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Last month, when I was in SVO1, passport control area, I saw a female officer walk by with a heater (glock, biscuit, neena, 9 mil) on her side. Never thought in the past that it looked really good but this was kinda sexy. I will need to talk to Nata and see if she will dress up for me in militiza shorts and a heater

WTH!!! I thought I would never hear this-- the things I missed while I was away... I am going to have to read more carefully from now on! Is the world coming to an end? Has hell frozen over? Slim says uggs and sweats can be sexy under the correct conditions?!

Sheesh, I leave and this is what happens to the Russian forum.

I love all women equally. It's just that I prefer certain women over others. And anything can be sexy.... on the right woman!

Uggs is where I draw the line. *NO* woman looks sexy within 20 feet of those abominations, such is the cone of bogosity emitted by this train wreck of a clothing article. I'm hard pressed to come up with another item of clothing that so clearly defines the term "fashion disaster" as Uggs. They are the devil's galoshes, they make Gestapo jack boots look downright friendly, they are like having mad cow disease on your feet. Every time somebody wears a pair of Uggs, Baby Jesus gets rickets. I guess what I'm trying to say here is that I don't care much for Uggs.

Mox, could you make an attempt to be a little more clear about your feelings

I'm sorry to sound insensitive, but it seems to me that it was YOU who changed your mind not your fiance.

If you've known each other for 5 years and all the while both of you knew that your son will "age out" upon reaching his 18th birthday... then it means that you have both decided to NOT get married until your kids are independent already. I don't understand why you are blaming your fiance about this since he did not really change his mind at all. To me it sounds like he accepted them as part of your life BUT you both postponed marriage until such time that both of your sons are stable in life already, which is right about now. If you had wanted your son to be petitioned too, you should've both gotten married like 3-4 years ago when you believed that he will soon 'aged out'. From my point of view, he loves you and accepts your sons.. he just doesn't want the complications that runs with bringing a teenager in US plus the money involved in getting him there, feeding him, waiting until he can work, etc. etc. etc. or he really just wants you as companion and figured that once your sons reach proper age that you will be free to enjoy life with him.

Don't get me wrong, I know that you are a mother... but based on what've imparted to us so far.. it seems that it is you who have changed.

Now, all you gotta do is think whether you'd really want to go through living in US without your kids or stay here. Either way would be painful..

but choose the one that you can live with the most. I say, if you feel so hurt and disappointed... don't leave. If you can get past this issue and honestly

admit to yourself that it was you who changed your mind and that you are the one who went back on your word and you accept the truth and will not blame your fiance for taking you away from your boys, then I say go.

It will be your choice alone.

If you marry or plan to marry someone (man or woman) who has children, regardless of the age of the children, I feel you must be willing to embrace them as part of your family. This includes opening the doors to your home at anytime they need or request to be together with their parent, provided there are not issues with drugs and other such distractors. IMO, the man does not just have a fiancee, he has a fiancee with children (regardless of their ages). If he does not want the children then I feel she should look for another man willing to accept her family. A parent should never be forced to choose between a fiance/fiancee and their children (provided issues with drugs and similar issues not involved).

As an example, my fiancee is from Russia. Russians are very family oriented. She has a sister (with husband and daughter), mother and father. I am prepared to invite any and all of these family members into my home if necessary. I accept this as part of becoming part of a Russian family.

If the man wants a single lady, he should look for a single lady-not a mother with semi-adult children.

I agree with you... this shouldn't even be a contest.. between a fiance and choosing your child.

BUT as I said, they've been going out for 5 years, at a certain point I'm sure both of them have agreed to postpone her

immigration until the children have become adults already. We always assume that the 'guy' is an #######... but from what I can see and read from the OP's post, it seems that it was she who actually changed her mind. Cold feet? Planned? I don't know.

That's why I am saying, if she's not ready to leave her children behind then she should not leave at all. BUT I'm also saying that this shouldn't have come up just now. I would've understood it if their relationship is like 6 months old including k1 petition time frame.. but they've been going out for 5 years. To me it sounds like they've talked about it, agreed that it will be just her who will be migrating and now she's having cold feet. Whether she is a good mother or not is not my point. Whether he accepts the kids or not (and it seems that he does because they get along whenever he visits) is not a question here.

We both agree to one point though, if she feels that she's abandoning her child and he's asking her to choose between fiance vs children then for me... she shouldn't leave. That is not the way to live a life.

Let's not be quick to judge the guy in this situation, as always there's two sides of the story. It is easy to comiserate with a woman but the truth is it takes two to make a relationship work.

We agree, the fiance and fiancee have a shared responsibility; I do not blame the man any more or (or less) than the woman. My fiancee and I have never discussed her sister, mother, father or any other family member coming to America. For me, there is no discussion. They are her family so they are my family. They will always be welcome in my home, temporary or long term.

I may be a bit "dim" but I am not stupid. I never asked for a tour of the factory because this is the same city the militiza picked me up in the city park because I was photographing birds with a big camera lens. Granted, the lens was a 600mm f4 (about 2 feet long and about 12 inch diameter) but they detained me till they could confirm I was indeed a wildlife photographer working in Russia photographing birds.

