Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part 19)

[JQ Smiley BOOM 3]

mi hear ya sis.. roger nuh knoa a ting, just my inner thoughts bout marriage in general ya know?? i still believe in it, its just so much breaking the bond THESE days that our parents and loved ones either go thru or didn't have ya know??..

but me and him good.. mi is LOVEY DOVEY and kissy kissy all ova dat tall man dere LOL..

pray fuh dem kids tho.. straight IGNORE mi usband most of di time.. GOSH..

i told him that i think its a good idea for him to be aggressive now.. he laid low b4 and that was a good idea..nuh make dem think him try fi take ova and be dem BEST friend.

but now i think its good to TRY and talk to them even tho they are hesitant..about their likes and dislikes, he is quiet so its hard but i believe he is a stranger to them and he has to show that he's willing to become more than that.. i can't put all the responsibility on the kids to make the relationship work.. all of them being uncomfortable makes me uncomfortable CHO lol.. he agrees to try.. and i know it will get better

glad u are keeping ur spirits up w/ hubby gone.. job not tripping too much anymore huh..

Great Attitude Q

My kids are 9 and 11 and my hubby used to talk to them on the phone for about 2 years b4 they met, just to get that strict figure in their lives, and then we went out there so they could see how he lived, didn't want them to say he was weird Kids are cruel

But friend then authority figure is good Q

It will all work out

My husband used to send them allowance through the mail so that he could get in good

[dancehallquana 5]

im glad that altho of course there were a few bustas.. i met some REALLY nice genuine guys in ja..

one guy opened up to me how he was in love w/ an american woman for 5 years.. she would go back and forth from us to ja for mnths at a time.. she was married unfortanately and unwilling to divorce.. this woman was his childrens step mom he said, come and cook and watch movie, family time..

he had to break it off becuz he couldn't handle it anymore.. 5 YEARS...

i was like WOW..

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((ELLS))

You're blessed!!!! Because you haven't walked out of that place yet.

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Good night ladies!!!!!!!!!11

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

Exactly! I know I don't feel particularly beautiful because some mawga bare mouth illiterate no job having man decides to call out to me...here or there. I see women stopping and literally EATING up the attention. I was on JUTA going back to the airport and this group of women were on the bus talking about all the men they conquered during their week stay, and how ray tay tay was jealous over them being with xyz or 123. They were name dropping some of the biggest gigalos in Ochi. I said "So what did you guys think of the gigalos calling out to you every 3 minutes?" They said "Gigalos? What gigalos? (after I explained they responded) all I know is that I loved all the attention girl...these Jamaican men were definitely feeling a sister." I turned around in my seat...got on the phone with Jonesie and started talking about them in patois...and they didn't have a clue what mi chat bout.

One woman had the nerve to say that she left all her half used Bath and Body Works products for the maid as a tip. #######???

My husband didn't chat to one farrin woman anytime I saw him...including me...until a mutual friend introduced us. Jonesie and I watched him for some time and thought he was a miserable and mean SOB. LOL

Now, I have had some FIIINNNEE men in Jamaica try to chat me....but I just wasn't buying any of it...not to mention once they really opened their mouths...the intelligence just wasn't there. I remember one man was finer than a gallon of ice water in Hell...until he started trying to convince me that I was going to fall in love with him before my trip ended. He even went as far as to try and put my hands on his abs and body...like that would magically seal the deal. I'm sure he didn't expect me to haul off and slap the $hit out of him. LOL

that is so ridiculous

no wonder so many of them get used an abused and become so bitter

[jawi876 2]

(((((((((Ells)))))))))))) I didn't quote you because I didn't want to keep making the screen larger.

mi hear ya sis.. roger nuh knoa a ting, just my inner thoughts bout marriage in general ya know?? i still believe in it, its just so much breaking the bond THESE days that our parents and loved ones either go thru or didn't have ya know??..

but me and him good.. mi is LOVEY DOVEY and kissy kissy all ova dat tall man dere LOL..

pray fuh dem kids tho.. straight IGNORE mi usband most of di time.. GOSH..

i told him that i think its a good idea for him to be aggressive now.. he laid low b4 and that was a good idea..nuh make dem think him try fi take ova and be dem BEST friend.

but now i think its good to TRY and talk to them even tho they are hesitant..about their likes and dislikes, he is quiet so its hard but i believe he is a stranger to them and he has to show that he's willing to become more than that.. i can't put all the responsibility on the kids to make the relationship work.. all of them being uncomfortable makes me uncomfortable CHO lol.. he agrees to try.. and i know it will get better

glad u are keeping ur spirits up w/ hubby gone.. job not tripping too much anymore huh..

