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BTW...if they DO transfer it to another location...do they send another notice saying that? Or would it have said it on the NOA1?

Hello,

So I received the 1st NOA letter stating they had received my application for the I-130. (I have someone checking my mail, since Im here in Ghana with my husband). I used the Receipt number on the letter to register on the USCIS site, and there is a link there to show you processing times by location. I'm trying to figure out which one I search by....it gives you options for benefit centers, field offices, etc. I have no idea which one to use. I mailed the app to the Chicago lockbox but is that what I use to search by? ...the Chicago field office? Does the app get transferred once it's received at the Chicago lockbox? I live in MA if that is any help! I really had wished to have directly filed here in Ghana because they have a field office here in Accra, but neither myself or my husband are residents so we figured we probably had to go through the Nigerian embassy and they don't have a field office there

Ok, feeling a little more relieved now. Since Im here, and don't have access to my mail back home, I had sent the form to be notified electronically of the case status. Will this include the 1st NOA? Anyone know when I should expect that? It's only been a couple weeks since it was mailed.

Ok, thanks for the input!

Hello VJ,

My husband and I met in person for the first time back in 2009. To date, I have come to stay with him 6 times (I am here now). Each time I come, I stay a minimum of 2 months and I've stayed as long as 6 months at a time. We lived together a total of 18 months. We got married back in June of 2012 and I just recently filed the CR-1 petition. I literally dropped it in the mail the day I left on the plane to come here and it's been about 2 weeks now. I did not send a wholeeee bunch of evidence of things because how do you send nearly 4 years of chats, phone records etc? It's impossible. so i sent random things from throughout the years. I also sent all the pages of my passport showing all my trips and lengths of stay with him abroad. I feel that right there should be the most significant evidence that we are in a real relationship. But after I started thinking about it, I do know that Nigeria is so hard and I'm questioning if i should've sent more. So my question is, did I make a big mistake, or is he allowed to show additional evidence at the time of the interview (God willing it gets to that)? Or if they had any doubts , will he be able to show more evidence at the interview to satisfy them? Also, when sending in the petition, I submited the form to have them electronically notified. Does this mean the 1st NOA will come by email? How long should that take? Thanks for any help you can provide.

Hello, My husband has recently gotten a resident permit in Ghana. (he is a Nigerian citizen). We've been living on and off in ghana for 3 years...mostly in Ghana. Now that he has a resident permit there, does anyone know if I can get one based on my marriage to him? The longest time I've spent there was 6 months, but usually my stays are shorter (3 months in ghana, 2 months home, etc) so I never tried to apply for one myself because I was not there for a year or so straight. Mostly the reason I would like to get one is so that I can directly file the petition to the USCIS in ACCRA because they have a field office there that will allow people to apply there, but I believe I must be a resident there first. Thanks for all advice.

Hello,

My husband (non-US citizen) is filling out the G-325 biographic form. I was hoping someone who has recently submitted this form can help with a couple questions.....(1) how many of these forms do we submit for each of us? I thought I had read somewhere we need to submit 4 of each..is that true? (2) To avoid waiting for this to come in the mail, can he fill out the form, scan and email it to me and I print it out and submit it with his PP photos? I didnt know if a 'copy' was acceptable or if they had to have the original ink on them. Thanks for any advice you can give!

I think VJ should have a section that is just read only. It seems certain posters just want to post and not hear what others have to say. Or at the minimum a private section where just the friends of the posters can provide group hugs to each other.

REALLY? cuz tell me what ANY of what this comment said had to do with the question I asked about successfully fighting VAWA?? hmmm?? or is it that people like this/you and others, are so friggin dramatic that instead of answering someone's questions, you'd rather point fingers and find faults? For God SAke's do you think I need a feel good session from a bunch of strangers with VISA issues? give me a flippin break. Anyone who trolls these threads and start pointing fingers or going off topic, are really the ones desperate for some sort of attention or acceptance. Are you that desperate for 'platinum' status that you just contribute nonsense to people's posts just for the sake of increasing your number of posts? Check yourself please. And as for MS OLOMI...Ive chased you off my threads before so you and I BOTH know the last person I needed or wanted advice from IS YOU>

My comment was not to place blame nor was it to pinpoint Nigeria. Fact, your ex husband is Nigerian. Fact, You are remarried. Fact, you are still entertaining what takes place with your ex husband. Fact, you allow your friends to drop knowledge about him at your door so you can keep tabs. Fact, if you only wanted to clear your name you could have written immigration or gotten a lawyer to contact immigration. Fact, not everyone here is going to agree with your thoughts and as long as no one is violating VJ terms each is entitled to their thoughts and opinions and allowed to express them on YOUR VERSION OF THE FACTS.