Sure, I can see me on a tour of the AK factory; picked up in the park as a spy; dating a lady with son who works at AK factory; background as special forces in Army; .... I think I would still be living in a gulag in Russia! However, I did enjoy the cold of Siberia and Yakutia is not so bad is you like permafrost and -70, seas of bugs in the summer and ice almost year-around

I'm sorry to sound insensitive, but it seems to me that it was YOU who changed your mind not your fiance.

If you've known each other for 5 years and all the while both of you knew that your son will "age out" upon reaching his 18th birthday... then it means that you have both decided to NOT get married until your kids are independent already. I don't understand why you are blaming your fiance about this since he did not really change his mind at all. To me it sounds like he accepted them as part of your life BUT you both postponed marriage until such time that both of your sons are stable in life already, which is right about now. If you had wanted your son to be petitioned too, you should've both gotten married like 3-4 years ago when you believed that he will soon 'aged out'. From my point of view, he loves you and accepts your sons.. he just doesn't want the complications that runs with bringing a teenager in US plus the money involved in getting him there, feeding him, waiting until he can work, etc. etc. etc. or he really just wants you as companion and figured that once your sons reach proper age that you will be free to enjoy life with him.

Don't get me wrong, I know that you are a mother... but based on what've imparted to us so far.. it seems that it is you who have changed.

Now, all you gotta do is think whether you'd really want to go through living in US without your kids or stay here. Either way would be painful..

but choose the one that you can live with the most. I say, if you feel so hurt and disappointed... don't leave. If you can get past this issue and honestly

admit to yourself that it was you who changed your mind and that you are the one who went back on your word and you accept the truth and will not blame your fiance for taking you away from your boys, then I say go.

It will be your choice alone.

If you marry or plan to marry someone (man or woman) who has children, regardless of the age of the children, I feel you must be willing to embrace them as part of your family. This includes opening the doors to your home at anytime they need or request to be together with their parent, provided there are not issues with drugs and other such distractors. IMO, the man does not just have a fiancee, he has a fiancee with children (regardless of their ages). If he does not want the children then I feel she should look for another man willing to accept her family. A parent should never be forced to choose between a fiance/fiancee and their children (provided issues with drugs and similar issues not involved).

As an example, my fiancee is from Russia. Russians are very family oriented. She has a sister (with husband and daughter), mother and father. I am prepared to invite any and all of these family members into my home if necessary. I accept this as part of becoming part of a Russian family.

If the man wants a single lady, he should look for a single lady-not a mother with semi-adult children.

For me, this is easy decision. Do not join with man that will not accept your children.

you know slim,you can go over there and go for rides in thier old fighters,even thier spyplanes,that fly on the borders of space....if you got the money....anyone for mach 2?

I was waiting for that "if you got the money" part. I'd love to ride in a Mig or see the moon from orbit, but as for now, I'll keep it simple with a tour of the AK factory.

do they give tours of that....lolololol.

One of my friends in Russia has a son that worked in the AK factory in Izhevsk; he could not speak English so we did not have a lot to talk about and he was only 16.

Indeed Jonathan, good to get you in the race

As an apology for the downtime I would like a donut.

Are you a cop?

BAD COP; NO DONUT!

Thanks for the update.

Agree about the shuttle or bus service between SVO2 and SVO1; if you arrive late or very early-you may need to wait for the shuttle to save the $40 taxi charge for the 2 mile trip

Agree about Air France also, they are at the bottom of my list of airlines, below Iraq Air; Iran Air, Dubai Air, etc

Anyone else notice that the TU154 crashed in Iran.

AK, why don't you go ahead and file, you can always postpone the interview date

I second this emotion. The RU consulate is really good about accomodating these kinds of requests, and there have been members who have re-scheduled their interview 2 and 3 times, probably more. Get that packet through USCIS, because you really don't want to get stuck in one of their multi-month delay periods that often turns a 6 month wait into a 8-10 month wait. Get through USCIS as quickly as you can, the rest will take care of itself.

It was due to not wanting to muck up the tourist visa app she got. We already thought it would be risky since she's a young, attractive, "single" girl coming over and that a K-1 app might make not help. Of course the stories are changing to the better about fiancees being able to come over on a tourist visa. Believe me, once she's here that damn packet is going in the mail. It's building up dust... 27 days and she's here.

Thanks AK, I had forgot about the tourist visa; I agree, send it the day she arrives.

I found mine at a bank; Sberbank in Anapa, Russia

Just tell them you couldn't committ to it time wise. You're a busy gal and unfortunately your schedule just wouldn't allow it.

No way, it is time to be honest with them all; don't wait till the wedding, do it now. The sooner they all know the truth the sooner they can support the groom and prevent this disaster

On the heat.... the one thing I noticed very early on about Russian girls was when it's hot, they're not scared to take their clothes off. I spent the better part of my early twenties hanging out with half-nekkid Russkayas, and I believe I'm a better man for it.

...... I'm just wondering if I'm going to spend the better part of my sixties the same way!

