Responding to the comments from the previous post

[gabrielle08 0]

Hello everyone. I want to take a moment to explain the previous post about being in love. Please read this entire post and take a moment to reflect on what is written before responding.

Recently my fiance wrote an intelligent post expressing her thoughts and opinions. Part of that post made reference to age disparity. Some felt it necessary to post responces that were not only uncalled for, they were also illogical and fairly rude. I would appreciate in the future, should anyone feel it necessary to slander my fiance publicly, they would think twice and keep their improper comments to themselves. My fiance is one of the most intelligent persons I have met and to think of her otherwise would be a mistake.

I would like to address the expletive "ewww."

The fact that the word was used to express personal disgust simply implies an opinion, which everyone has a right to bear. You might disagree with my opinions and that is perfectly fine; However, to consider yourself so important and to consider your opinions to be correct where other's are wrong proves one thing, your own arrogance. If you wish to make public comments with regard to the content of a post, expressing your own views, by all means do so. If you wish to attack the author of the post with immature and dastardly remarks, once again I strongly urge you to keep those remarks to yourself. This is especially relevent in the current set of circumstances. The "ewww" was made in reference to those specific age divergent relationships in which the elder of the couple takes on a parental role and the younger that of a child. The relationship may contain all of the normal characteristics of marriage from empathy to arguments to sexual relations, while also maintaining a paternal (or maternal depending on the situation) paradigm. It is with this in mind that the comment "ewww" was made. I do not know of anyone who, upon hearing the basis for any relationship was incestuous, would take conflict with that reaction. My guess is those who commented in such a negative way did not themselves fully understand what was being communicated. We hope this helps to clear up any confusion. In truth, we find no fault with relationships based out of love, regardless of the ages of those involved. My own Aunt is married to a man who is older than her own Father. He is a good man and they are in love. If by marrying this man my Aunt was trying to replace her Father, looking to her now husband as a replacement Father figure, I would question the driving force behind the relationship and therefor the legitimacy of the marriage. This is not the case however, and again, I find no reason for apprehension.

This brings up a very good point which was made in the original post dealing with judging others. No person can know the heart of another so well as to know it better than the person who resides in ownership of it. The feeling that is brought about when thinking of an improper relationship, described succinctly with "ewww," is a reaction brought about as a result of a theoretical statement and based out of social norms. No person or couple was denoted as being the aim of the conversation; However, some took offence. By doing so you not only assume the meaning behind the words, you bring the accusation upon yourself. It was not mentioned that any couple in specific was in thought when the post was written and therefore you have only to take offense if you are admitting to being in an incestuous relationship. Again, there was no disrespect in what was said. In fact, there was no respect either because there was nothing to respect save that of the idea put forth. Ultimately, only the couple in the depths of their own relationship can know if that relationship is purely driven and based in love or anything else.

Part 2: To respond in kind:

Rodge and Ninfa specifically felt it necessary to publicly defile my someday wife with the following comments:

"BE CAREFUL OF YOU'RE TONGUE...I GUESS YOU ARE NOT AN EDUCATED GIRL...IF COUPLE HAD A MUCH AGE GAP, THAT SHOWS TRUE LOVE...THIS KIND OF RELATIONSHIP NOT ONLY HAPPENS TO FILIPINA-FOREIGNER BUT ALSO TO FILIPINA-FILIPINO...DON'T LOOK DOWN COUPLE HAVING MUCH AGE DIFFERENCES...I THINK YOU CAME FROM AN UNCIVILIZED AREA HERE IN PHILIPPINES.....ACT AS MATURED PERSON AND THINK FIRST BEFORE YOU WRITE IT HERE....THE WHOLE WORLD IS READING IN THIS SITE..."

I find this to be alltogether inaccurate and callous. I would not have brought this to public view; Nonetheless, Rodge and Ninfa having initiated this publicly, compels me to respond in kind. As mentioned above I take no qualm with opposing views. I have also explained in further detail what was unfortunately not understood about the comments made regarding age differences in relationships. What I will not stand for is the ill mannered vilification of my fiance. I would think long and hard before calling someone who's own writing is more fluid and thought provoking than your own immature, under-educated and uncivilized. To be so discourteous in this way reveals little more than your own personality. I do not write this as an attack but rather as vindication. I understand the problems miscommunication can bring about and I do not wish to upset Rodge and Ninfa in any way. I would simply ask them to review their own words. "THINK FIRST BEFORE YOU WRITE IT HERE... THE WHOLE WORLD IS READING IN THIS SITE..."

Love is a precious gift. This type of banter makes me ill at heart and I would much rather focus on building relationships with all of you. We are all couples in love with our own roads to travel ahead. We wish you all the best of luck and love.

Thank you for taking the time to read this post. If you have any question about anything written here, or would like to discuss this further, please feel free to respond. I only ask that those responces are courteous and polite and focus on the topic rather than attacking the person. Thank you.

[PalestineMyHeart 1,897]

"Dastardly remarks"...

L.O.L.

[LaL 418]

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