Chrissy25

Well thanks everyone, but hubby called me from work, he has to mail it tommorrow as it dumped snow down here and by the time he got to the post office he would have been late back for work, so it gets mailed tommorrow!

My husband is mailing our I-751 at lunch, finally is off.....two weeks before our deadline!!! wish us luck!

she's not my type. I'd prefer to look like Scarlett Johansson

or Milla Jovovich

fair play, i mean i'd look like scarlett Jo, she does have a great rack

you could go out of town perhaps but that would be a little harsh

I do realize that you are probably working and can't afford to go out of town and running away from problems is not the best way to deal with.

TRUST ME...the thought for the briefest moment crossed my mind!!

I can imagine the frustration. Perhaps that's her way of expressing her love for you...but maybe there is a tactful way to acknowledge your appreciation for that love while letting her know that way she expresses it is overbearing? Best wishes and hope you two won't end up in a big fight when she visits.

thanks steven....i guess for the most part i just have to grin and bear it......i just refuse to get to the point of having a fight with her, especially as now we have a one yr old son and i will not argue when he is around...

Chrissy,

Regardless if your relationship is strained or not, imo i wouldnt be too happy in the least to get a phone call telling me i was getting company in x amount of hours. I kinda see her point in wanting to see her grandchild more, but it is your life, and you can choose where to live and whats best for you. If she starts on with the guilt, i would tell her im sorry you feel this way and i know its hard for you not being able to see the baby, but at the end of the day i am happy with my choice to be here, and for the sake of everyone, rows over this get us no where, and ask her not to bring it up again. If she didnt respect my wishes id ask her to leave. But thats just me.

thankyou so much!!!! that is exactly how i feel.......you read my mind It gets so strained and stressful, i just don't feel they care if its short notice or not. I said to my hubby if the conversation turns that way i ask her to drop it or leave...thanks for the input

if you can afford it, put her up at a hotel and then you can minimize the interference from her.

they are staying in a hotel, they booked before they came. Interference is minimized only for as long as she knocks at our door

Well, i was changing our son when the phone rang. Couldent get there in time but it was my mum and she left a message, her and her husban are sat on a plane on there way over to see us. Now i feel annoyed, they never told us they were coming and my mother and i have a strained relationship sometimes to say the least. She always goes on about us moving back to England and a huge fight always happens. She uses guilt tactics about how she is away from our 1 year old son, but i refuse to live my life for anyone else....uhhh sorry for ranting but need some thoughts

I went to this site that all the ladies use to see if the Avatars or Avitars or how every you say them had versions that were more realistic than what everyone is using, and they do, I mean thick.

It made me stop and think about our own personal self image... Is it what we see in our minds what we really see in the mirror? I think a vast majority of us see ourselves skinnier than we really are, or is it just me...

M.

Just you.

The rest of us see you as thicker than you really are.

omg. hilarious.

OMG there are no words for how sick i feel. I hope this sick f****r gets raped daily and feels the utmost pain for the rest of his miserable life

lovely room stina, we had the rainforest waterfall soother that attachs to the crib, Dylan loved it!!!

he is absolutly adorable steven, congrats. Its unreal how fast they grow, our little guy is a yr old today, seems like 2 minutes since he was so small

congratulations to you both!!!!! all the best

does it matter when the examples of our bank statements are randomly dated, meaning i cant find our bank statements in order but found a couple from last year and one from this yr...should that be ok? Plus our bill statements are the same

Mommies...look what Adam can do since yesterday http://s181.photobucket.com/albums/x244/Ev...nt=MOV03865.flv

Needless to say that I am one proud mom...

wonderful video eveline, i can't wait for my little guy to do that

I never heard of donor milk when I was working there, but I wouldn't want another womans milk in my child anyway.

I find this quite amusing....People don't want another HUMAN'S milk, but will happily give their baby an ANIMAL'S milk?

Bc theres a big difference between..." ok son, dont worry, tommys moms milk is real good" as opposed to " one of those cows out there just fed you"

very true Sinergy........

maybe, but it hits a sore spot for me....hubbys family are very pro breastfeeding which i have nothing against, i would have LOVED to have breastfed my son, i just feel sometimes people look at you as less of a mother because shock horror you gave your child the bottle.

How does it work - the bigger your tits are, the more milk you produce?

Chrissy, how big are your tits?

wow i am not even going there.....and no size dosent matter

oh my goodness, i tried and tried but i could not produce enough no matter what i did, my son was a preemie, does this make me less of a mother because i didnt produce enough??! As long as my son is healthy i couldent give two craps if i did or did not breastfeed. Its not just about latching issues, if you are told by your doctor after weeks of trying you dont produce enough milk, end of story.

