ya fallaha!

Look I have no beef with you, but I gotta believe you were referring to me. I asked who you were referring to and you ignored me. There are no other "noobs" or new members in MENA that got involved with the Olivia drama. I'm the only one who has a newer id. Anyways, I understand Olivia is your girl and you may believe that anyone who goes against her is evil. It's cool. I'm not manifesting anything. I've never had issue with you, it was you who had issue for me for some reason.

At any rate. I will leave you all to your fun.

Why don't YOU tell me then and GTFO? I didn't accuse you, MOODY. You are manifesting something that isn't so. Bury the past so it doesn't overlap the present...if you are capable of doing such.

G-d!

I apologize for drama but why don't you tell your friend, Nagi the same? I realize you don't know me but be fair. She accused me of spying (lolz) and said I was evil. I wasn't evil when she needed my help. If she wanted to call me evil and accuse me of spying, etc. Why didn't she PM me in the first place? It's acceptable for her to post that about me but it's not acceptable for me to defend myself?

Can we keep the drama and accusations out of this thread? If you have an issue, PM someone about it.

Jesus.

I'm not trying to start anything, Susita. Believe me I'm not. If someone called you evil and accused you of being a "spy" and a fake noob, wouldn't you want to defend yourself? She has no basis for this statement. I guess I could report her and threaten to sue for defamation of character but I'm a big girl and can defend myself without threats and in a reasonable manner.

Sorry, didn't quote. I was referring to Sandrila's Obama pic about "big brother is watching".

Are you ppl are out of your damn minds with this watching stuff? This is public! Hahaha...I didn't just crack the davinci code I just was reading the forum I usually read. You guys are crack ups.

watching? what are you talking about?

Are you ppl are out of your damn minds with this watching stuff? This is public! Hahaha...I didn't just crack the davinci code I just was reading the forum I usually read. You guys are crack ups.

Apparently your friend here has something against me for some reason. I've never done anything to her. If she can reach back in her memory vault she would recall that I helped her long ago in regards to immigration. I encouraged her to go to Egypt to meet her now husband way back when. Now I'm evil. Oh well, can't win 'em all.

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I think I missed something

So I take it you are referring to me. Evil? Doubtful. However, I am not a noob, never pretended to be a noob. I wanted a name change, couldn't do it, created a new id. Never hid who I was here. I even kept my old avatar for awhile so that ppl would know who I was. Spying? How does one go about spying on a PUBLIC site? This is not the military nor is it a covert operation of any kind. This is a forum meant for immigration help and entertainment. Conspiracy theories are not your forte.

Who are you referring to?

I hope the spy-trying-to-play-n00b got suspended, too.

Oh lookie here, the Queen of Delusion and Big Important Plans That Never Materialize coming to join us in the daily. Wish I had an extra rainbow for ya.

As others said above, you must either apply for AOS and/or EAD before obtaining a Social Security number. May I suggest that you hold off on filing AOS until you have been married close to two years? If AOS is approved AFTER you've been married two years you will be granted the 10 year permanent residency instead of the two year. You can always apply for a stand alone EAD card as soon as you arrive in the US. This will enable you to work and apply for a Social Security card. The EAD should take around 3-5 months to receive.

Did you at least learn a few key words like habibi and alby?

For you m_4_m ....

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awwww, your so sweet.

Thanks now I have some nice tunes to listen to now. I was listening to some arabic radio stations here at work on my desk so that I could learn arabic but it's nearly impossible for me!

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hahaha! ohhhh the irony. his little glasses are very charming.

i'm sick. and it sucks. if i weren't sick i would want to go out for mexican food and a non-alcoholic margarita in a second, to paraphrase another thread here. that sounds bloody amazing. but i would probably frighten anyone and everyone i encountered if i left my house...i look even worse than i feel. ugh.

Are we gonna throw down over Mr. Peace Train himself?

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OMG girl Cat Stevens is the man!

Heck yes...margaritas are a fantastic idea. Don't change who you are for a man. You like margaritas, you have you some margaritas.

Beth, this doesn't sound good at all. He should not be bitching about the visa and throwing it in your face like that. He should understand that your hands are just as tied as his. From what you say he's way too into the visa. I don't know him so I could be wrong but I don't think I am. I have my own opinion about financially supporting an adult but I'll save that. I will say that you chose to send him the money and treat him like a child instead of a husband, why does it surprise you that he's now behaving like a child?

Only he can tell you why. Stop trying to call, stop e-mailing, it's making you look desperate. It's making him know he's winning the "game". Take time and relax but don't be alone 100% of the time. Have a gf come over and have some wine or a cocktail or two. Get your mind off of him and this process awhile.

