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While i may be a pessimist, you seem to over estemate people and the amount of " good " in their heart.

PTSD from moving to another country? Like you said every one is unique therefor that is irrelevant. Do you realize how rare PTSD just from moving to a different country to get married and start your own life is? Home sickness would be the word.

How so you justify the husband trying his best not to take responsibility?trying his best to get OP to pay while limiting her and her interaction with the outside world and people in her family?

That fact that he was hesitant at first seems to somehow escape every one's mind. Why would a full grown man, perfectly capable of taking care of himself and the Oman he loves and her children, and honestly in love, be hesitant to move, to a completely free country, grow up, give up his partying ways and be responsible?

OP I pray to god I'm wrong, I hope your relationship works out, but at this point it looks like your dealing with a turtle. Someone who doesn't wanna grow up and act their age for whatever reason. I wouldn't invest much in this relationship unless he changes his ways

Goodness, you assume my mental upsets were from the move itself? That's not the cause of it, but flights are a trigger. The relocation simply hit harder because of it. I just have absolutely no interest in disclosing my personal history on an online forum.

And I never stated I moved to that country to get married. My husband is not from that country, and I met him several years later.

For the rest of your statement, it's not even worth responding to since you're already negatively biased and my original point was to shed light on the side most people don't look to while in "forum mode."

Premature judgments are useless.

Some culinary programs give you an associate's degree along the way. If you decide the AA is worth it, try to find a culinary program that includes it. It may take a semester or so longer.

I agree with the above statement. A basic AA in Liberal Arts/Sciences is basically a foundation degree to prep you for whatever BS/BA you want to follow up with.

That being said, higher education is a very smart move (especially in today's economical situation). But plan it out accordingly. There are 2-year degrees that are not so broad, pick a focus or specialization that you feel comfortable with. There are even certificate programs available that only take 18 months to complete.

And the time-tested phrase: it's not what you have, but what you do with it. Plan ahead, be aware of what could go wrong and what could go right, and explore all your options before committing.

But go for it!

My husband did this too. He went to a class, but they said he didn't even need to study so we just forked up the $35/test (5 tests total) and he had his GED finished within two weeks.

Totally worth it, very very easy, and he has a much better chance of employment. Go for it!

I'll follow suit with an earlier poster and first list my "qualifications."

BA. Psychology, 14 years of behavioral observation, and 4 years living abroad with an ex (in what I had hoped was going to be a lasting relationship).

The first thing I want to say is how shocked I am at how many people jump right into the attitude of failure and futility. It's easy to say those things from behind a monitor and when you don't know the full story, particularly when you're exposed to so many bad endings during work or television...

Secondly, give the adjustment period its full consideration before you dismiss it. Everyone is unique, and as such, we respond to different stresses and stimuli in different ways.

When I first moved abroad, I had developed full blown PTSD and downright shut absolutely everyone out of my internal thinking for a very long time. This is an extreme example, but my husband also has the same tactic. When things are hard, he'll clam up for awhile until it either gets too hard or until he's found a way to relieve it. And he did have a difficult time adjusting for the first few months (a lot of it was guilt from leaving his family).

All marriages have rough spots, and relocating is a very stressful ordeal for most people. Perhaps he simply doesn't want to expose that kind of hurt to you to various reasons, and is more comfortable blowing off steam with his friend than exposing you to anything unpleasant. As twisted as it sounds, I know several people who are much more comfortable showing their vulnerability to people who don't matter than wanting to show that "weakness" to their loved ones. Those who relocate really do sacrifice a lot in the process, more than they often expect.

The only advice I can really give is to give him some time and space, try to make yourself available for whenever he's ready to start communicating, and know where your limits lie. The real trouble isn't the marital difficulties, it's the necessity of balancing it with immigration hurdles. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope you keep us all updated with the (hopefully) good news and outcome. What can I say, I'm an optimist.

Thanks for the information. We've been waiting to get our NVC Case # in order to schedule the medical.

It doesn't look like you've filled out your timeline; when did you receive your NOA2 and from which service center?

Blaze's timeline is on my account, since he's my fiance You can check it through my profile. Our uscis was Cali and our embassy is ljubljana

There have been some hefty delays with approvals going from the California USCIS to NVC - looks like it started in early June though a few trickled in at the end of last week... Sounds like you only did the automated NVC check.. Once you are past 15 weekdays from your NOA2 the NVC will make an inquiry to the USCIS to find your paperwork.. On Monday give them a call and talk to person and they will give you instructions to make an inquiry and get your paperwork moving again..

USCIS wont help you - I talked to a tier 2 person about it and was told they have no visibility after approval...

Thank you,

Any particular reason for the mass delays and when they're likely to alleviate? We've compiled a few numbers to call, I've already sent emails to our representative and senator. It doesn't really ease our nerves any though at this point. One of the issues too is that there's an expiration date on our petition for October and if this delay sets in for another couple of months...

