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[ilovemaya 0]

k, everybody now....i guess bad day for me or somethin, but im just wondering about all this...n it gives me this question....

so if to apply for K1 you as benificiary have to leave us, then u send of I-129F, which takes about 6mths to approve if u r lucky, then it goes to IVC...another 2mths or so, then it gets to Embassy where we r looking at another 3mths or so, now in my case i will need to apply for I-160 which is another 6-12mths...so we ended up to what? 1,5 years IF WE GONNA B LUCKY!!!!!! Ofcourse my fiance needs to keep his job over in us for all this, so he wont b able to visit with me that often........................now just thinking about it, what is the use of all I-129F if the relationship will obviously cool down a little from not being together.....not talking about kids, who need mom n dad to be with them, not seperate............

CAN ANYBODY COME UP WITH SOME POINT THAT MAKES SENCE????????????

it drivs me crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! n just to make this all sound even funnier, im away of my sweetheart just for FIVE DYS now!!!!!! FUnny huh? how am i gonna last 1.5 year?

[shannon65 2]

k, everybody now....i guess bad day for me or somethin, but im just wondering about all this...n it gives me this question....

so if to apply for K1 you as benificiary have to leave us, then u send of I-129F, which takes about 6mths to approve if u r lucky, then it goes to IVC...another 2mths or so, then it gets to Embassy where we r looking at another 3mths or so, now in my case i will need to apply for I-160 which is another 6-12mths...so we ended up to what? 1,5 years IF WE GONNA B LUCKY!!!!!! Ofcourse my fiance needs to keep his job over in us for all this, so he wont b able to visit with me that often........................now just thinking about it, what is the use of all I-129F if the relationship will obviously cool down a little from not being together.....not talking about kids, who need mom n dad to be with them, not seperate............

CAN ANYBODY COME UP WITH SOME POINT THAT MAKES SENCE????????????

it drivs me crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! n just to make this all sound even funnier, im away of my sweetheart just for FIVE DYS now!!!!!! FUnny huh? how am i gonna last 1.5 year?

well, those are estimated times. I know it seems like forever. Best to get started ASAP on the K-1 application (did you already?). I don't know how long the California Service Center is taking (there are timelines on here, I think). And start now thinking about what your fiance needs to write (hardship letter) for the I-601 so when the time comes to prepare it it won't take too long to get started. I would recommend a lawyer, but some people do the process on their own (check immigrate2us also, lots of information on waivers).

[English Muffin 59]

k, everybody now....i guess bad day for me or somethin, but im just wondering about all this...n it gives me this question....

so if to apply for K1 you as benificiary have to leave us, then u send of I-129F, which takes about 6mths to approve if u r lucky, then it goes to IVC...another 2mths or so, then it gets to Embassy where we r looking at another 3mths or so, now in my case i will need to apply for I-160 which is another 6-12mths...so we ended up to what? 1,5 years IF WE GONNA B LUCKY!!!!!! Ofcourse my fiance needs to keep his job over in us for all this, so he wont b able to visit with me that often........................now just thinking about it, what is the use of all I-129F if the relationship will obviously cool down a little from not being together.....not talking about kids, who need mom n dad to be with them, not seperate............

CAN ANYBODY COME UP WITH SOME POINT THAT MAKES SENCE????????????

it drivs me crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! n just to make this all sound even funnier, im away of my sweetheart just for FIVE DYS now!!!!!! FUnny huh? how am i gonna last 1.5 year?

A straightforward K1 takes around 6-8 months to get and everyone has to go through that wait. You made a decision in the past to break US immigration law so your process will take much longer. I'm afraid you're going to have to take responsibility for that and accept that it's your own fault your process will be much longer than others.

Good luck on your journey.

Gillian

Edited January 6, 2008 by English Muffin

[ilovemaya 0]

k, everybody now....i guess bad day for me or somethin, but im just wondering about all this...n it gives me this question....

so if to apply for K1 you as benificiary have to leave us, then u send of I-129F, which takes about 6mths to approve if u r lucky, then it goes to IVC...another 2mths or so, then it gets to Embassy where we r looking at another 3mths or so, now in my case i will need to apply for I-160 which is another 6-12mths...so we ended up to what? 1,5 years IF WE GONNA B LUCKY!!!!!! Ofcourse my fiance needs to keep his job over in us for all this, so he wont b able to visit with me that often........................now just thinking about it, what is the use of all I-129F if the relationship will obviously cool down a little from not being together.....not talking about kids, who need mom n dad to be with them, not seperate............