Does he think the "bigamy" stuff is the cause of all this? How soon into the relationship did you inform him of this "situation"? I realize that this happened when you were young, etc. but does he think you're at fault because of it? Is he upset about the prospect of having to return to Algeria? Were you being nasty with him and he turned the tables on you? I don't say this to be hard on you but I know personally I've been nasty to the mister and he's gone a bit overboard on me.

I know you're stressed. I know immigration is a b!tch to deal with. LDRs suck azz. Just give it a little time. Maybe take a few days off from each other and see what happens. If he truly loves you he will apologize and get back in the waiting game with you and stop blaming. If not and he keeps this blaming shitt up and he's focused only on immigration then good riddance to him. Then you'll know what he's really after...you or the visa.

In what context was he telling you to f-off? What was said beforehand? I'm not being nosey but I'm curious as to what happened. Ppl don't just say f-off you b!tch unless something happened. I'm sorry but I fail to believe a man would destroy his marriage over something like immigration. Not saying what he said was cool but I've said some real uncool stuff to my husband over the years and we're still hanging in there.

He blames me for all of this, he blames everything on others, and just wont listen to reason anymore.

Thinks Im hiding something, and thinks that why we are in limbo, AP or AR.

Yelled at me un-mercifully this am on phone, yelling at me cause HE wont go get his passport when embassy said he can come and get it any time. Ive just had enough, Im tired, for a very long time now, this is all Ive done, and worked 10 hours a day Mon thru Fri. take care of a large house, yard, my dogs, Ive lived and breathed him and this process, and now Im just tired. Im tired of being a good girl and dutiful wife, and getting ripped apart over the little things.

In what context was he telling you to f-off? What was said beforehand? I'm not being nosey but I'm curious as to what happened. Ppl don't just say f-off you b!tch unless something happened. I'm sorry but I fail to believe a man would destroy his marriage over something like immigration. Not saying what he said was cool but I've said some real uncool stuff to my husband over the years and we're still hanging in there.

I'd say staying away from VJ for awhile may do a world of good right now. Not being negative or mean in any way. Just saying that all the stories (good and bad) and drama and comparing your life to everyone else is not helpful to you in your current state of mind. I doubt your marriage is over, you're experiencing stress right now. Lots of stress. Stress like that can cause ppl to say and do things they normally wouldn't do. Keep in mind that you are not the first nor the last case that AP/AR has been granted without a paper or explanation given. My husband and I were in it for 4 months without any inkling of when and if it was going to end. Don't think that just because you weren't granted a visa johnny on the spot that it's all over. Unless, someone at the consulate told you otherwise. Did anyone say you have been denied? Don't freak out and destroy your marriage over this. Maybe take a break and spend some time with some gfs and really think about what is important. Is it more important for him to get his visa ASAP or is it more important for you to be together eventually?

Yeah I remember what it was like waiting. I also know that patting ppl on the back and telling them it will be all better does nothing especially when it may never be "all better". So B&S can be as rude as she wants because she's waiting but ppl can't respond to it? She's only been waiting 2 months, that's nothing for Cairo. If you can still be here, so can everyone else. Telling ppl to take it to PM is rich considering I'd be willing to bet my life that most of you ppl here rip the shitt out of each other in PM or IM or what have you. That is most of y'all's MO...be nice on VJ and gather info then rip on your so called friends behind their back. Don't be mad that some ppl have the balls to say what they feel on here and some don't. It may not be helpful but it's also not helpful to say oh poor you and here's a sparkly unicorn for your troubles.

Thank you. Life's NOT a bed of roses once the SOs get here. There are plenty of vents to be had after the proverbial visa journey is over.

I understand that AR is not easy to deal with but like you said, there are others who have waited a lot longer than you. How do you think they feel when you're griping about two months when they've waited 6 or 9 or more months? No one really knows why consulates/embassies/state dept makes us wait but be sure they're doing it for OUR own good. Maybe you think your husband is clean as a whistle but the gov't doesn't know and it's their JOB to find this out. Let them do their job.

BTW, husband was in AR for 4 months (Cairo, too). I know what waiting feels like.

Once your husband sends in his new military exemption certificate I think things will be cool. I wouldn't worry about it unless they give you another RFE. My husband's cert is NOT from the ministry of war.

Well Annie since you put it that way I'd have a hard time naming a Muslim daughter Jennah, lol. It's an ok name but too "American" sounding for my taste. Plus, ppl would pronounce it Jenna.