Appreciate what you have and stop resenting the circumstances that brought you there.

FACT: I dont think any of my replies was concerning anything you said. FACT: yes my husband is proudly Nigerian and?? FACT: I havent thought of, heard of, or tried to know anyting about my ex in over 3 years. FACT: friends drop what they want to drop at "my door" without asking for it yet, I do have the right to entertain what to do with the information. FACT: I didnt pose this question or expose my story for anyone to agree or not agree with my thoughts, i was asking if anyone knew if its possible at this point to fight the VAWA..now that I KNOW thats wat he did. FACT: I DID submit a letter to USCIS at the time I thought it was appropriate to do so and look how much THAT did! and like i stated early...YOU or nobody else here has the ability to revoke someone's GC so Im not here telling some VERSION of my story...Im stating (here it comes...) the FACTS !!

AND WHO THE FUDGE IS RESENTING ANYTHING. I CAN BE HAPPY WITH WHO IM WITH, HAPPY WITH MY LIFE AND EVERYTHING BUT IT DOESNT MEAN I WILL ALLOW SOMEONE TO ####### ON MY GOOD NAME. IT STILL DOESNT MAKE IT RIGHT FOR HIM TO HAVE DONE WAT HE DID. WAT DOES MY WONDERFUL LIFE HAVE TO DO WITH THAT? YOU DONT EVEN THINK BEFORE YOU WRITE.

LMAO...I REST MY CASE !! some people really need to GET OVER THEMSELVES!

My emotional state? I am fine, you are questionable at best. I copied quotes from what YOU said so fail to see how that is throwing anything in your face.

Make my day? Nothing that has to do with you will affect that. I simply asked you to take responcibility for your part in this sad tale that you want to blame on others. " i spent all my savings on supporting him for 2 years by sending money to NIgeria thru western union weekly, going to Nigeria, filing the petition, paying for his visa, medical exams and to top it off, his plane ticket to come to the USA!! So yeah, i was kind of broke. And that's not to mention that he LEFT every other month too"!

I for one do not think you are lying in what you have said. I believe you are exactly as described.

He isnt in trouble as you would like to think. You are the troubled one as we see here over and over. You are looking for revenge and vengence rather than recovering from your mistake in judgement. That flaw remains part of you even now.

I doubt sex played a part in any of this if I have gotten to know you at all by what I read. That in fact could be why he left.

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First of all to all the Nigerians that felt they had to doubt my 'story' just to save their name...as I stated before, this is not a NIGERIAN thing. THis is my story as it happened, it just so happened that the player here is a Nigerian. And correction..neither my ex or my current husband are IBO's, they are both Yoruba. I dont know what the need to point out that some men living in Nigeria make more than any USC. OBVIOSLY!! Ive been in west AFrica longer than I care to be and I am surrounded by them. (plenty of Nigerians living in Ghana). In fact my husband and I take walks around our estate area every night and admire the gorgeous mansions people have that spell money all over them. My current husband never asked for anything, and while I do have my own business back home, I am mainly supported by him here. To Ching, Ming, or whatever his name is...yeah i was a fool for letting him back 3 times, giving him so much money, and I acknowledged that so what is wrong with you emotionally that you felt the need to throw that in my face? Did it make your day better or what? NObody here is USCIS< INS, or any other goverment agency, official or anything so you all should remember that there is no reason for someone to come on here and start telling a story that is false; or that 'there MUST be another side to it. Ive stated the facts. Im not trying to sell anyone a story here that would assist in getting him in trouble, cuz nobody here has that power. So maybe you should take people's experiences at face value instead of trying to read more into it. I read one remark that women get easily swooned by 'men in hot places'...and ching tao said he 'knew wat she meant by that"...yeah, i guess I did too. and let me just give a little insight on that as well...the EX had something the size of my thumb and it barely got up. sooooo.....any theories of me taking him back cuz I was blinded by SEX should seriously be put to rest. ITs a shame that so many people here are so aggressive and negative. I just dont know why. Thanks to all who gave words of encouragement and advice. I guess I got my answer in one of the posts that said that never has a GC been revoked after given based on VAWA. And that is pretty darn sad.