CAN ANYBODY COME UP WITH SOME POINT THAT MAKES SENCE????????????

it drivs me crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! n just to make this all sound even funnier, im away of my sweetheart just for FIVE DYS now!!!!!! FUnny huh? how am i gonna last 1.5 year?

A straightforward K1 takes around 6-8 months to get and everyone has to go through that wait. You made a decision in the past to break US immigration law so your process will take much longer. I'm afraid you're going to have to take responsibility for that and accept that it's your own fault your process will be much longer than others.

Good luck on your journey.

Gillian

well ofcourse u r right, back then it didnt metter to me, i was gonna leave n just never come back, stay home, but i didnt know i will fall in love in us, u know, unexpected happened, n truth, just like u said i got to take that responsibility, i would just kick myself in a head, if i just knew back then....

...may god make me strong so i am able to get trough this!!!!!!!!!!!

Edited January 6, 2008 by ilovemaya

[ilovemaya 0]

k, everybody now....i guess bad day for me or somethin, but im just wondering about all this...n it gives me this question....

so if to apply for K1 you as benificiary have to leave us, then u send of I-129F, which takes about 6mths to approve if u r lucky, then it goes to IVC...another 2mths or so, then it gets to Embassy where we r looking at another 3mths or so, now in my case i will need to apply for I-160 which is another 6-12mths...so we ended up to what? 1,5 years IF WE GONNA B LUCKY!!!!!! Ofcourse my fiance needs to keep his job over in us for all this, so he wont b able to visit with me that often........................now just thinking about it, what is the use of all I-129F if the relationship will obviously cool down a little from not being together.....not talking about kids, who need mom n dad to be with them, not seperate............

CAN ANYBODY COME UP WITH SOME POINT THAT MAKES SENCE????????????

it drivs me crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! n just to make this all sound even funnier, im away of my sweetheart just for FIVE DYS now!!!!!! FUnny huh? how am i gonna last 1.5 year?

well, those are estimated times. I know it seems like forever. Best to get started ASAP on the K-1 application (did you already?). I don't know how long the California Service Center is taking (there are timelines on here, I think). And start now thinking about what your fiance needs to write (hardship letter) for the I-601 so when the time comes to prepare it it won't take too long to get started. I would recommend a lawyer, but some people do the process on their own (check immigrate2us also, lots of information on waivers).

with fileing im waitin for my fiance to get job, i need to put that in G-325A, then we can send that one off right away. And i am already starting on I-160 n hardship letter....hey that gives me question though....so is that "hardship" just letter typed on pc and signed by my fiance?????is that enough? ofcourse proves attached....oh yea, n can i file that I-160 right now? so that by the time i go to interwiev it would b aproved? i gues no huh?

thanks for responding!!!

michaela

[~Laura and Nick~ 5]

I'm so sorry you are in this situation.

You have a long and hard road a head of you.

All I can say is that I hope each day you and your Fiance work on keeping your relationship strong. Try to have visits when you can and just keep the love alive.

Everything happens for a reason.

You can't file the I-160 now, you have to be denied first and THEN you file the waiver.

Hang in there.

[Laurence+Lauren 0]

k, everybody now....i guess bad day for me or somethin, but im just wondering about all this...n it gives me this question....

so if to apply for K1 you as benificiary have to leave us, then u send of I-129F, which takes about 6mths to approve if u r lucky, then it goes to IVC...another 2mths or so, then it gets to Embassy where we r looking at another 3mths or so, now in my case i will need to apply for I-160 which is another 6-12mths...so we ended up to what? 1,5 years IF WE GONNA B LUCKY!!!!!! Ofcourse my fiance needs to keep his job over in us for all this, so he wont b able to visit with me that often........................now just thinking about it, what is the use of all I-129F if the relationship will obviously cool down a little from not being together.....not talking about kids, who need mom n dad to be with them, not seperate............

CAN ANYBODY COME UP WITH SOME POINT THAT MAKES SENCE????????????

it drivs me crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! n just to make this all sound even funnier, im away of my sweetheart just for FIVE DYS now!!!!!! FUnny huh? how am i gonna last 1.5 year?

The seperation is awful and the waiting sucks, I know. But the way I see it, is that every passing day is another day closer to being with her, and no sepration or waiting. There's no question that it will be hard for both of you but if you are both determined to be together it will be one of the best things you will do your whole life. I just look forward to that day when I am fully approved. When I am holding that Visa in my hands, all the waiting, seperation and effort will have been worth it.

By the way, I find that the first few days after saying goodbye are the worst. After that it gets easier and I can focus on what we have to do. I hope it all turns out well for you though!

