Montreal November Interviews

[Rhiannercakes 14]

Well, I know they're closed November 26th. That's US Thanksgiving.

And uh, that's all I know

[mast3r12 0]

Well, I know they're closed November 26th. That's US Thanksgiving.

And uh, that's all I know

Yup yup, but I was thinking more interms of the BIG TWO WEEK (possibly more) break they get haha.. oh man. I guess things get backlogged from here on till mid January or so.

[darkchilde794 5]

what's the winter holiday schedule like? how many days should we expect it to delay things by.. sigh this sucks!

They are prolly close for Thanksgiving and Black Friday (hahahahahahaha)

I read from earlier posts (I dont know where they are now, I should really bookmark these posts!) that Montreal was backlogged over the holidays. Most didnt get interviews until February Not sure if that was last December or the year before, but apparently Montreal doesnt do much during the holidays!

I must say I think it goes for every government body though :/

THIS IS WHY we all still need to write to Montreal about its sucky backlog!!!!

[CanAmerican 0]

I would just like to VENT!

This whole process has been emotionally taxing. I don't know how the rest of you feel, but having my life on hold and not knowing what's going to happen is plain stressful.

Now that I have a date...Im just worried about everything going well on judgement day. It's one of those things you've been waiting for months and months and it comes down to that one day...yikes!

Anyways, I just want this waiting period to be over.

How have some of you coped with all this?

[Sam and Ben 2]

I would just like to VENT!

This whole process has been emotionally taxing. I don't know how the rest of you feel, but having my life on hold and not knowing what's going to happen is plain stressful.

Now that I have a date...Im just worried about everything going well on judgement day. It's one of those things you've been waiting for months and months and it comes down to that one day...yikes!

Anyways, I just want this waiting period to be over.

How have some of you coped with all this?

I think that pretty much pinpoints how most of us are feeling.

How have I coped? Keeping busy. Constantly going over and over everything for the interview and everything that follows.

And knowing how hard this whole thing - and my leaving - is on my immediately family has kept me from losing my head. I don't wish to make it any harder on any of them by showing what a wreck I am inside, heh.

I think an added plus, for me at least, is knowing that I'm not leaving asap after the visa. I've got a full month to get all of my other ####### in order, so that's helping me take a breath with it all.

Venting helps too.

[lgg 2]

OH my god...

I freaking HEAR YOU!!!! My apartment is half packed, had a garage sale to sell all my ####### and have NO Idea when i'll be moving to finalize this process. It is the SUCK...

Oh... looks like i'll be moving in the dead of winter and that's always fun, no?

I also got assigned a sh1tty assignment at my job that I'd thought I was going to be done with... well, at least I have a job. You know what I do? I make myself feel a little better by saying, at least I can sock away a little more cash before I get down there. Well, so much for that as husband and I just hashed out a visit by him for next month for our first anniversary and I'll probably have to fly down for Xmas. Money we were hoping for the new house...

I work. A lot. I see my friends, I run and cycle and go for hikes. But I want to start doing all that there, every day here is another day that I could be moving on. I feel like my movement and progression has been put on hold. I don't like it.

I have days where I just want to freak out and I feel like I can't handle it. But... we talk every day, we laugh, we 'hang out' together but the waiting is taking its tole on my patience. I just want to be done with the immigration stuff to be with him BUT also so I can move on with my life. I have 3 jobs here.... will I get one in the US? I'll have to get my first car. I'll have to get a license. I am not a 22 year old girl fresh from school -- I have a career here that I'm wondering if i'll be able to transpose to the US... it's about being with the person that we love but it's also about taking the next steps in our lives as well. I feel like my life is standing still a bit and I do not like that.

And I'd like to get started with making my life in the US. Ya know?

yah... I know you know. I am ranting as well...

G'night all.

LGG

I would just like to VENT!

This whole process has been emotionally taxing. I don't know how the rest of you feel, but having my life on hold and not knowing what's going to happen is plain stressful.

Now that I have a date...Im just worried about everything going well on judgement day. It's one of those things you've been waiting for months and months and it comes down to that one day...yikes!

Anyways, I just want this waiting period to be over.

How have some of you coped with all this?

Edited October 25, 2009 by lgg

[KnJ 0]

I would just like to VENT!

This whole process has been emotionally taxing. I don't know how the rest of you feel, but having my life on hold and not knowing what's going to happen is plain stressful.

Now that I have a date...Im just worried about everything going well on judgement day. It's one of those things you've been waiting for months and months and it comes down to that one day...yikes!

Anyways, I just want this waiting period to be over.

How have some of you coped with all this?

I think I'm certifiable at this point

When I find my anxiety and stress levels getting too high (which they have been), I try to do a number of things.

.do something that I can control - like clean something. pack something. something.

.get food - I have a tendency to not eat when I get stressed out

.realize I don't have control - and kind of think about that one. And then, I try to have faith that it'll work out

.realize that spending energy emotionally on something I can't change

........the problem with the interview part is I'm getting real hypervigilant, because I think I CAN make sure 100% that I will get approved. But I can't.

.I get off VJ for a while. I was getting super-stressed this week after finding out how soon my date is, which makes the move impending (because i need to be down there asap for sanity), but there is still uncertainty.... and so I was just obsessively checking threads here, trying to figure out a hotel, etc etc. It was so useful, but unless I take a break, I will take on all the stress on here, and there will be no rest from it. sorry

.figure out something relaxing and fun - so the latest things are crocheting a hat and looking at honeymoon stuff. weeee ski vacation? It's happy.