I am sorry to hear about this. VAWA certainly needs to be revamped but as said before, it would also prevent the honest ones from getting accepted. If you are abused it is difficult to obtain the evidence needed because the abuser usually controls everything and allows you little access to the important things in the relationship and even tries to deny you friends. They will cut you off from everyone so you have only them to rely on and you have no one on the outside to give advise. When you finally decide to flee you usually grab your things and go as far and fast as you can with little thought to the future because the abuser has made you believe you have no future without them.

As to the scam artist, I have read posts over the years from a variety of countries and even heard of websites that coach people in how to scam VAWA. Try as you might it is impossible to weed them all out. Just like an abuser can carry the act, for at least a while, in public, so can the scam artist carry the act for a while to get what they want.

I know you are angry for him misusing you and your good name to obtain what he wanted but I really don't see there is anything positive to be gained by continuing with this. Some times we just have to let go and carry on with our lives.

Ask yourself, what do I have to gain by continuing to pursue this and weigh it with the emotional turmoil you will suffer by not letting go. Good Luck with everything and I'm glad you found someone true.

thank you! Good advice

People like him? You played a major role in this disaster as well. Wasnt it you that went to Nigeria ect? Took him back? Fraud written all over it? You wrote it and then couldnt read it?

Take responcibility for what you have done and move on. You provided another chance for one of these guys to run loose in the USA. All that while you reside in Ghana.

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very foolish comment. As if I knew I was being scammed. I didnt, till the #### was in my face, literally! Thanks for your contribution!

Still speculative at best. You, nor she, have physically seen a green card. And, he could be staying here illegally. Many do.

I doubt very seriously that if he were trying to "court" this female he would have said, "Hi, nice to meet you and I am here illegally".

Don't you think???

the conversation did not go like that at all...he is not the sharpest tool in the drawer and his ####### does most of his thinking. and he got pushed to the wall thinking he was going to get the love from her that he was looking for , so she got him to talk about everything. 'cuz she wanted an honest, open guy"..HA! he also is working for a company, which he told the name of and has been confirmed and they wud NOT hire a worker without papers. HE has his greencard, and he got thru the VAWA #######. THIS I wud bet my life on. there is no doubt about it at all.

As for me being in any possible legal trouble. I highly doubt it. 1. I am in Ghana, but I go back and forth every few months. 2. Recently while in the States, I was pulled over for having a broken headlight. They took my DL and registration and ran my name, so Im sure if I was in any trouble, it would've come up. The things he told the girl on facebook, is probably the same things he told Immigration...which is so infuriating because none of it is true and I just dont understand our country would have something in place where BOTH parties are not allowed to speak!! He said that I through him out of the house. (never happened, in fact I cried and begged for him to stay...as pathetic as that makes me sound, its tru). He said that months went by and I would not file AOS..ummmm...yeah, well, we didnt have the friggin money to do that cuz i spent all my savings on supporting him for 2 years by sending money to NIgeria thru western union weekly, going to Nigeria, filing the petition, paying for his visa, medical exams and to top it off, his plane ticket to come to the USA!! So yeah, i was kind of broke. And that's not to mention that he LEFT every other month too! he also said that I put the electric bill and cable bill in his name without him giving me permission to do so. WHILE WE WERE LIVING TOGETHER> this guy is really sick, im telling you. Its almost laughable. He also told them that I was getting medical thru the state and that I never reported to them that I was married. YES, that was true. My job didnt offer it and I was getting it thru the state for me and my kids. And the ONLY reason I did not report that I was married cuz I was afraid that it would affect his status somehow, meaning that I was the one who was sponsoring him, yet getting medical thru the state so I was afraid FOR HIM. and he knew that..but funny it got used against me to suit his needs. So yeah, these were the type of BS things he said about me, and mostly im sure all his friends helped him with the story evne though I did not know a single one of them.

