employed vs unemployed

[Sprailenes 47]

My boobs aren't big enough to be considered a trophy wife.

[MrsCat 6]

My boobs aren't big enough to be considered a trophy wife.

I told hubby about this last night and he asked for his trophy because he already had the wife part.

[OBX 51]

Wow, I can only imagine that it must be hard to have compassion and understanding for people when you are looking down upon them from an ivory tower.

Who do you think you are? Where do you get this over-judgemental nature from? How dare you sit in judgement of people and in particular people in this forum.

In this thread you have a bunch of intelligent people, attempting to have an intelligent conversation on why they are moving to the States and how they are accomplishing that. Why anyone would want to share their story with you, I have no idea. I can only imagine that, like myself, I answered the poll and then actually 'really' read your posting, or they are being nice, as people generally are in this forum.

In your post above you have reached a whole new level of pigeon holing and arrogance.

Here, here!

As a hard-working, non-trophy-wife, student-debt-paying, primary-provider, I was extremely offended by the OP and remain offended after the 'explanation'. Trophy wives? Are you kidding me? If someone's prospective USC spouse made that much money, you can bet your boots some high-priced lawyer would be filing everything, they wouldn't be showing up here on VJ, desperate and confused like the rest of us.

If you want to rant about the abuses USCs are put through by money-grubbing marriage scammers, you are in the WRONG FORUM. This is the Canadian forum, where if anything, we are giving up a BETTER quality of life to be with our spouse. Yes, our spouse is worth it, but we are still sacrificing to be with them, not treating the K visas as a 'ticket to a lazy life'. Ooo please, I want to have to choose whether or not I can afford to see the doctor, regardless of how sick I am!

And EI? Guess what, I paid into that for YEARS and used it for 4 MONTHS total. Ooo. Such a drain on the system! They don't call it employment INSURANCE because it sounds cute. Unlike welfare, you pay into it so it's there when you need it, and how long you can get it depends on how much you paid into it. Equating it with welfare indicates severe lack of knowledge as to how it works, or deliberate ignoring of the facts for the sake of a florid argument.

The debt-ditcher, if you hadn't noticed, was roundly reviled by the rest of the Canada forum, and it's just insulting that you would use that as a basis to 'question' everyone else who is in here. 'Pushed buttons'? Yes, it pushes my buttons when anyone says judgemental, arrogant, ignorant statements and paints innocent people with their over-generalizing brush, regardless of what issue that brush is coloured with.

In the Canadian forum, we pride ourselves on being stereotypically 'Canadian' in here: polite, ultra-nice, friendly, supportive. While we can't stop anyone from behaving or posting shamefully, we can and do call them out on it. That goes for the debt-ditchers and the stereotyping judgement-casters. The responses on this thread speak for themselves.

Galateia

Thank you for your response to this thread. I have been following this conversation over the past few days and the overall tone has bothered me. I have not been able to articulate my feelings in a polite yet firm manner. You have said it all so well and in a polite "Canadian" way. THXS. Let's all get back to being supportive regardless of our individual situations.

[shawna7 4]

Reading this thread over the last few days REALLY bothered me,but the responses have once again made me a) very proud to be Canadian

B) very thankful for the Canadian forum on VJ.

Sprailines you crack me up!

[Autumnchik 6]

Wow, this is the first time I saw this thread. Drama in the Canuck forum ... what is the world coming to?

About my husband's situation: he was employed in Vancouver until he entered on a K-1 visa in February 2007. Because we knew that there would be a bit of a wait time for his green card, we decided to buy him a project ... we had bought a fixer-upper house in September 2006 when I relocated to NH, knowing that when hubby arrived, he could use his skills as a carpenter. If he didn't have anything to occupy his time, he would have been out of his mind. He did an amazing job renovating our house. As soon as he was eligible, he found a job. At that time, construction was pretty busy up here. Unfortunately, construction has slowed down massively and he was laid off a few months ago. So, right now, he cares for our little one a couple days a week, is job hunting and also keeping busy by bartering for services (restaurant meals for carpentry services).

[Autumnchik 6]

One of the comments made that really frustrated me was the idea that people just drop all responsibilities and go on welfare to be lazy. While there are people who take advantage of the system, people on welfare are not necessarily lazy. Unfortunately, our welfare system is such that it can be quite difficult to get off of it. For example, a client I worked with in Georgia ... mother of 4, high school education. Wanted desperately to get a job. Child care assistance programs in her area had a waitlist of a year, so if she went to work, she would have to fund child care for 4 kids at full price. On a minimum wage salary, after deducting for childcare, her take home salary would be significantly less than what she received from welfare. This is just one example that I have seen repeated frequently. It just really gets to me that people think all those on welfare are slackers. Grrrr.