~July 2007 K-1 Filers~

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

(F) So sorry to hear that things turned out like this I am glad you are able to move on and that you are so brave and decided to try for a brand new life in a new state

Another thing...how fast do you wanna go through with the divorce and are you still thinking about some councelling or not? You see, I don´t wanna sound pesimistic (and also I don´t have any experience with that so it´s just a thought), but you basically just got your GC and won´t it raise some flags if you file for a divorce right after? I don´t want you to have some troubles in case you decide to stay and wanna remove the conditions on your own Hugs

[English Muffin 59]

Another thing...how fast do you wanna go through with the divorce and are you still thinking about some councelling or not? You see, I don´t wanna sound pesimistic (and also I don´t have any experience with that so it´s just a thought), but you basically just got your GC and won´t it raise some flags if you file for a divorce right after? I don´t want you to have some troubles in case you decide to stay and wanna remove the conditions on your own Hugs

Thanks for the kind words Marta.

You are right that separating so soon after receiving my Green Card will raise some red flags. Scott will not consider counselling of any kind - I think he is worried that he might have to face up to the fact that he has issues he needs to deal with.

We'll probably start divorce proceeding towards the end of the year and once it's over I'm going to get an immigration attorney to help me with removing conditions due to the red flags. Scott is happy to write an affadavit attesting to the fact the he is the one who wants to end the marriage and not me, which I think will help to prove that I entered it in good faith. Our lives and finances have been completely co-mingled since I got here so I'll hopefully have no problem proving that we had a legitimate marriage either - albeit for a very short time.

And don't worry about sounding pessimistic I had already considered the problems with removing conditions and shall make sure that I'm prepared when the time comes.

Thanks again Marta.

[bakofoil 27]

Gillian,

I am so sorry that things didn't turn out the way you planned. I am sure, given your common sense and strength of character, that you will make the best this and I hope that the two of you can remain good friends.

I've heard many good things about Charlotte and North Carolina generally. I hope your trip is successful. Best of luck!

[English Muffin 59]

Gillian,

I am so sorry that things didn't turn out the way you planned. I am sure, given your common sense and strength of character, that you will make the best this and I hope that the two of you can remain good friends.

I've heard many good things about Charlotte and North Carolina generally. I hope your trip is successful. Best of luck!

Thanks Babblesgirl.

I won't be leaving VJ so I'll keep everyone updated on my adventures in NC.

[*julez* 124]

Hey Gillian,

This group might be helpful in establishing some friendships and networking in Charlotte:

http://brit.meetup.com/298/

Their expat group seems to be fairly active.

[English Muffin 59]

Hey Gillian,

This group might be helpful in establishing some friendships and networking in Charlotte:

http://brit.meetup.com/298/

Their expat group seems to be fairly active.

Oooooh, thanks for that.

[rae_and_scott 1]

Hey Gillian,

I am sorry to hear that things didn't work out but you do sounds really strong and I think it's really amazing, and brave as others have said, that you're going to stay in the States and try a new life in a new city. I wish you the best in whatever lies in your future.

[English Muffin 59]

Hey Gillian,

I am sorry to hear that things didn't work out but you do sounds really strong and I think it's really amazing, and brave as others have said, that you're going to stay in the States and try a new life in a new city. I wish you the best in whatever lies in your future.

Thanks Rae.

I think I probably sound a lot stronger than I really am though! I'm having good days and bad days right now and I seem to be up and down and all over the place. I'm coming to terms with the fact that my marriage is over but I'm getting overwhelmed sometimes with feelings of loneliness.

But then a few minutes later I'll feel really strong and as though I can take on the world.

I'm sure these feelings are all just part of the grieving process that I'll have to go through. I'm so glad that I have friends here on VJ because I haven't really made any where I live since I got here and the loneliness does make things harder.

Thanks again everyone.

[*julez* 124]

hugs, hugs and more hugs....I wish I lived nearer to you, cos I'd be on a road trip to see you! We'd get drunk and have some laughs!

[English Muffin 59]

hugs, hugs and more hugs....I wish I lived nearer to you, cos I'd be on a road trip to see you! We'd get drunk and have some laughs!

Thanks Julez, that makes me feel so much better.

Today has been one of my bad days - hopefully tomorrow I'll be taking on the world again.

[Jeraly 4]

Scott and I are still good friends, we're just accepting that this wasn't meant to be. I'm now looking forward to the next chapter in my life in a new state. I've booked a trip to Charlotte from 24-30 Aug and I'm already getting excited about looking for a new home for myself.

Oh Gillian *hugs* I already posted in the UK forum and I am so sorry to hear it hasn't worked out for you But it's great that you are still friends and it is great that you are going on exciting adventures!

@ aly: here's the link https://egov.uscis.gov/crisgwi/go?action=of...office_type=CIV

you HAVE to use their civil surgeons. *shrugs* just another loop we have to jump through.

btw: i just read your blog, i can TOTALLY relate: it's monsoon season and we have a leak in the roof, the AC dies at least every second day and our landlord is too broke and stupid to have it fixed properly. oh, and i just saw the credit card bill and nearly passed out.

i hope everybody has a nice sunday evening!

HAHAHA - Oh Jeremy has a billion credit cards and they are all maxed out totalling about $2000 so I can relate to that as well!!! What with that and everything falling to pieces right now it is so not fun - I can't wait 'til Saturday - we can just have a good old b*tch about everything that is screwing up and maybe with enough wine inside us we will actually get to laughing about it all!!! We can compare horror stories!!

Will check out that USCIS thing now - didn't realise we had to use a specific doctor... that really sucks

I think I probably sound a lot stronger than I really am though! I'm having good days and bad days right now and I seem to be up and down and all over the place. I'm coming to terms with the fact that my marriage is over but I'm getting overwhelmed sometimes with feelings of loneliness.

But then a few minutes later I'll feel really strong and as though I can take on the world.

I'm sure these feelings are all just part of the grieving process that I'll have to go through. I'm so glad that I have friends here on VJ because I haven't really made any where I live since I got here and the loneliness does make things harder.

It's normal to feel lonely, especially when you haven't made any real friends yet. But you do have all of us and I can prolly vouch for pretty much everyone on here by saying we are all at the end of a... computer If you ever need a sounding board, just shout

[English Muffin 59]

Thanks Aly, it means a lot to know that there are people out there willing to lend an ear.

[Jeraly 4]

YAY! Marta is coming to our housewarming luau!!! Woohoo!!!

We have tacky party bags from the dollar store

[*julez* 124]

That's cool! I wish I lived near enough to attend! I'll just ahve to settle with being there in spirit!

I posted this in the UK OT thread, but want to share with those of you who don't frequent that thread that we are moving into our new house this Saturday! I am so excited! Our new furniture is being delivered friday and we're doing the rest ourselves on Saturday! With the help of a few burly guys we know, of course!

After Friday, I'll be MIA for a bit. Try not to miss me too much.

[Jeraly 4]

Oooh! That's great news Julez!!! But leaving us again so soon...? You only just got back!