How certain are you that VAWA was activated and GC was received?

It's all hearsay at this point, IMHO.

ok, let me clarify........when he first left (for the last time) and I saw that he was really gone for good...I cried on the shoulders of some friends, several of which were Nigerians themselves. They suggested that the only way this guy could attempt to stay WITHOUT having gone thru any AOS with me after our marriage and ALSO based on things they know about the 'doings' of some of their countryment..they told me he PROBABLY wsa going to try the VAWA escape. NOW, years later....I have found out CERTAINLY that that is what he did. I found out because he friended someone on facebook that he did not know knew me and after 2 days of talking to her and professing his undying love for her, she felt she could press everything out of him and she found out EVERYTHING! HE has a greencard, he accused me of kicking him out, putting him on the streets, etc. He told her that is GC is good for like 10 years, but that he can apply for citizenship in 3.

If there is any evidence, she should certainly put it forward.

evidence of him talking sexually and trying to hookup with the minor? lol. I have a whole transcript, and even screen shot pictures of it all. I could share if you all want to see what a piece of dirt he is? lol.

To fight or not to fight?

It is well established that, once a GC... [almost] always a GC. There was a poster here that cleverly stated it is amazing that we have been desensitized and we just let things happen like that [paraphrasing]. I agree and it is just horrible!

You're divorced, fantastic. So yes, move on emotionally.

That said, I am waiting for that one brave scam victim- and if there's one please by all means let us know- that've said: "you know what, you got your GC; you lied about me and our relationship. You used me and on top of that accused me unjustifiably. Fo**k that #######! I will fight for all of those who have been wronged."

Why is it that these shenanigans can get a "lawyer" friend to coach them and the scam victims can't get a "lawyer" friend to counter claim this $*hit?

Why is it that once these shenanigans have a GC or have become a citizen and the victim just sits tights counting the money they lost?

I say enough is enough! Someone needs to bring this people to justice. They want to stay? sure, but you need to give me my money back, for example.

Everyone has the right to sue for defamation, or distress and mental anguish; for harassment or hostile environment; for [fill in the blank]. Let's serve those idiots and see where it leads.

I know there was a case in Florida of a Cuban man that scammed a lady up to his name. She sued and accused him of rape. Well, the claim said, if you marry someone you claim to know completely and suddenly even his/her name is a lie, that person- who consummated the marriage- may feel violated. Now I don't know how this will affect scamming for immigration purposes, but hey, the point is the lady fought and won.

I think there's a network help scam victims in civil court, please advice.

Thank you and good luck!

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First thanks for being brave enough to share even when you know you are going to be kicked about by the Nigerians can do no wrong crowd.

In many Nigerian communities will assume you somehow tricked the system to get here. Even my husband has had a couple ask him "when will you be moving out because I know someone back home " when that isn't in his plans. Because there are so few that will win the DV lottery or really qualify for it and there is almost no other path to the US unless you are rich there , the internet is seen as a godsend of people ( usually woman ) more than willing to fall in love and fund the whole trip. Even though you have come forward , no one here that will be in your shoes in a year will see the signs in their relationships because there are so smitten by love they can't see straight. My husband thinks some are under the spell of native majic. Once in the hands of their respective Nigerian communitity here they are will cared for. Their people will go to all lengths to make sure they stay. I am certain he had statements from others about the bad acts you did and how you left him helpless on the streets to support his VAWA claim. If you have proof he is trolling for minors do report him. Reporting to the immedate childs parents will only make him find others , although he is probably after many already.

Every case like this is another reason Lagos is hell for legimate couples yet not hard enough to really rule out the fraud. The process is truely broken and not improving.

