Ann25

Hello Everyone. I would like to share my experience here as maybe it could help someone else (not sure if it works for other countries but I am from Philippines). This maybe a situation rarely happens.
I was 19 years old when I had a lived-in partner (American). I got pregnant and he left (like most stories happens). I started dating again someone online and met this man and we got engaged after I gave birth and was stupid enough to let my daughter use his family name and appears to be the father signed by him too (that appears on my daughter's BC). We broke up and I moved on and worked in Thailand (English teacher).
Few years after I decided to date someone online (again) and he came to meet me and my daughter and petitioned us after (K1 visa). I had my interview last March 2010 and was given this 221g. It states that I need to provide a father's consent and US passport for my daughter. I posted here before asking for some advice and even thought of giving up. But then, talk with some lawyers in Philippines and they said we will try to find an attorney at my hometown and have this correction of live birth. Working in Thailand, I ask my mothers help and found one lawyer who would do it. With the help of my mom and back and forth mails of documents, we were able to do it. It took us a year for having the corrected live birth approved by the court. With all evidences (my statement only no documents that he came here after my child was born, posted it on the local newspaper) that he isn't the biological father and no communications and support we were blessed to have it approved (1 year after). So after my daughter received her new passport, she went back to Thailand and we gave the new Birth certificate.
The form 221g is valid for one year. Just before it expires, I went back to the embassy telling them I need more time and they gave me another year. Then, my fiance and I decided to let me come to US first and have my daughter follow-to-join ( since we have to wait 3 months process for her corrected live birth certificate be available at the NSO and 2 months process for the new passport) so I went back to the embassy telling them we decided to have my daughter follow-to-join so they gave me another form stating what documents we need (new medical, tax, affidavit of support). Then, later on decided to just wait for my daughter (2 months process for her passport). When she was ready, she came to Thailand and we went back to the embassy but they gave us another 221g that we need supporting documents or evidences from my fiance that he can support us since his tax is negative and new medical for my daughter. Then, went back to the embassy again with all that they needed but because too many people are ahead of us that day, they can't review our papers so we have to leave our passports and wait for their call. Few days after, received a call from them and our visa was ready. FINALLY!
But anyways, I learned that there will always be ways and if you both really want to be together, you will have the patience to wait and wait and wait. Some may have an easy quick process and some may not. Just don't give up.
We are finally here and got married to him. Life is never easy between us now as I have been posting some topics here but I believe we can go through it. Just keep on praying.
God bless!

Years back, I had this american ex bf (daughter of my child) and we were together in Cebu. One main thing our relationship didn't work out because he always see the bad things, complains and insult. I mean, most of what he said was true coz that's what he saw but the thing was RESPECT. I am a filipino and I know how bad it is, how people live in squatters area, etc. But one thing I learned when I moved to Thailand, if you go to other country, have/show respect. We all have different cultures, lives, attitudes, etc so we can't judge everybody like the same.
He always say how poor filipinos are, cheap, monkeys or whatever he likes calling it, it hurts and bothers me coz I am a filipino. When I got pregnant he left. I asked for child support and he tells me why not let my cheap parents take care of us. First, why would my parents do that, where they there at the time we made the baby? I worked hard for me and my daughter to live. At times I ask help from him, he gives but he tells so much ####... so everytime I had this fight conversation with him, I told him... well, guess you are the cheapest stupidest worst person.. you complain how things are in Philippines and your blood your daughter, you wanted her to live a life like that (we are not poor, we are not rich). He always say how good things are in US but he never even wanted to help to get her a US passport coz it COST MUCH, he can't even spend 100 or 200 dollars for her daughter, how cheap is that?
Most americans or wherever they are from may have bad experience with filipinos, we (some) filipinos too. We all have different stories here. There's just one thing, RESPECT. You wanted to marry a filipina, try to be open-minded, know what you are getting. if you love the person, accept everything. why marry someone then if you have all this issues coming through your mind.
I'm married now, he came to Thailand and not to Philippines. He met my parents online and maybe a year or 2, will visit Philippines. Everytime we had to go somewhere, I tell him stories about Philippines specially, roads, food, traffic, and people. I show him how I like to eat and everything I can show that he could atleast expect and tell him Im worried maybe you won't survive in Philippines lol (that was just a joke). He tells me, it doesn't matter. All he cares is us together, our family and meeting my parents. If we are happy and safe, then there's nothing to worry about.
Do I make sense here?