Okie dokie, here's how it's turned out. Since I can't delete my own posts, I'll share the resolution of this situation and hope someone else who falls into what I just did will be able to pull themselves out of it like I just did.

I ran to the post office, asked the teller if she could combine the two envelopes together and she just let me add the other forms to the original envelope because it's a flat rate envelope anyway. So problem solved, no separate envelopes and no missing data and no extra shipping fee.

Hopefully this is useful to someone. I need to go get a lot of chocolate now.

I received an RFE yesterday asking for more evidence of our meeting within the last 2 years and describing the circumstances that established our relationship.

I included the boarding passes, statements, receipts, passport stamps, etc...

But the question is, when I took copies of our passports, I only copied the ID page and the pages with passport stamps in them. I just over-nighted the packet and now I've been told that I was supposed to send copies of ALL the pages in both our passports. Is this particularly important? Will they cancel my petition because I only sent in the pages with the relevant information on it?

Also, his passport is empty aside from the pages he copied, and my passport is ruined because it took a bath with some soap. I only used the pages in my passport that put me in europe at the right time.

Thanks in advance... I'm flipping out about this already and sending this packet in was supposed to relieve stress, not cause more

I won't go so far as to say I know exactly how to make this all better for you, but I do understand. Not from a fiance's standpoint, but a personal one (I'll spare you my nightmare, but it's very similar with regards to the rude officers and the group patronization). It does happen, it's not exactly rare but it's also extremely rude. Basically, it's a power trip for the officers because it's very hard for them to be held accountable (and where I went through, no officer was ever reprimanded for complaints made against them).

That being said, my experience has always been upon entry to a particular foreign country, NOT the US. And here you do have more rights as an American citizen than I had as an international student. I regret every day that I didn't at least try to submit a complaint though, and my lack of doing so has severely affected my anxiety.

For no other reason, submit a complaint for your mental sanity! I have never been refused entry because of that particular officer's notes about me in their database; I was always questioned upon entry. It usually didn't last for more than a minute, they just asked something along the lines of "were you aware of this comment? Can you explain it?" and then I was on my way. I'm fairly positive that most officers are aware of the bad eggs within their profession and know to take the comments with a grain of salt.

Do what you can within your means, and trust your love to speak for itself. It's all you can do, don't let it tear your psyche apart like I let it do to me. Five years later and I'm still dealing with it, mostly because I didn't raise my voice when I should have.

In the initial petition of the I-129F form for the K1 visa; are you supposed to send in your proof of meeting in person, proof of intent to marry, proof of ability to marry, etc...?

I'm seeing different places saying yes and no so figured I'd ask.

Ok thanks, I didn't know it varied between embassies! I'll do a little research and see if it's worth the nervous breakdown or not. Thanks a lot!

This may well be one of those incredibly simple questions, but I can't seem to find a definitive answer on it. So here it goes, is it possible for me as the U.S. petitioning citizen of my foreign fiance to fly across the ocean to attend his K1 visa interview? And are the chances of a successful interview vastly increased by my doing so?

I have ptsd and have an extremely hard time flying, but I will if it puts our case in a much better light to the interviewer. But I'd rather know before it happens so I can plan accordingly whether or not it's worth the mental hassle.

Yeah, that's what I figured. Clarification is good in my experience though

This might be an incredibly stupid question, but just to clarify. I send the first couple of packets into a bureau somewhere in the US, depending on where I'm located. And they send those packets to the ljubljana bureau for his part of the process?

As of August, I'm making over the requirement (providing the requirement is still around 18.5k annually). But even if it's not, I'm still making over it. I've been reading around the site, and even in the 'to do' description list of affidavit of support documentation, it doesn't even list a tax reform requirement. So I'm really hoping.

I had to go through a similar process when I was 17 for a student visa into the UK and it ended with me having a permanent nervous disorder. So forgive me if I post a lot with a lot of my insecurities and paranoia. But thank you so much for the information!

Thank you so much! I think you made my decade

Here is the situation, I lived abroad from the ages of 18 to 22 (I'm 23 now). Thus there are no federal tax returns for me at all that show any income (as I was a student overseas and was not working). I moved back to the US in January, have been working since 2 weeks after I landed but until August I was not making the required amount of money to meet the 125% poverty line required.

Now, I have a sufficient income, but lack the federal tax returns as proof. And as I will not receive any federal tax return until January of 2012 to show my income, is there any other alternative methods of proving that I have the income to support my fiance? Or is the tax return absolutely required.

I'm sure it goes without saying that the thought of having to wait 2 years, plus the wait time of the visa processing fee, to be with my fiance is devastating in itself (let alone what the reality would be).

I'm sure this has probably been posted in a myriad of forms before me, but I can't seem to track down any stable thread that answers the question in full.

Thanks in advance, this has been bothering me for nearly a year now.