PREEMIES NEED BREAST MILK EVEN MORE THAN A FULL TERM BABY. There are studies after studies that babies do everything better if they breastfeed. Some hospitals even have donars for beast milk to give to preemies because they know breast milk will help the baby develop better and faster.

Unfortunately Doctors do not teach the mothers how to produce more milk but it is VERY easy to do. Using massage methods with the breasts will increase the milk production. My wife learned this method and if she wasn't careful she produced way too much milk. Our pediatrician said "if you do this method you can feed the whole neighborhood" It worked great, our baby is almost 6 months and never had any problems. We were in the grocery store the other day and a couple had a baby the same age but half the size of our baby, he was bottle fed. I have always been healthy and so has my wife so our genes help too I am sure.

Another thing to consider is that it has been proven that breastfed babies are at a much lower risk for many deseases when they are older too.

All I would like to say is that if at all possible mothers should try to breastfeed for the first 6 months for your child's future. We have been fortunate in that my wife doesn't have to work but even working moms can breastfeed in the morning and evenings if they go back to work.

Our baby eats at 7:00am, 1:00pm, 3:00pm, and 8:00pm. He has been sleeping from 9:00pm until 6 or 7 am since he was 2 months old. He is almost 6 months now and starting to eat Gerber.

I have children from a previous marriage and their mother would not breastfeed because she said it was too much trouble. I see my new wife and her commitment to our baby's health and I understand ALL the advantages of breastfeeding.

excuse me but i take offense to this comment....actually the whole thing. How many ways do i have to phrase that I DID NOT PRODUCE ENOUGH MILK. Do not begin to think you know my situation or what i went through. Where are these studies that you talk about that states they do better in EVERYTHING when they are breastfed? And no way did i want, nor have i heard of hospitals having donor milk, i did not want my child having another womans milk....that is MY choice. Do you not think we stimulated my breasts to get milk, i tried for weeks, if the milk won't come in it won't come in. My son is the same weight and height as my friends baby who was born 8 days LATE. Her son was breastfed. I am not saying they are not major advantages to breastfeeding, but by no means did i CHOOSE not to, it was after much trying a decsion that was made for me

I really don't think any woman can know how it feels when you want to nurse your baby and cannot. My son was a premie and would never latch on. He'd take to the nipple on a bottle just fine though. I cannot tell you the hours I would sit trying to get him to nurse and he wouldn't. I'd just sit and cry thinking i was a bad mother. Well, like others, my milk never would come it (docs said it was due to my thyroid freaking out after delivery) and years later we found out my son is autistic which his doctors beleive is another reason he wouldn't latch on. The nipples on the bottles were soft and easy for him to use and latching on to me would require more of a sucking reflex which he did not have and still does not really have.

My daughter was a different story. Even though she was a premie she came out sucking like a hoover!!!! I did nurse her, but I was not one of the woman that thinks nursing was a present experience and I stiopped at 6 months and pumped for another six.

I later worked part-time with a lactation consultant helping new moms learn to breastfeed because it certainly is a learning experience. I cannot tell you how many new moms I would see emotional drained, stressed, frustrated, etc because it just was not working out for them and the majority of woman were not breastfeeding because they wanted to, but because their moms, friends....whoever was preaching to them that it was for the best. Yeah, maybe breast is best, but I see a number of kids every day that were not breastfed and they are perfectly healthy.

When I worked in PICU most of the premies couldn't even suck to get breast milk. Most babies would have a NG tube in place and they would get rice. If the mother was able to pump, we'd put her milk through the tube. I never heard of donor milk when I was working there, but I wouldn't want another womans milk in my child anyway.

thankyou Aymerlu that IS how i felt, you hit the nail on the head and i agree with your post 100%

dueling boobies

thank goodness for the light relief......

oh my goodness, i tried and tried but i could not produce enough no matter what i did, my son was a preemie, does this make me less of a mother because i didnt produce enough??! As long as my son is healthy i couldent give two craps if i did or did not breastfeed. Its not just about latching issues, if you are told by your doctor after weeks of trying you dont produce enough milk, end of story.

PREEMIES NEED BREAST MILK EVEN MORE THAN A FULL TERM BABY. There are studies after studies that babies do everything better if they breastfeed. Some hospitals even have donars for beast milk to give to preemies because they know breast milk will help the baby develop better and faster.

Unfortunately Doctors do not teach the mothers how to produce more milk but it is VERY easy to do. Using massage methods with the breasts will increase the milk production. My wife learned this method and if she wasn't careful she produced way too much milk. Our pediatrician said "if you do this method you can feed the whole neighborhood" It worked great, our baby is almost 6 months and never had any problems. We were in the grocery store the other day and a couple had a baby the same age but half the size of our baby, he was bottle fed. I have always been healthy and so has my wife so our genes help too I am sure.

