Can I be banned from the Philippines?

[fox fox 5]

my wife and i are having problems with each other and i've been thinking about divorcing her. we were never married in the philippines and she hasn't reported or submitted any sort of documents to the philippines stating that were married in the US. i do like filipina women overall in general, but feel like i married the wrong one, feeling like i cannot be happy for life with this woman. i have never been abusive towards her.

if i was to divorce her, she claims that she could put a ban on me from entering the philippines. is this true? i also feel like i should have unrestricted travel in that country since i have not commited any crime and have not had any bad relationships like this one.

can she put a ban on me from entering the philippines or be able to somehow keep another filipina woman from leaving the country to be my wife?

Edited November 15, 2010 by Charmaine+James

[TravellingNomad 12]

how well connected is she in the Philippines? i think she's just putting the scare tactics on you. sorry to hear you are going through a hard time right now.

[Markieboy 104]

She would need to be pretty well-connected to ban you from the Philippines. Yeah, I think she is just scaring you.

Good luck with your situation.

[fox fox 5]

how well connected is she in the Philippines? i think she's just putting the scare tactics on you. sorry to hear you are going through a hard time right now.

well as far as connections go...her mom works for some government agency, i think equivalent to fbi/cia type agency. someone on yahoo answers told me that she would need a large sum of money. that person didn't mention any papers that needed to be submitted. sounds like to me that it's basically a bribe to whomever handles incoming foreign travels. as far as hard times, it seems that she throws her arguements towards me on a weekly basis. i've been keeping track and it's been weekly. different topics every week. i hate to rant on this website, but really i have no other "non-biased" references to turn towards. even my own mother, who is filipina, is biased towards her.

[Ms.M 4]

She would need to be pretty well-connected to ban you from the Philippines. Yeah, I think she is just scaring you.

Good luck with your situation.

yeah i agree with that.. she just scaring you... i dont think you will bann here, as long as you never do any crime here... you just divorce her, thats it...

[TravellingNomad 12]

i wouldn't worry about it. even if her mom works for the NBI and give a bribe, like you said...it has to be a large sum of money. and unless she's a high level NBI agent...it's all just scare tactics. she's probably just a low/mid-level clerk in the agency.

don't let this brat boss you around.

[rheanick 42]

my wife and i are having problems with each other and i've been thinking about divorcing her. we were never married in the philippines and she hasn't reported or submitted any sort of documents to the philippines stating that were married in the US. i do like filipina women overall in general, but feel like i married the wrong one, feeling like i cannot be happy for life with this woman. i have never been abusive towards her.

if i was to divorce her, she claims that she could put a ban on me from entering the philippines. is this true? i also feel like i should have unrestricted travel in that country since i have not commited any crime and have not had any bad relationships like this one.

can she put a ban on me from entering the philippines or be able to somehow keep another filipina woman from leaving the country to be my wife?

She is just scaring you. Just divorce her.

If you fell in love with another filipina and you dont want to go to the philippines, just meet her in another country to abide with the requirements of meeting in person. Filipinos are not required to get any visa in visiting other southeast asian countries.

Edited November 15, 2010 by rheanick

[NVC FAN :( 18]

With everything being said, i know she could not keep you from traveling to the philippines. but as far as petitioning another woman from the philippines , that could be done very easy. even if her mom did not work for the nbi, all she would need to do is file a phony claim with the embassy saying that you abused or pimped her out. then if you ever tryed to file another petition for another woman, you would be flagged. that is the part i would be worried about if you intend to look for another wife in philippines.

good luck

[rheanick 42]

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With everything being said, i know she could not keep you from traveling to the philippines. but as far as petitioning another woman from the philippines , that could be done very easy. even if her mom did not work for the nbi, all she would need to do is file a phony claim with the embassy saying that you abused or pimped her out. then if you ever tryed to file another petition for another woman, you would be flagged. that is the part i would be worried about if you intend to look for another wife in philippines.

good luck

This would be interesting to know if the mother would be able to implement this bann. The training in CFO question city shows an american guy who petitioned several women and one of the women even became his sex slave. The issue is quite well known, unfortunately, he was never banned and was even able to petition other filipinas. He had series of filipina wives. Well, he did it one at a time.

