K-1 Potential Problems

[SirLancelot 1]

Nope. A marriage contract is different from other contractual agreements. The fundamental elements are offer and acceptance, as long as both parties understand there was a clearly intended offer of marriage. A letter of intent constitutes an offer and promise of marriage, but a formal contract isn't required. A marriage contract could be as simple as a public proposal followed by acceptance of the proposal.

Suggest you do a google search of "Breach of Marriage Promise". The laws that cover it are separate from contract law.

Contract law and family law (marriage) are both state issues and as such will vary from state to state. A majority of states have abolished the right to raise an action for breach of marriage promise.

http://www.answers.com/topic/breach-of-marriage-promise

[soulprovider915 4]

I'm very happy to read this, si man. Were all of you on the phone simultaneously? If so, good. For safety (because the other couple's agreement to bury the hatchet is "new" to them, and not yet natural), perhaps you & your wife could conduct other such telephonic caucuses on a regular basis, or have the other couple call in (individually or together) to express their feelings to you. It's wise that they practice their newfound ways of interrelating until those methods become more permanent, si man.

For the benefit of other participants in this thread, here's a bit on "understanding the Ecuadorian culture." Mrs. T-B. & I are close friends with another USC guy/Ecuatoriana K-1 immigrant couple (not VJ members). The instant when the Ecuatoriana hit the threshold of the guy's house, she made a beeline for his closet and began throwing out all of his shirts that she considered to be ugly, worn, or otherwise unacceptable to her. She also ordered him to remove his mooseheads & antlered deerheads from the walls of his den, and that having his friends over socially was no longer allowed. She prohibited him from going out in public (with her or alone) unless he met her standards for dress & appearance. She refused to learn to drive and ordered him to take her wherever she wanted to go. This is an example of behavior from an aggressive Ecuatoriana.

Obviously, the guy was stressed by all this -- sudden change that he was expected to accept without discussion. Obviously, too, it's awkward (often an understatement) to move into someone's house that's "his" and not "yours + his." In such circumstances, there are ways of achieving a mutual living situation wherein both feel a part of it, and there are ways that aren't so good.

Mrs. T-B. handled things far differently, mostly through persuasion and patience. Had she handled things as the Ecuatoriana above did, her shapely hindquarters would have been shipped one-way back to Ecuador long ago. As it stands now, I ended up weeding out my UGSs (Ugly Gringo Shirts) myself, sometimes in bunches or one at a time, and Mrs. T-B.'s goals have been achieved, sigh man. (The couple above is still together, si man.)

As the OP alludes, perhaps some understandings were reached, si man.

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Wow that was some story. It's definitely not that bad with them. My EC wife was an angel compared to the woman in that story. All of us spoke via speakerphones. The good news is that they only live about 3 1/2 hours from us and we are going up there to visit them for the weekend. I spoke to them again this afternoon and it's they're actually improving.

[TBoneTX 43,422]

Wow that was some story. It's definitely not that bad with them. My EC wife was an angel compared to the woman in that story. All of us spoke via speakerphones. The good news is that they only live about 3 1/2 hours from us and we are going up there to visit them for the weekend. I spoke to them again this afternoon and it's they're actually improving.

Excellent on all counts, si man! Keep us apprised, please.