A qusestion to men who would pay for sex...

[Peikko 1,575]

i wouldn't marry one. depending on the country, many providers are jaded in one way or another.

i do know a few guys who have married providers and i know a boat load of guys that have tried to "rescue" a provider. many clients feel sorry for providers and want to take them in, but a lot of providers are independent souls so they eventually reject the client in favor of running their own lives.

some guys, although they attempt a relationship with a provider, because of their past profession, they can't fully trust so it usually isn't a win/win in the end.

Jaded?

Also, why would an 'independent soul choose to marry because they were pitied by a client?

Why can't they be 'trusted'? Surely, if sex is just sex, then it is always 'just sex' whether one is in or out of a relationship?

Sorry, I don't mean to pick on you - feel free not to answer anything you don't feel like answering, but you are the only person being open and honest enough to answer the question from the perspective of a former client.

[Amby 490]

I like sex. Does that make me a prostitute?

[Peikko 1,575]

honestly, i don't know what you want me to say. i have no idea.

i said i did it frequently once upon a time and i don't feel it was wrong so how am I to justify or rationalize when i don't feel i did anything wrong?

that is what i meant, lying to their partner is wrong.

But it's ok if one partner chooses to visit a prostitute, or both, if they are open and honest about it?

[Amby 490]

What if you're having sex with a guy and he asks for buttsecks in return for you giving him buttsecks with a strap on? Is that prostitution?

[DEDixon 39]

hmmm...is it prostitution if you have sex and the guy leaves a tip?

i don't think that is prostitution, that is an insult.

[Peikko 1,575]

I like sex. Does that make me a prostitute?

No, don't be silly. Most people enjoy sex - although there are some people that do not and who are probably asexual from what I can gather. Sex drives do seem to differ from person to person and there is no absolutes in what constitutes a 'healthy' sex drive as far as I know. However, people do make choices about what they value about sexuality and relationships and normally these values are interrelated.

Edited July 24, 2010 by Madame Cleo

[Amby 490]

i don't think that is prostitution, that is an insult.

oh good. that never happened to me before

[Peikko 1,575]

What if you're having sex with a guy and he asks for buttsecks in return for you giving him buttsecks with a strap on? Is that prostitution?

No, that's kinky sex

[evli1966 88]

Jaded?

Also, why would an 'independent soul choose to marry because they were pitied by a client?

Why can't they be 'trusted'? Surely, if sex is just sex, then it is always 'just sex' whether one is in or out of a relationship?

Sorry, I don't mean to pick on you - feel free not to answer anything you don't feel like answering, but you are the only person being open and honest enough to answer the question from the perspective of a former client.

I agree

Not all bargirls are Jaded and most of them are there especially in the Phils to help support family.

with that said I imagine it is difficult to start and trust a relationship with someone that would be currently working as a bargirl. She would have trust issues with the her intended and he would most likely have trust issues with her especially if she was still working. In a start of a relationship she would still need to support her family and the BF wouldn't be supporting her I would hope at least intiially.

I would be very disappointed in my 3 daughters if they turned to prostituion but as a father i would have to support their decision as much as it would hurt me. I would also be disappointed in them partaking in the promiscuous behavior a lot of college girls tend to do.

[Trumplestiltskin 5,791]

honestly, i don't know what you want me to say. i have no idea.

i said i did it frequently once upon a time and i don't feel it was wrong so how am I to justify or rationalize when i don't feel i did anything wrong?

I'm curious about why you don't think it is wrong, and why you don't seem to want to address that - except to imply legality is the only consideration. Or that the moral/ethical side of things has more to do with the provider than with you.

[Peikko 1,575]

oh good. that never happened to me before

I think I would agree, leaving a tip does strike me as being insulting.

[DEDixon 39]

But it's ok if one partner chooses to visit a prostitute, or both, if they are open and honest about it?

i think so. i know a couple (she is bi) in San Diego that go to Costa Rica a few times a year. they do things together with providers and they do things separate.

i also know of a WOMAN (gay) that went to Costa Rica to have fun. honestly!!

[Amby 490]

No, that's kinky sex

oh good. I'm safe on that one too then

[Gary and Alla 3,696]

What does it matter if the client is in a relationship or not? I don't get the distinction - unless they are lying to their partner of course, lying isn't a great plan in a relationship.

I guess it wouldn't matter to the client or to the provider. It doesn't matter to me and it shouldn't matter to the government.

I wouldn't do it myself, but that is just me. I do not project my choices onto others.

Edited July 24, 2010 by Gary and Alla

[Amby 490]

Is it prostitution if you continue sleeping with a guy because the sex is good and he lets you use his vacation home whenever you want?