Mckenziemick

There's not much more for me to say here peoples,Thanks to all those who are sane here for your wisdom and support.

You're right...it's not a joke.

What do you mean - "living in the best of both worlds now"..? Is she coming & going as she pleases? His home & yours...?

Please expound....

Yes she has been coming and going as she pleases.She has the new car,makes no household,car,insurance payments.And is still sleeping in his bed.Doing what she wants when she wants.We have a joint counseling apt.on Friday.Say's she'll try to my parents with no emotion.The week she spent away from me was with him.How can you go through counseling to save the marriage when your living with him.

Be careful Pinays have crab mentality someone is probably talking ####### about ur life So u will leve her and be as miserable as her lol

Not really a laughing matter here when it comes to my heart.I find it hard to believe she is miserable ,,she's living in the best of both worlds now.

You need to determine whether this is something you can get past with your wife or not. Some can. Some cannot.

If you go for a divorce, you will be better served by putting your hurt/anger/etc on tha back burner and proceed with the legalities in a stable state of mind. If she admits to an affair which leads to the breakdown of the marriage, then you have a very good chance of not paying spousal support. Child custody and support are an entirely different matter. You need to think carefully about what is best for the child - not you or your wife - but the child, then proceed accordingly.

Yes you are right, this now is all about what's best for my child.I will do everything in my power to protect my little Princess,And yes she has admitted about her boyfriend.

How about trying seeing a therapist together?

That is where I left it yesterday with her,she tells me she is going to have some space for a week and think.

If nothing comes of that it's me that needs to talk all this out with someone.

before you think about divorce, talk with her, openly. If it is true and why it happened. Maybe there is enough love on both sides to safe your marriage. I wish you all the best.

Yes we've talked but she is confrontational ,it is true she admits it and tells me why,My little girl is in play here and I am scared about all this and what may come ahead

Yes that's right ,I have talked to my lawyer ,and there is a no fault cause in Oregon.SO looks like the Affair means nothing other than my heartbreak

Thanks everyone for your support.

Please excuse me for not filling in my timeline,,she is a permanent resident now.

So what you're saying is I still have to support her how long.We've been married 4 years she's been working for almost one year.

The I-134 is what I filled

Yes I've confronted her ,this unknown caller was his mother-in-law ,I'm sorry I didn't state that in my post I am in contact with his wife and they as well have a 4 year old.My wife and him are in a photo together in his facebook page.This is going on and has been for months.I have proof from his wife with all the texts and phone calls since November.and multiple photos together.I have a lawyer already but I'm confused to file because I still love her with all my heart.She told me yesterday she wanted space to think about it for a week.I told her she can't keep seeing him and then showing up here at the house when ever she feels like it.I don't want to lose my wife ,I'm torn as hell.I guess my question here is not about the green card but my liability of still havign to support her since she has created this affair

She has her Green card

Thank you ,I started a new thread

We've been married since January 16th 2010.Visa Journey was a great help with my own processing of all the legal papers.We were blessed with a beautiful baby girl one year later.

My Daughter three years old now.My wife started working at the end of April 2013.I was so proud of her to have her first ever job.This past Saturday I receive a phone call from a unknown person stating the my wife was having a relation ship with her co-worker.And had been since November 2013.I had suspected something was going on since about then with her not coming home several nights after going out with her friends.Needless to say my life is turned upside down now.I'm posting here to see if anyone knows if there are any Immigration laws about an affair.This is a huge mess I'm in.I love my wife so much and I'm deeply hurting inside.I want my family back.My main concern here is to protect Daughters stability with me.Please advise me if possible.Thank you

My Wife of 4 years is having an affair. Where do I stand with all the support I am obligated to .It's been awhile since I've been here and I forgot how to navigate the site so surely I'm posting in the wrong place..I am so emotionally drained now could someone direct me to the right thread?