[calico1 1]

It looks like you have been married just a short time James, and you and your wife look to be a younger couple. I don't think there is a married phil-am couple here that hasn't had a couple heated disagreements early on in their marriage, I know I have, and I will be celebrating my 2nd wedding anniversary in just a couple days. I am sure you have figured out by now that philippine culture is pretty different from ours in the U.S. and sometimes a guy has to bend alot to keep the peace...and that in itself can be way frustrating. As you also know, the philippines has many micro cultures within one culture...manilla folk are a little different from davao folk and so on. Everyone who has done K1, CR1, or the like has worked real hard to get through immigration so maybe you can salvage your marriage. It probably is true that no two filipina's are the same...but it has been my personal experience that they are alot alike in many ways. Are you sure you would go filipina again?

As far as your wife's threats to ban you..she either loves you alot and won't give in, or she doesn't so I hope it all works out for you. My wife has 2 sisters who work with local city/government in Cagayan de Oro, and they seem to cut alot of corners if they want something done, and for the right amount of money I think they can make anything happen. If your wife lived close to manilla or the embassy there, she might be inclined to cause trouble if she really wants to spite you, but probably she is just blowing off steam. Best luck for you.

[jrmejia 31]

Good topic! keep those answers coming.

[SuperDuper! 230]

i wouldn't worry about it. even if her mom works for the NBI and give a bribe, like you said...it has to be a large sum of money. and unless she's a high level NBI agent...it's all just scare tactics. she's probably just a low/mid-level clerk in the agency.

don't let this brat boss you around.

:thumbs:

[fox fox 5]

I highly doubt that she could ban me from returning. As far as being with another Filipina, my answer is yes. No two are alike, though I know that they share a similarity. That similarity is what I like. Those married to Filipinas understand this. I was exposed to this as my dad married my filipina mother and they're still together. It's her attitude in reply towards me, her paranoia that i'm always cheating on her, and acusations that i've got the hots for any beautiful female that passes by us. To this day I truly believe that she has never trusted me. She's always thinking that i'm chatting to other females online that she can't even stand it if the door to the computer room is closed.

She currently unemployed. I wake at 5, drive 40 minutes to start work at 7 and am typically done with work at 3pm, sometimes later. 95% of the time i'm home by 330-340pm. She claims that she treats me like a king and that I don't appreciate all that she does. Now....when I leave for work she's in bed most of the time and if she is awake, she goes back to sleep. I'll call her when I'm taking my lunch break or when i've got time to talk around lunch time. Sometimes she claims that she just woke up or that I woke her up. Hello???? It's 1130am - 1230pm when i normally contact her. she's been sleeping all that time yet going to sleep around 10-11pm the night before. there might, and i say might be dishes to clean because of putting them off from the night before....if and if there was any dinner cooked, most of the time i will have to cook, because she never really cooks. she wants me to cook, but if she does it's always fried fish, rice, etc. basically i'm the one who's always cooking. she claims that she's always cleaning, yet really she's not. the floor looks like the burger king kitchen, and the clothes look like a pile that need to be featured in the oxyclean commercials. basically she's lazy, but yet she "treats me like a king".

My house was cleaner without her and I lived alone. I do cook, I do fold laundry, I do the yard work, I perform maintenance on the vehicles and more than just oil changes, I do the home repairs, and bring home the bacon, yet I'm the one who doesn't do anything to help her out.

Honestly and i'm being really truthful here. I was content with life before i met her, content. Happiness is a long ways away from being content with life and i'm nowhere near it. infact i'm almost misserable. I had a much more ballanced life and didn't have problems with stress. I get 100 times more stress from her than being at work. If i ever have morning or afternoon/evening overtime i'm sooo happy. Before she was in the picture, I wanted the overtime for extra money, but now I can add that it's more time away from her.

as far as how i treat her. i don't talk down to her, i tell it to her so she understands what i'm saying, but truly the "in one ear, out the other" typically applies with her. I don't hit her, and she's no sex slave to me at all. honestly, i don't even have a real desire to sleep with her. she's not some slimmed down gal and her attitude makes her mentally fatter to me, which i'm not attracted to. sorry I'm really not into fat gals.

we stopped by my parent's house yesterday to drop off some business money i owed my mom. the whole story between us just came up and the next thing i know is that i've got two weeping filipinas shouting at me as if everything is my fault. for you guys out there with screaming filipina wives, try two filipinas screaming at ya. tust me at this, you'd rather have a 1 kilohertz tone at a 150 decibels blaring in your ears than these two women yelling at you.