Obviously you know EXACTLY what I mean about the Nigerian community. And this is not a put down to those legitimate Nigerians in the US. Cause as anyone knows, who has read my posts, I am married to a Nigerian and living with him here in Ghana (for now). So this is not about Nigerians in general. But it is hitting the nail on the head when you say he has had all those "in the community" write letters to try to back his allegations. And it is just a shame that there is not a clause or something that will allow under certain situations for the "offender" to be questioned or at least present their own evidence. Its a damn shame and can you imagine how many times this must have happened? It's scary

No offense but whether her husband is from Nigeria or not, is not (at least to me) an issue. I have been to Nigeria many times and met some lovely Nigerian men and women, so before you say I know nothing of the culture you are wrong. Any person that scams their US Spouse should be removed and if they have filed a false VAWA and been granted a GC they should be stripped of it and removed from the US.

I totally get how the US Citizen feels in wanting to clear her name, if it had happened to me I would want to do the same. You're right I have not read her other posts, I am however commenting on this one and that's all there is to it.

OP if you feel you need to fight to clear your name go for it, otherwise chalk it up as a bad experience and lesson learned. All the best OP and good luck with the future

And to add to that, Im not making it out to be a Nigerian thing as well. If the guy had scammed me for a GC and left, then I probably wud just let it go...BUT becuz I know for a fact now that he has ran my name thru the mud to do it, thats where I am totally pissed off.

Glad someone else agreed with me. The problem is that VAWA doesn't contact the accused. The policy is definitely needed in society, but policy makers need to re-visit and ask questions about such concerns and how to rectify.

But we all know that issues like immigration, VAWA, etc...... are not going to take precedence over REAL issues that threaten America like Romney's tax returns and Obama's birth certificate.

SAD, but true.

"I then find out thru someone that he was given a greencard!!"

I really-really need your advice, OP, on how to find out LPR status of spouse. Help?

I actually found out cuz he was spilling the beans to someone that he did not know knew me. Other than that, they protect the rights of these fraudsters, so it is very hard to know.

Hi...

According to your post you are not 100% certain he filed VAWA.. I would expect that if he did you would have experienced problems when you petitioned your current husband..

HE DID. its 100% certain. And me and my husband live together in Ghana for 3 years. WE havent done any filing, petitioning or anything. We are cool and happy just being together. The day WILL come when we do go thru it, and I plan on being armed at that point to counter anything that scammer has ever said about me.

U R divorced so move on, your feelings are hurt, but he's off somewhere being happy...somehow this story does not

surprise me, these worldwind engagements uh....Oh well chalk it up as experience and get the proofs U have of him

luring the underage to the authorities & maybe contact her parents they'll move faster than the police who may feel U have

an axe to grind

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Whether the OP is remarried or not is of no concern of yours of mine, but I do know one thing, if I were her new partner I would be helping her fight to clear her name, I would help her every step of the way. So rather than making the OP feel guilty for trying to clear her name after been scammed and probably found guilty of abuse (VAWA) you should offer support and not make her feel guilty for trying to clear her name. I think your post is disgusting!

OP I wish you nothing but the best and I hope you get the guys backside thrown out of the US, GOOD LUCK

thanks you thank you thank you. This is the reason I hesitate at times to post on here, because people are sooo judgemental. But this is how we learn from each other right? Its totally humiliating to expose myself in this way and tell about how I was played for a fool, but I did it in hopes to getting help/advice. I suspect a lot of people who come on VJ while going thru their process, and then realize they've been scammed for GC, just walk away from the site out of embarassment and never come on here again. That was me! I was on here (akinstacey) faithfully back in 2006/2007 and then when he left, I stayed off for years. Never let anyone know what had happened. I don't think that helps anyone by doing that. But then again, when you open yourself up, and put your business out here, you unfortunately are subject to rude comments. I guess it comes with the territory.

What has your current husband said about the energy you've devoted to this?

Honestly, not much energy has been put into it. The information almost just fell on my lap. Now I feel like I should do something with it. He feels I should just write the USCIS a letter and detail all the events of him leaving, etc. and then just leave it in their hands. He also thought that the conversation the 16 year old girl forwarded me should be sent to his job, the police and most of all his family back in Nigeria. AFter that, he feels it will be in God's hands and just leave it at that. I kind of agree. But to me, he just does not deserve to be in the US. He got there on false pretenses. Why is he allowed to be there? It's just getting me mad.