USA & ZA

Ok, once again i will say that i did not contact my congresswoman for special favors, i simply asked her immigration aid for advice... that is all.

For those who have offered information to me, I am highly grateful for you. Jim, you are an honest, intelligent, resourceful man and I thank you for the information that you have provided.

I have been researching this topic for over a month now and our next course of action will be for him to attempt to have the conviction expunged from his record. That will be the only way for him to get here.

But all legalities aside, I would like to address those who seem to enjoy jabbing me with remarks such as telling me to pack my bags and get out or he does not deserve to come to the US...

I am a mother of 2 and a teacher. That is how i met Conway. I was teaching in South Africa. we spent a lot of time together in a close setting and when that happens, you can really get to know someone, very well. I would not be fighting for him if i felt he was not worth it.

I feel like some of you gave "advice" with some pretty harsh jabs when you dont even know who we are. He messed up, period. and he is doing what he can to rectify that mistake. I know this does not mean he should get in the states but that does not mean that you have to be so cruel in delivering information.

I also teach my children the consequences of their actions, but i also teach my children compassion. It means a great deal to me that my children embrace all that succeed and suffer, most importantly those that suffer.

Once again, thank you for those that gave me advice on the law. It really helped and i hope that a guest reading this topic can learn a great deal about the law as well as the human spirit...

I want to make something clear here...

I did not write my congresswoman to grant special favors... I simply asked her the same question I asked here. I asked her if this was a clear case of denial, or if there was a chance to appeal...

I feel that some of you maybe blinded by the comfort of your own situation and cant see that there maybe room for possibility, so I just went to the source... my government...

I know what the law states and I am pretty certain that there are folks that got into this country on much serious offenses, or maybe even got here for other reasons other than marriage.

I am happy that all of you had everything lined up, according to the laws for your marriages...but there is nothing wrong with exhausting all options, or, "pulling straws" as you would call it for something that i believe in.

I know it sounds cliche to say to fight for love and maybe a bit ambitious and I know that it was serious drug, but the circumstances around it were not. I just dont see how someone could be admissible with 30 grams of Marijuana (which is a lot) and not on 1 gram of cocaine without at least hearing the circumstances around it.

The past month i have researched this issue and there is no flat out exclusion regarding that particular drug. I understand that something not noted has just as much meaning as being noted. But I feel that if there was nothing stated out right, there is wiggle room for issuance. I just have to find what makes it wiggle

I know it sounds cliche to say to fight for love and maybe a bit ambitious and I know that it was serious drug, but the circumstances around it were not. I just dont see how someone could be admissible with 30 grams of Marijuana (which is a lot) and not on 1 gram of cocaine without at least hearing the circumstances around it.

The past month i have researched this issue and there is no flat out exclusion regarding that particular drug. I understand that something not noted has just as much meaning as being noted. But I feel that if there was nothing stated out right, there is wiggle room for issuance. I just have to find what makes it wiggle

on another note.... what would happen if him and i married in south africa? could the k-3 be denied as well?

well i am not giving up... i just emailed both of my congressmen... i know it is a serious drug but that does not exclude anybody the right to happiness, I know what he is like now and I know that it will be worth it for me to fight for the man that i love...

this is really heart breaking but good to know.. i really appreciate all the advice.. I wish i could move to SA, but its just not possible.

I am engaged to my south African boyfriend and he was very forthcoming about his criminal past. I was wondering what the likely hood of him getting the k-1 visa issued because of this charge.

here are the details...

he was charged with possession of 1 gram of cocaine. He was not fined and had a suspended sentence of 3 years of which he has served just over half of that....he never needed to serve any jail time.

this is his only offense on his record.

we plan to be honest about it and we are also prepared to file the waiver of ineligibility. but i would like to know if this is possible...

thank you