Girl...high spirits right now is an illusion of grandeur. My job is not tripping because I'm basically getting all my work done for now. I'm in pain afterwards...but I will not give them a reason to fire me. When I leave, I want it to be on my own terms.

My oldest son ignores me and A...but that is because it's not cool right now to show a lot of love and affection to parents. I will hear them talking and joking in the next room...until I come in...then my son gets quiet again. His father is still thinking he is the best man for me...so I think he is putting things in my son's ear. His father is a lawn man...and told him to borrow the neighbor's lawn mower to cut our grass because he couldn't do it. My son had the nerve to ask me why A couldn't do it. He will laugh and talk with me when we are alone...but if we are all together not so much. I asked him if he was uncomfortable with how things are...and he said no...A is cool. A thinks I'm too hard on him sometimes...but I need him to start acting like a teenager instead of younger than his baby brother. It's not easy raising a boy child as a single mother. I don't want to make him too soft or too hard...sigh. I don't like the silent treatment and him being embarrassed about me hugging and kissing him.

[*HeavenSent* 0]

i used the consularkingstn address..i will send a 2nd inquiry one right now ! its really giving me a headache ..i'm trying not to stress myself becuz i know we're almsot there but good lord..thanx ms. tee !

I emailed that one several times back in the day. I didn't get a response until the time I sent it to BOTH email addresses. The day after I did that, I got responses from both.

thanks Nat ! I emailed both today! : )

[JQ Smiley BOOM 3]

And now he is here and the kids act like its ok. they dont like all the attention I give him so I make it a point to spread the love. It feels so good to be the only WOMAN in the house.

[jawi876 2]

Hey Heavensent! What are you trying to get done with the Embassy?

Hey...wait a minute...I am the only woman in the house too. Never registered until you said it JQ. LMAO

[JQ Smiley BOOM 3]

Hey Heavensent! What are you trying to get done with the Embassy?

Hey...wait a minute...I am the only woman in the house too. Never registered until you said it JQ. LMAO

It feels good but when my step daughter gets here it will be different. Just Joking

[Ellsinlove 2]

Thanks ladies for the hugs! I really need it today! Just had a good cry to hubby....even got tears on my keyboard....he's ready to have obeah ooman set someting pon mi boss!

At least tomorrow is my furlough day AND we're going to see Beenie Man tonight to celebrate hubby's b-day early!

Here's an interesting web site where you can take tests to see how 'prejudiced' (I guess that's the best explanation) regarding various topics:

https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/demo/

[sus 70]

WOOOO HOOOOO!!!!

"Your case has been forwarded to the Embassy"

Congrats Princess, so happy for you!

[JQ Smiley BOOM 3]

Hey Heavensent! What are you trying to get done with the Embassy?

Hey...wait a minute...I am the only woman in the house too. Never registered until you said it JQ. LMAO

It feels good but when my step daughter gets here it will be different. Just Joking

So we heard from the California Service Center on Sept 21, 2009 for my step daughter. They said her I130 was approved after 4 months so now they will forward to NVC/

Question

How does it work for the kids when they are there and come here to be transferred to school. I want her to start on time and she is in a school until next July and she will start regular school there in Jamaica. But then will she have to start Kindergarten here at 6 or will she be able to go to 1st grade because her b-day is Sept

Any thoughts

[JQ Smiley BOOM 3]

We want her here between Feb and July of next year

[Marie876 0]

Hey everyone!

NVC assigned our case number today. So glad all this is coming to a close...

going back to try and catch up on the thread