CFO

[sushijin 0]

I wonder if the counselors really do know the practice in the USA regarding this. It seems they are confusing people with their practice of emphasizing the mother's maiden name as a middle name. To be honest, if you asked all of my ex GF's what my mother's maiden name was, I don't think any would be able to answer the question. It's not a focal point of discussion, and it's not one of the questions that many think to ask. The most common way that a gf/fiancee would know the name is if they knew the grandparents on the mother's side personally. Then they might know. So it's not really emphasized here. But it is emphasized at the seminar, so keep this in mind people! So my girl was initially upset about not having our children having her last name as their middle name. She wanted to have an american middle name, but then the filipino family name too, so that the child would have 4 names. I told her that it would be a bit strange in the US, but if she wanted it, fine. She seems to have changed her mind regarding this though. By the way, her plan is to actually change her last name to her middle name, and then take my last name. So I guess this is the standard PI practice? I think her plan is fine though, because I think it sounds better and it's the name she has been identified with the most during her life thus far.

I'm thinking about giving this link to the head of PRISM so she would know the problems most applicants encounter during the guidance and counseling. What do you think?

I think it's a good idea. My girl was confused and she was fed wrong information. The counselors really couldn't know though, because they are giving instructions on matters that they themselves never experienced. It's difficult to instruct on cultural differences without actually being experienced in USA culture.

[RyaNRiza 1]

I wonder if the counselors really do know the practice in the USA regarding this. It seems they are confusing people with their practice of emphasizing the mother's maiden name as a middle name. To be honest, if you asked all of my ex GF's what my mother's maiden name was, I don't think any would be able to answer the question. It's not a focal point of discussion, and it's not one of the questions that many think to ask. The most common way that a gf/fiancee would know the name is if they knew the grandparents on the mother's side personally. Then they might know. So it's not really emphasized here. But it is emphasized at the seminar, so keep this in mind people! So my girl was initially upset about not having our children having her last name as their middle name. She wanted to have an american middle name, but then the filipino family name too, so that the child would have 4 names. I told her that it would be a bit strange in the US, but if she wanted it, fine. She seems to have changed her mind regarding this though. By the way, her plan is to actually change her last name to her middle name, and then take my last name. So I guess this is the standard PI practice? I think her plan is fine though, because I think it sounds better and it's the name she has been identified with the most during her life thus far.

I think it's a good idea. My girl was confused and she was fed wrong information. The counselors really couldn't know though, because they are giving instructions on matters that they themselves never experienced. It's difficult to instruct on cultural differences without actually being experienced in USA culture.

Thanks for this info. I didn't know that the petitioner's middle name the CFO counselors will ask is the maiden name of the petitioner's Mother.

I am confused now about the middle name our children will have in the future. Will it not be my maiden name then? Ryan told me once about this, but I wouldn't want my children's middle name my mom's maiden name I want my children's middle name my maiden name What should we do?

[David-and-Mae 15]

I wonder if the counselors really do know the practice in the USA regarding this. It seems they are confusing people with their practice of emphasizing the mother's maiden name as a middle name. To be honest, if you asked all of my ex GF's what my mother's maiden name was, I don't think any would be able to answer the question. It's not a focal point of discussion, and it's not one of the questions that many think to ask. The most common way that a gf/fiancee would know the name is if they knew the grandparents on the mother's side personally. Then they might know. So it's not really emphasized here. But it is emphasized at the seminar, so keep this in mind people! So my girl was initially upset about not having our children having her last name as their middle name. She wanted to have an american middle name, but then the filipino family name too, so that the child would have 4 names. I told her that it would be a bit strange in the US, but if she wanted it, fine. She seems to have changed her mind regarding this though. By the way, her plan is to actually change her last name to her middle name, and then take my last name. So I guess this is the standard PI practice? I think her plan is fine though, because I think it sounds better and it's the name she has been identified with the most during her life thus far.

I'm thinking about giving this link to the head of PRISM so she would know the problems most applicants encounter during the guidance and counseling. What do you think?

I think it's a good idea. My girl was confused and she was fed wrong information. The counselors really couldn't know though, because they are giving instructions on matters that they themselves never experienced. It's difficult to instruct on cultural differences without actually being experienced in USA culture.

Ok then... I think it's really time for this issue to be addressed. I'll give this link to Ms. Cheryl and see what she can do about it.

[RyaNRiza 1]

Thanks for this info. I didn't know that the petitioner's middle name the CFO counselors will ask is the maiden name of the petitioner's Mother.

I am confused now about the middle name our children will have in the future. Will it not be my maiden name then? Ryan told me once about this, but I wouldn't want my children's middle name my mom's maiden name I want my children's middle name my maiden name What should we do?

I think we should discuss it together. Since our customs are so different on this matter, we'd have to come to a compromise.

-Ryan