Danger Fire

And to the people who suggest to you who you should find ignore them I guess they do not know people have different likes It is beyond me why some people have to be so condescending to a perfect stranger asking for some advice. I grew up in outside of Dallas plan to move back to the area when I retire so I do not mind Helping a fellow Texan with out judgment.

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I noticed a couple of red flags, Bob23. My best friend from work was Chinese and I had a lot of interaction with Chinese students as graduate director at a University here. Occasionally we would see one with the same attitude:
Someone has a bigotry issue.
It's pretty hard to adapt to a place where you hate the people. Remember that you are also an American so when you say she looks down on "all Americans" you might want to consider that.
I agree with PumpkinPie too - you sure sound like a considerate guy, yet nothing seems good enough for her. That's an attitude problem, not a culture problem.
Personally, I would be thinking about whether this is a person I would want to marry as opposed to whether I can move heaven and earth to please them. You can't work hard enough to please someone that has that kind of attitude.
You can, however, lay it on the line and tell them that adapting to life here is a requirement and if they don't want to do it then it is time for an amicable parting.

I did want to thank those that replied to my question concerning Thai holidays. The responses gave me some good ideas. Well, except for daboyz response.