I'm so lost with all this now and I don't know what to do, except research what I need to do for a divorce. There's really no chance for this to work out and really, I don't even want to live life with her this way. I know I can be back to being content with life again without her and just move on. There's really no need for this to keep getting uglier. We both won't change to accomodate the other, yet i'm not the one who needs changing, except for who's in or not in my life.

Edited November 16, 2010 by Charmaine+James

[~happyndinlove~ 540]

It's her attitude in reply towards me, her paranoia that i'm always cheating on her, and acusations that i've got the hots for any beautiful female that passes by us.

It's my opinion your wife is jealous...A) Love with you indicator...B) Your eye shopping...C) Dude...pssst...there aren't any other beautiful women anymore. You married the only beautiful woman on the planet.....get it?

She's always thinking that i'm chatting to other females online that she can't even stand it if the door to the computer room is closed.

Why in the world would you shut the door? Your trying to increase your wife's sense of jealousy?

because she never really cooks.

Did you ask her if she knew how to cook before you got married?

she wants me to cook, but if she does it's always fried fish, rice, etc. basically i'm the one who's always cooking.

Have you considered that she digs your cooking? Have you tried sharing your recipes and cooking together?

My house was cleaner without her and I lived alone. I do cook, I do fold laundry, I do the yard work, I perform maintenance on the vehicles and more than just oil changes, I do the home repairs, and bring home the bacon, yet I'm the one who doesn't do anything to help her out.

OK OK...stop bragging....put this in perspective....all that your doing...well...it's called being an adult.

How bout you guys do the housework together? Make it a bonding experience and perhaps she can learn how to meet your obsessive compulsive needs? That's a little on the joke side but...c'mon...work together until she is confident in her own abilities.

I had a much more ballanced life and didn't have problems with stress. I get 100 times more stress from her than being at work. but now I can add that it's more time away from her.

Haven't you heard? Marriage is work..forever! Join the club.

I don't hit her, and she's no sex slave to me at all.

Are you expecting some kind of trophy or prize for this? Not treating her as a sex slave and resisting the urge to smack her makes you feel good about yourself? That's your quality standard?

she's not some slimmed down gal and her attitude makes her mentally fatter to me, which i'm not attracted to. sorry I'm really not into fat gals.

That's a bit sexist? hmmmmm? If you don't like her figure...then why did you marry her? Did you make a deal? I won't treat you like my sex slave and I won't smack you ..but...GOD DAMNIT!! GO ON A DIET!

two weeping filipinas shouting at me as if everything is my fault.

Hey! Your mom is yelling at you? lol Well...then stop doing whatever your doing! If mom is pissed at you too...hmmmm...I'm thinking...yep...your deserving of an #### chew...sorry...but your own mom? Stop it!

I'm so lost with all this now and I don't know what to do, We both won't change to accomodate the other, yet i'm not the one who needs changing,

Welcome to manhood....time to be a man...accept your challenge and build your marriage!

P.S. LOL...Dude..your making me laugh.....remember your vows? Better or for worse...did you mean it? She's not cheating on you or doing drugs or stealing money or or or or .....she's just not meeting your walmart satisfaction guaranteed or your money back expectations......You made the commitment...man up and make it work...what a bunch of silly reasons to throw away a marriage and a woman that loves you!

Edited November 16, 2010 by ~happyndinlove~

[one...two...tree 2,762]

as far as how i treat her. i don't talk down to her, i tell it to her so she understands what i'm saying, but truly the "in one ear, out the other" typically applies with her. I don't hit her, and she's no sex slave to me at all. honestly, i don't even have a real desire to sleep with her. she's not some slimmed down gal and her attitude makes her mentally fatter to me, which i'm not attracted to. sorry I'm really not into fat gals.

There right there is your problem.