.exercise. for me it's yoga, but it can be anything physical. That's tomorrow morning.

.J and I will talk about things, and keep grounding each other. Tell each other "I love you" and remind that we are doing a good job of it, and we have hung in there. We are prepared.

.oh, did I already say food?

[bogartnoir 0]

i'm not coping at all. i go from "ehh" to having a goddamned aneurysm.

[lgg 2]

OH an a PS???

We hashed out a visit for next month, to celebrate our first anniversary. This I am very happy about. I'm not an overtly mushy person but it'll be super nice to be together for our first year.

This makes me happy.

I guess we here in Canada are lucky this way, for the most part -- we can generally visit each other during this process so...

[Rhiannercakes 14]

I'm having a bit of a hard time with stress too.

My work is trying to guilt trip me about leaving before Christmas, but I'm just so sick and tired of that place.

My boss is trying to guilt trip me about the apartment because she has to pay a WHOLE MONTH'S RENT. She should be lucky I bailed her out for 6 months.

And I'm just worried about getting all the paperwork perfect, since I would like to POE 7 days later with my fiance if it's at all possible. I don't really have anything to tie up over here, so I can just leave if I want.

I've been checking over my papers tons of times, and now I have a new worry about the support thing.

Oh this is so stressful. I just want to get this done and over with.

[CanAmerican 0]

My coping strategies are as such:

-Obsessively read VJ postings to make sure Im not missing anything (which sometimes leads to more stress if I find out that I might be missing something)

- Food

- Meditation...I've become pretty religious over the past month b/c it's in his hands now

- TV - I've been watching alot of Seinfeld, Friends, King of Queens...anything that can make me laugh

My problem is that I just graduated from school. Don't have a job which means I have WAY TOO MUCH TIME on my hands. I could be studying for an exam I need to take once I move...but who wants to study when everything is still so unsure??

[darkchilde794 5]

I don't know how the rest of you feel, but having my life on hold and not knowing what's going to happen is plain stressful.

I agree wholeheartedly. I feel like Ive been in limbo since my fiance and I filed for K1. We estimated that it would be completed by now. So we bought a house (in his name), we used up all his vacation days save for 2 we were saving for when we marry. Each time he came to visit, he brought my clothes with him. But since Im not there yet, I have not seen the house or had the opportunity to buy our "first" furniture. Most of my winter gear is in Baltimore And now since he is accompanying me to Montreal, he has to take a sick leave so we can marry.

I feel that lately I've just been going through the motions of everyday living. I completed my masters a month ago, and while most of my colleagues have arranged for job positions, teaching colleges, PhD degrees, I did not know what to do because I could be "interviewed" anytime. Unemployment really sucks and its not even because I cant find a job :/ I know Im whining. I am enjoying being at home and taking time off from work/school. My situation isnt horrible and there are a lot of people who have been waiting longer. And Im really lucky because I got an interview. But its been really hard and stressful.

When I was still in graduate school, I coped by working in the lab all week long. I basically lived there and joked to my supervisor that all she needs to do is buy a couch and set up cable tv, and Ill never have to go home. When I finished school, I coped by packing. And then unpacking because we couldnt get a damn interview date.

During days where I feel absolutely hopeless, I let myself have a good, long cry. Then I go for long walks. I watch cooking shows and day dream of recipes Ill try out for my hunny. And at exactly 5 pm, I call the fiance and tell him what I did that day, hour by hour

Now a days, I keep myself busy going through the forums. I think I feel lucky to have found this site because I can talk to people who REALLY relate to my situation.

Finally, I think the one thing that is holding me together is that I know this is temporary. In five years time, I will probably face a new set of problems and be plagued by new stresses. But I know I will be with my hunny. I also always remember that I am one of the luckiest people out there because I am marrying my best friend and he and I truly love each other. I dont know if any other man would be able to go through this process with me, and I dont think I would have gone through this process with any other person. There are many people out who have lived in the same place as their significant others all their lives but are stuck in a loveless relationships. And Im just damn lucky Im not one of them.

And you guys have to remember youre lucky too! Because being in a relationship is hard; being long distance is even harder. But being in a long distance relationship fighting for legality just to be together is just damn difficult. And I think most couples who go through this are REALLY committed to each other and truly love each other.

[mast3r12 0]

And I think most couples who go through this are REALLY committed to each other and truly love each other.

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and now i'm really wishing i hadn't disclosed that information. ######. how do i delete that reply?!

I guess you'd have to have the user who quotes you edited it from their posts... like how I did.

Edited October 25, 2009 by mast3r12

[Rhiannercakes 14]

Just PM a moderator and ask them to delete it + the series of posts.

I think Kathryn can do it.

I've been in limbo for years, not just since the start of this process.

Probably since 2006. It was mostly due to my fiance not being a USC and we had to wait like forever for him to be eligible.

Oh well, it's almost over soon.

[KnJ 0]

My name is up on the portal under "upcoming interviews"... weeee.

I think I'm ready. Affidavit of Support is ready, ducks are lined up and quacking

Well there are still some photos to print etc. But I'm pretty ready.

J is coming up Nov 1..

I'm not sure if this post has a point.

ETA: I'm sleep deprived.

Edited October 25, 2009 by KnJ