to my normal self again. but even though i wasn't cranky and snappy anymore, she told me she just got hurt at what i said and every time she saw me, it comes back and gets her really down. she said she thought i didn't want to be with her anymore when i said that that's why she started mentioning divorce in a semi-joking way because she wanted to see where she stood with me. i know it doesn't make up for me being such a jerk, but i told her that everytime i think about her, she still makes my heart skip a beat like the very first time i saw her when we were kids. i also said to her that i still get excited and look forward to seeing her when she's out of my sight. now to surprise her by getting a dozen tulips (her favorite flower) delivered to her.

i am glad to say we were able to talk. im especially glad that she was able to get her sama ng loob off her chest. thanks everyone for listening (or reading for that matter) and giving advise.

[giamimigio 21]

ok everyone i got an update. i finally talked to her yesterday afternoon. and no...it wasn't a mexican stand off type confrontation. finally got an answer and it was one of those defining moments for me. i asked her yesterday afternoon why she was so unhappy when im around and seems like she's not into the marriage anymore. she told me that when she got here, it was because she really missed her family back home. i really do understand because this is the first time she's been this far away from them since she was born. then she said she started to get used to being here and trying her best to get acclimated with the way of life here. but one thing she hated was that i smoke. so she said that she thought if she made such a big change in life (immigrating to a new country for me), that the least i can do was make a small change myself. she's been telling me for a very long time to quit but haven't. so beginning of July she requested i stop and i did, cold turkey. about a week after i quit, i asked her why she was acting the way she was not talking to me . she said something and i guess i got irritated and told her "hopefully you work soon so that we don't see each other as much anymore". i told her i said it as a joke because of how she was not talking to me and that i felt she didn't want to be around me. i could've sworn i wasn't irritated but she told me that it sounded like i was snapping at her. then she told me that ever since i quit cold turkey, i've been snapping at her and she didn't know why. right when she said that, we looked at each other and i swear both of us saw the lightbulb come on. she then asked me if it could be because i was quitting smoking at that time. she said she only started noticing me having a bad attitude when i stopped smoking.

i feel sooo terrible at how i've been acting towards her. i should've expected a change in me when i decided to quit cold turkey and gave her a heads-up, but i didn't think i would be that bad. so to somewhat make up for it, i gave her a big wet kiss right smack on the lips and gave her a really big and tight hug! she told me that i was very cranky and snappy the first couple of weeks of me quitting and that im actually back to my normal self again. but even though i wasn't cranky and snappy anymore, she told me she just got hurt at what i said and every time she saw me, it comes back and gets her really down. she said she thought i didn't want to be with her anymore when i said that that's why she started mentioning divorce in a semi-joking way because she wanted to see where she stood with me. i know it doesn't make up for me being such a jerk, but i told her that everytime i think about her, she still makes my heart skip a beat like the very first time i saw her when we were kids. i also said to her that i still get excited and look forward to seeing her when she's out of my sight. now to surprise her by getting a dozen tulips (her favorite flower) delivered to her.

i am glad to say we were able to talk. im especially glad that she was able to get her sama ng loob off her chest. thanks everyone for listening (or reading for that matter) and giving advise.

[~happyndinlove~ 540]

It's the tone, not the emoticons, and your meaning, of course.

As for me? I am MUCH younger than ye...

You must possess super powers if you can discern my "tone" from a written post. Furthermore, You choose to ignore smiley's when defining your interpretation of another's writing.

Since you claim to be "MUCH" younger than I...perhaps you will heed some advice from your elder, laddie...,

1. No1 expects you to be a "champion" for the meek and timid and I doubt any1 (excluding urself. of course) perceive you to be.

2. Don't bait another if you plan to run to a mod when you take a return hit. It makes for a poor representation of your character. It's a "small" minded thing to do. Makes you seem a

3. Don't fool yourself into thinking your presumptive advice has any value to me. Annoying and arrogant?...yes...meaningful? No.

P.S. You mind your biz and I will mind mine otherwise, we are destined to repeat this dance.

Edited August 11, 2011 by ~happyndinlove~

[~happyndinlove~ 540]

i finally talked to her yesterday afternoon.

i feel sooo terrible at how i've been acting towards her. i should've expected a change in me when i decided to quit cold turkey and gave her a heads-up, but i didn't think i would be that bad. so to somewhat make up for it, i gave her a big wet kiss right smack on the lips and gave her a really big and tight hug! she told me that i was very cranky and snappy the first couple of weeks of me quitting and that im actually back to my normal self again. but even though i wasn't cranky and snappy anymore, she told me she just got hurt at what i said and every time she saw me, it comes back and gets her really down. she said she thought i didn't want to be with her anymore when i said that that's why she started mentioning divorce in a semi-joking way because she wanted to see where she stood with me. i know it doesn't make up for me being such a jerk, but i told her that everytime i think about her, she still makes my heart skip a beat like the very first time i saw her when we were kids. i also said to her that i still get excited and look forward to seeing her when she's out of my sight. now to surprise her by getting a dozen tulips (her favorite flower) delivered to her.

i am glad to say we were able to talk. im especially glad that she was able to get her sama ng loob off her chest. thanks everyone for listening (or reading for that matter) and giving advise.

We're happy to see that you two are OK now.

Best wishes...

[~happyndinlove~ 540]

The big question is why is she saying this????

gusto nya ako layasan kse asar sya sa akin

Like He I abandon he pissed she (me) and mine.

Can also be loosely translated, I wanted him to run away from me pissed.

Something is wrong. The key is what and why. What have you done wrong to her. Why does she feel so upset, and what have you done to her. Or is this someone else??? the key reference here is he.

Best of luck to you. I hope things improve.....

Edited August 11, 2011 by ~happyndinlove~

[Messybrownhair 251]

The big question is why is she saying this????

gusto nya ako layasan kse asar sya sa akin

Like He I abandon he pissed she (me) and mine.

Can also be loosely translated, I wanted him to run away from me pissed.

Something is wrong. The key is what and why. What have you done wrong to her. Why does she feel so upset, and what have you done to her. Or is this someone else??? the key reference here is he.

Best of luck to you. I hope things improve.....

How did you come up with this???

It means "she wants to leave me coz she's annoyed or pissed"

I've studied Chinese for years and lived there fir 2 years but would never head to the Chinese forum and start translating in front of the locals don't get me wrong, I love that you are trying and learning but your post makes you sound like you know it all about the language and google translate can only do so much. That is very very very loosely translated

That being said, to the OP, im glad things are better! And goodluck to you too Darren, I meant no offense!

[DavenRoxy 1,073]

ok everyone i got an update. i finally talked to her yesterday afternoon.

And therein lies the answer to MANY of marital issues, big or small... talking AND listening. It's not always easy to sit back, open up, and create an atmosphere that is conducive to the other person actually communicating... but it often works. Glad you guys were able to talk about it and begin to understand each other. And hopefully, you will be able to do it sooner next time.

Oh and congrats at giving up the smokes. I know it's hard, and truly a testament as to how much you care about her opinion and well being, once she made you aware it was an issue. Hope she realizes the sacrifice you made for her happiness and health!!

[~happyndinlove~ 540]

How did you come up with this???

It means "she wants to leave me coz she's annoyed or pissed"

I've studied Chinese for years and lived there fir 2 years but would never head to the Chinese forum and start translating in front of the locals don't get me wrong, I love that you are trying and learning but your post makes you sound like you know it all about the language and google translate can only do so much. That is very very very loosely translated

That being said, to the OP, im glad things are better! And goodluck to you too Darren, I meant no offense!

His above translation gave me a terrible headache.