Years back, I had this american ex bf (daughter of my child) and we were together in Cebu. One main thing our relationship didn't work out because he always see the bad things, complains and insult. I mean, most of what he said was true coz that's what he saw but the thing was RESPECT. I am a filipino and I know how bad it is, how people live in squatters area, etc. But one thing I learned when I moved to Thailand, if you go to other country, have/show respect. We all have different cultures, lives, attitudes, etc so we can't judge everybody like the same.
He always say how poor filipinos are, cheap, monkeys or whatever he likes calling it, it hurts and bothers me coz I am a filipino. When I got pregnant he left. I asked for child support and he tells me why not let my cheap parents take care of us. First, why would my parents do that, where they there at the time we made the baby? I worked hard for me and my daughter to live. At times I ask help from him, he gives but he tells so much ####... so everytime I had this fight conversation with him, I told him... well, guess you are the cheapest stupidest worst person.. you complain how things are in Philippines and your blood your daughter, you wanted her to live a life like that (we are not poor, we are not rich). He always say how good things are in US but he never even wanted to help to get her a US passport coz it COST MUCH, he can't even spend 100 or 200 dollars for her daughter, how cheap is that?
Most americans or wherever they are from may have bad experience with filipinos, we (some) filipinos too. We all have different stories here. There's just one thing, RESPECT. You wanted to marry a filipina, try to be open-minded, know what you are getting. if you love the person, accept everything. why marry someone then if you have all this issues coming through your mind.
I'm married now, he came to Thailand and not to Philippines. He met my parents online and maybe a year or 2, will visit Philippines. Everytime we had to go somewhere, I tell him stories about Philippines specially, roads, food, traffic, and people. I show him how I like to eat and everything I can show that he could atleast expect and tell him Im worried maybe you won't survive in Philippines lol (that was just a joke). He tells me, it doesn't matter. All he cares is us together, our family and meeting my parents. If we are happy and safe, then there's nothing to worry about.
Do I make sense here?

Just my opinion. I'm a Filipina. I used to work in Thailand and most of the time I send my parents some money when I have extras specially birthdays, Christmas and New Years or buy tickets and let them come to Thailand. I love doing that for them, it makes me happy. I love sending them to restaurants so they can have dinner. I just love seeing the pictures lol. When my daughter went to study in Philippines, I took care of her needs and bought them a motorcycle (monthly payment until now) Then, I had to come here and I told them before we got here that I will still pay for it every month, I'll just ask my husband. But when we got here, things change. I couldn't ask my husband. With him working hard, paying all the bills and taking care of us, I don't want to add a hundred dollars or two. He'll say yes for sure but I just couldn't. So I told my parents just for the mean time while I'm waiting for my visa so I can find a job SOON lol, they could pay for it (5000 a month is not easy for them) and promised them that I'll pay the money back they paid and pay the rest of it. I know it's my obligation to pay for it but being a single mom for 6 years, paying all bills, etc, I know how hard it is for them but I don't want to put pressure on my husband too.
The thing is, if maybe you could talk to your wife (I'm sure all wife knows every situation) and she could talk to her family. I should say for me, it's better if you save the money here than sending money monthly there when no emergency or something so that when they big emergency there, you have the money. I know for some, they have extras and for some, its just enough for the living. If you can't afford, then don't do it. But if you wanted then send some that's enough. (I don't want to offend others if ever but just my opinion) Well, maybe if she has her own work and she wants to send her money there, thats her choice because she works for that.