[ilovemaya 0]

EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR REASON...truth truth truth, you guys all r right, but sometimes things make sence and it is all right, but even though brain says it right, heart is hurting....

but yeah, i guess that is the way to look at it, every day gets u closer n it is definitely worth it, maybe it will bring us even closer, maybe we will apraciate each others presence after all even more...n then maybe that is that reason......

god give me strenght!

Mitakuye Oyasin............

thanks to all of you!!!

[shannon65 2]

that's right the K-1 needs to be denied before you apply for the I-160 (waiver). You can start on the hardship letter now but you know your fiance needs to write it? It is about hardship to him if he has to go to your country to be with you, if you don't get a visa to the US. They do not want to hear about hardship to the non-US citizen. He has to write and sign it. Also you need evidence (documentation) to support what you say in the hardship letter. It's not a simple application. You have time to research it. I'm doing this process myself. I will be filing it this month. Good luck -

[Missing.him 0]

that's right the K-1 needs to be denied before you apply for the I-160 (waiver). You can start on the hardship letter now but you know your fiance needs to write it? It is about hardship to him if he has to go to your country to be with you, if you don't get a visa to the US. They do not want to hear about hardship to the non-US citizen. He has to write and sign it. Also you need evidence (documentation) to support what you say in the hardship letter. It's not a simple application. You have time to research it. I'm doing this process myself. I will be filing it this month. Good luck -

I know its hard... and i know it is really unfair to keep people that are in love apart. I know it feels like you could go crazy...but like everyone said we ALL have to go through it and we all have to bide our time and try to stay sane. I cannot even file yet because of divorce issues that should have been settled a year ago really but because of a spiteful ex who does not want me to be happy, we have to wait much longer.. and its really unfair on us as we have done nothing but follow the rules but due to the wait on my divorce we pretty much used up all his time that he can come visit me ... so we also have to spend many tortured months apart.. but have faith and you will be fine because what is meant to be is meant to be....

[ilovemaya 0]

that's right the K-1 needs to be denied before you apply for the I-160 (waiver). You can start on the hardship letter now but you know your fiance needs to write it? It is about hardship to him if he has to go to your country to be with you, if you don't get a visa to the US. They do not want to hear about hardship to the non-US citizen. He has to write and sign it. Also you need evidence (documentation) to support what you say in the hardship letter. It's not a simple application. You have time to research it. I'm doing this process myself. I will be filing it this month. Good luck -

k, so the hardship letter needs to be handwrite, do i understand it right?

thanks!! n good luck to you with this!

[ilovemaya 0]

I know its hard... and i know it is really unfair to keep people that are in love apart. I know it feels like you could go crazy...but like everyone said we ALL have to go through it and we all have to bide our time and try to stay sane. I cannot even file yet because of divorce issues that should have been settled a year ago really but because of a spiteful ex who does not want me to be happy, we have to wait much longer.. and its really unfair on us as we have done nothing but follow the rules but due to the wait on my divorce we pretty much used up all his time that he can come visit me ... so we also have to spend many tortured months apart.. but have faith and you will be fine because what is meant to be is meant to be....

it is hard n i know many ppl has this deal even harder then what we do, iv red about famillies spendin many years together, havin 5 year old, the youngest one n cuz man never got legalized, he has to go trough it now, n there is separation ofcourse, n he as financial supporter, ofcourse not mentioning the kids, how do they suffer not having their daddy arround no mo....this is just wrong.........so even though we too have kids involved, the youngest one is 3mnths n she wont remember, but still i belive it makes efect on kids...n that is the worst on this, when it comes to us, adults, we can hendel this, but when kids r involved, it should not happen!!!! But yeah, in ways our falt i guess.............And in a final what is ment to be is ment to be...n everything has its reason!!!!

so god be with us!

(L)

[Jeraly 4]

It is hard work but I am a strong believer in that if you are meant to be together then you will overcome any hardships life throws at you My OH and I have gone up to 4 months+ without seeing each other and I know others have gone much longer. Of course the initial "honeymoon period" cools off but that is when you start to see your OH without the blinkers on and decide if they are still the person you want to be with

You'll get there - keep your chin up and think positive!!

[ilovemaya 0]

It is hard work but I am a strong believer in that if you are meant to be together then you will overcome any hardships life throws at you My OH and I have gone up to 4 months+ without seeing each other and I know others have gone much longer. Of course the initial "honeymoon period" cools off but that is when you start to see your OH without the blinkers on and decide if they are still the person you want to be with

You'll get there - keep your chin up and think positive!!

n here again u r right! i should even kinda take it as a test for our relationship (although havin kids i should not test no mo(: )if we r ment to be then we will overcome this!......but again, it make all sence n brain says yep, but is hurtin...

JUST CANNOT B WITHOUT HIM!!!!!!