Another thing to consider is that it has been proven that breastfed babies are at a much lower risk for many deseases when they are older too.

All I would like to say is that if at all possible mothers should try to breastfeed for the first 6 months for your child's future. We have been fortunate in that my wife doesn't have to work but even working moms can breastfeed in the morning and evenings if they go back to work.

Our baby eats at 7:00am, 1:00pm, 3:00pm, and 8:00pm. He has been sleeping from 9:00pm until 6 or 7 am since he was 2 months old. He is almost 6 months now and starting to eat Gerber.

I have children from a previous marriage and their mother would not breastfeed because she said it was too much trouble. I see my new wife and her commitment to our baby's health and I understand ALL the advantages of breastfeeding.

excuse me but i take offense to this comment....actually the whole thing. How many ways do i have to phrase that I DID NOT PRODUCE ENOUGH MILK. Do not begin to think you know my situation or what i went through. Where are these studies that you talk about that states they do better in EVERYTHING when they are breastfed? And no way did i want, nor have i heard of hospitals having donor milk, i did not want my child having another womans milk....that is MY choice. Do you not think we stimulated my breasts to get milk, i tried for weeks, if the milk won't come in it won't come in. My son is the same weight and height as my friends baby who was born 8 days LATE. Her son was breastfed. I am not saying they are not major advantages to breastfeeding, but by no means did i CHOOSE not to, it was after much trying a decsion that was made for me

thanks, thats exactly how i felt, my son is now a happy healthy boy and formula has made leaps and bounds from what it used to be, i spent long enough beating myself up about not producing enough milk, no lactation consultant or wishful thinking would have made me produce what was not there!

See, I beat myself up over not having vaginal birth. I cried and cried, felt like a failure and wondered just why my body didn't do what it was supposed to. After all, it sounds easy from what other women say. Go into labor, baby drops, push...baby comes out. Wasn't that easy for me. I'm still not over it and hope that I don't have to go through it again.

i went through c-section as well, and i felt like that a little, my situation was a little different, my sons heart rate started dropping from the epidural so emergency c-section was the only way, it was at the time the safest o[tion for us both

People keep going on about those who can't breast feed. Who are these mystery people? Why can't they? What are the REAL medical conditions that stop them from doing so? There can't be too many or man would have died out some time ago.

It happens more often than you might think. My sister couldnt produce enough milk and had to supplement. My SIL never could get either of her children to keep an interest in the breast for more than the first couple of weeks. I met a woman at my WIC appointment today whose milk never came in. There are many different problems and it can be very stressful, which makes it even harder. My first 2 days of nursing were very trying. I literally bawled my head off in front of every doctor, nurse, and family member I had in the hospital because I was having so much trouble feeding my son. It hurt so bad, I had no sleep, we were both frustrated, etc. Such frustrations can seriously impact a woman's milk production and eventually cause her to abandon breastfeeding altogether.

maybe, but it hits a sore spot for me....hubbys family are very pro breastfeeding which i have nothing against, i would have LOVED to have breastfed my son, i just feel sometimes people look at you as less of a mother because shock horror you gave your child the bottle.

I can understand how you feel. Its hard not to take it personally when you had your heart set on nursing and are unable to. I was hell bent on nursing my son. Even though I told myself Id go to formula if I had to, I wasnt going down without a fight. Thankfully, it all worked out fine. I have more milk than my son needs and we have no problems nursing, it just took some patience and creativity. I do give him a bottle of formula once every few days when we go out (like to the grocery store) because I dont have a breast pump, its difficult to express into a bottle, and its very hard to nurse while shopping. Even though he does much better on my milk, I dont feel like a bad mother for giving his nutrition via formula. Im thankful that they have made such advances in infant formula, so I can provide my baby with an acceptable substitute for breastmilk when needed.

thanks, thats exactly how i felt, my son is now a happy healthy boy and formula has made leaps and bounds from what it used to be, i spent long enough beating myself up about not producing enough milk, no lactation consultant or wishful thinking would have made me produce what was not there!

maybe, but it hits a sore spot for me....hubbys family are very pro breastfeeding which i have nothing against, i would have LOVED to have breastfed my son, i just feel sometimes people look at you as less of a mother because shock horror you gave your child the bottle.

oh my goodness, i tried and tried but i could not produce enough no matter what i did, my son was a preemie, does this make me less of a mother because i didnt produce enough??! As long as my son is healthy i couldent give two craps if i did or did not breastfeed. Its not just about latching issues, if you are told by your doctor after weeks of trying you dont produce enough milk, end of story.

You know, for people who can't breastfeed and had to use formula having the whole breast is best shoved down your throat gets old, my son is 12 months and had formula and turned out just fine thanks

thanks everyone, you have all put my mind at ease! and yep i will defiatly do priority mail with signed confirmation