Chipolino

hi everyone. i'm also filled VAWA and waiting. i filled in January 2009, RFE February 2009 , got prima facie March 2009 and now waiting...
my question is i was in immigration jail, is it so bad. my wafe abused me a lot but i didn't know about VAWA, so i didn't call police or even didn't tell my friend much about what's going on in my family life. so terrible i was under 100% control, like toy...so sad. i was going to fill for asylum but my exwife's mom told me better merry than applay for asylum. my was so lovely at first, o God!!! so what do you people think should i tell VAWA's comand about it??? and if it's harm that i was in immigration jail??? i'm so really tired...