Listen, I can tell you that you are NOT out of status. My wife and I waited nearly a year and a half to file for AOS. We recently made 2 different Infopass appointments to speak with an officer due to our fears that she was "out of status". It just isn't true. Why would two seperate officers tell us that she is not out of status if that were the case? That term is used for all other visa holders that allow their visas to expire. We were very concerned that she wouldn't be allowed back into the states if she used her approved travel document (AP) and possibly face a ban for several years. This was the info that some members were feeding us. You can technically wait as long as you wish to Adjust Status. You just can't work, travel, obtain a driver's license, etc. etc. That is a big setback. Of course you need to keep your nose clean because you technically don't have any document proving your validity. If you feel you can live problem free until you're ready to adjust, that's up to you. Don't let anyone tell you that you waited too long or that you're out of status. You're NOT married to an illegal alien. Rest well.

Thank you for the advice

everything the pp said is correct i would only add that you should keep your s.o. away from borders as well to be safe i believe there have been members here who have had problems with being out of status. we were late late late aos filers and were approved without incident. good luck and congrats on getting married.

Thank you both for your advice,we are working hard trying to finalize all the correct info for the forms.If anyone else has more to add I'd love to hear from you.Thank you thank you,Michael and Jenny

Hello to everyone joining me in a new life with a lifetime partner.My Fiancee and I were married within the 90 days or her arrival.Her I-94 expired on the 23rd of January 2010 and her Visa will expire on Feb 19th 2010.We have been working on the forms for AOS.Is there a timeline for getting the AOS filed.And will the expiration of her Visa and I-94 affect the final outcome of her status if so.

HEY IF u have a case number and date of the package send, u can track it online, someone give me the directions how to do but i delete it, the girl who gave me her link is here and u can ask her she will be glad to give u the info how to track it

good luck

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showuser=43120

good luck

abby n sheryl

Thank you for your reply ,She received it yesterday the 8th of Aug..Woohoo!

I received a letter from the NVC on July 11th...they forwarded it on the 23rd to the Manila Embassy.My Fiancee is still waiting the packet from them..Of course we are waiting patiently but still time is moving slow..I haven't spent to much time in here to review others time lines for there interview date from the time of receiving the info from the NVC to the embassy date interview.Can anyone give any insite to what might come next or any experience to actual times from NVC to appointment date.

moving thread to:

US Embassy and Consulate Discussion

You are almost there and now you have to deal with the embassy. This is the place to post your experiences or questions related to this last step before moving to the US. Topics relating to I-134's, packets sent from consulate and medical & police certificates should be posted here.

I'm slowly learning! Thanks for your reply.

Finally after 19 days I received the letter from the NVC.There is no information for me other than a link to the state dept website.I have searched there recently on which form to fill out for affidavit of support.I have conflicting info the first time I reviewed the site.It said at one point that the I-134 was not acceptable and to use the I-864.Now after reading the link from the NVC case number it is telling me to fill out the I-134.Anyone have or have already been through and completed this process with no problems..Thanks to all of you before for giving your help....Michael

I guess I am anxious to moving this forward faster but I know time has to run it's course.It's been two weeks as of today since our petition was approved.Is there certain documents I can fill out now to try and be better prepared before I receive the information from NVC?

Congrats!

It could be any number of things. It could go through to the Embassy in a matter of days or it could take a couple weeks. You could go into additional processing (AP) which could take up to 50 or 60 days. I was in AP but it was only 11 days. There is no real way to know. At least you are free of USCIS. NVC you can actually call and get an update (of sorts). If you are in AP there is no real update. It is either still in AP or sent on. hope that helps!

Please fill your timeline and that will help people answer questions about your situation better!

Thank you for your reply.I'm not sure what AP is..I will upload our timeline thanks again for your advice.

Hello to everyone here,,this is all new to me.Last week I received an approval letter from the USCIS.And they say that the case is now transfered to the NVC.The entire process of this seems to just make the time drag on.Would anybody share there experience of what kind of timeline my Fiancee are in for?And comes next from the NVC?