Can Someone Cheer Me Up

[Mr.Visa 0]

Hello,

I am in the state of regretting something that I know for the rest of my life I will regret it. Today, Manila time (5/27) they will burry my Father-In-Law, he passed away this past saturday. I really wanted to go home to the Philippines to give my support to my wife and to my in-laws, but I did not. I thought their plan was to burry my father-in-law around saturday or sunday, but they decided to do it on thursday. My plan is to leave LAX on 5/26. When I spoke to my wife this past sunday, she mentioned to me that funeral will be thursday. I was like, Im not gonna make it. At work, I requested leave, but have not heard right away. Me and my wife spoke to each other monday night, because she'd rather have me to be with her when she comes here in U.S., so we decided not for me to go home, secondly I was in a budget crunch. If money wasnt just a factor, I should have made it. My mother in law will go back abroad to work sometime around july and some of my wife's sibling works abroad will return after a week or two, after all this things, she will be left with 2 sibling in their house, 1 of them staying to their house (and has a night shift job) and the other 1 (sister) will stay once in a while, because she wants to stay with her in-laws. I feel sorry to my wife that she will be left again, and I dont want that to happen. So around July during her interview, I told her that I will be there for her, until everything is good and we will both go here in U.S. because I really dont want her to be alone in their house. The only thing I really regret is not being there right now, during the saddest time of her life. I know she needed my support, I know I can borrow money from friends, and that is my biggest regret and mistake of not pursuing going home and not being there. I'd asked forgiveness to my father-in-law and sorry for not seeing him, I really regret it. Sorry long post.

[Fudpukker 18]

There is nothing to Regret, you did what you can, you father in law is already dead, now there would be a difference if he was in his bed dying and desiring to see you but that is not the case.

[Loolie 56]

It would be better if you will pray for the soul of your father-in-law. If you dont have money to go there then dont force yourself. I know it sucks if you cant be with your wife in her saddest moments but theres nothing to worry about because shes still in the Philippines...she has friends, relatives and other families that will be there for her. Unlike here in USA, some immigrants are alone...no friends or no relatives...being alone here in the saddest times of your life totally sucks.