When Anna and I first started to talk on Skype I thought I was just lucky with how few clothes she wore. And then how few clothes her sister was wearing when walking by the camera... then her parents... Her mom would be standing right over her shoulder in just a bra and undies, while we were chatting and I'm like "uh... um" and then pops came over her other shoulder in just his tighty whities "um... really?" Come to find out when I was there that the flats are all heated at one temperature HOT! While I was there and sweating like a stuffed pig her sister would egg me on "take your clothes off!" I'm a commando kinda guy! "No thanks... the heat is good for me..."

AK, next time, take some whities

I'm just shy of 3 months out before I get to say the same thing.

AK, why don't you go ahead and file, you can always postpone the interview date

Jona.. and Zor..-congrads on joining the ride. Don't be a stranger to the Russian forum; we don't bite............often!

So I was just reading another post earlier. Someone stated in the thread that the consul at the embassy may deem the relationship invalid if you got engaged after the first time you met. Is this true? I got engaged to my S/O the 1st time we met when she came here to visit me on her tourist visa. We had talked for months before deciding to meet. And we both knew we had strong feeling for each other but just were not sure what to call what we had before we had met. Well, when we did meet we both knew that we were "it" for each other. We are not children we are both 31 and have had plenty of other relationships in our pasts and although this is not an orthodox situation I'm sure I cannot be the first. Do I need to worry about this when interview time comes? I am having a hard time with this whole process, I feel like our lives are being audited and that I must defend what love is to me. I mean it's not like we just went to Vegas, got drunk and decided "Hey, wanna get married?" I mean I don't wanna get into the dynamics of our relationship but we both know it is real. Any advice?

Consulate specific item. I doubt it is a problem in Moscow if you have sufficient proof of relationship

Gary is correct, this is very consulate specific; at this time, Moscow is not a problem consulate but that can change. About three years ago, there was on interviewer at Moscow consulate that was giving many a hard time.

I was also engaged on first visit; bended knee and ask parents permission, etc. We are planning a pseudo-wedding celebration in October in Russia for family and friends. We will have official wedding ceremony in America upon arrival.

154 is a nice plane. I love inter russian flights the service is great. The pilots are hardcore too, they love being on time!

Of course, I remember being in the airport once and a flight to Irkutst left 45 minutes early because of expected headwinds. I have been on plenty of flights that left late but never one that was super early. I remember sitting in the airport watch all the folks come to the counter and finding their plane gone! Of course, at SVO1 you need to do check-in two hours early just to get past security.

This will not be my first time in the TU154; did a couple other trips in this shipbox of a plane; had a couple meals also but it is usually dried bread with a piece of stinky fish on top, makes me wanta vomit

Yes, if we are speaking of the same person, that was Nick & Nat; he generated a bit of flack because many had problems with fact he was in fifties and she was 19. During my last check, they are together and "happily" married

I dont see what the problem is, I hope when I am in my fifties my wife will be nineteen. She said she feels younger all the time and since we are 13 hrs behind her hometown she gets younger.

Wait something doesnt sound right

You dont suppose my wife is not telling me the truth? Do you?

I don't have a problem with it either, but it sure was a topic of much conversation

Of course, the savings is mute because I will be paying for the wedding dress and other expenses. I am not complaining, she will be really beautiful in her wedding dress. I, of course, will still look like a ugly nerd in my Tux.

Great news, enjoy your trip.

Maybe you should wear the dress and she can wear the tux? Just a thought

There ain't no way I can fit into that dress. And at that price, I do not want to take any chances that the "gold plating" falls off

I just booked my next trip to Russia (first week October) with connections to Anapa, Russia. The connection is a Tupolev 154, a little over a 2 hr. flight and they are serving lunch. Can you believe it. One, in good old USA, you don't get lunch anymore unless you pay for it (on most flights). Two, lunch on a Tupolev 154, that's a crop duster or a flying greyhound bus; how can we possibly eat lunch on that piece of ship

BTW, rates are pretty cheap for Sept./Oct. trips; only paid $598 for trip from Jacksonville to Moscow and $175 for Moscow to Anapa. My last trip was over $1500 combined, so I am pretty pleased.

Of course, the savings is mute because I will be paying for the wedding dress and other expenses. I am not complaining, she will be really beautiful in her wedding dress. I, of course, will still look like a ugly nerd in my Tux.

Do you guys remember way back when there was a dude with another site - he had personal pictures, stories, etc. - that was on here quite a bit and he basically shut it down because someone was trolling all the time? Anyway, he basically said, "Hey troll, no matter which username you post on, you have the same IP address so I know it's you. Get a life."

I don't think he shut it down because of the troll, but he definitely lost interest and it became more of a posters vs. trolls blog than a fun site.

Yes, if we are speaking of the same person, that was Nick & Nat; he generated a bit of flack because many had problems with fact he was in fifties and she was 19. During my last check, they are together and "happily" married

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I think Obama just fixed all that with his recent trip, right?

Yeah he had to hook up the digital TV converters in our stations over there. They were still broadcasting in analog.

Do we really believe the Russians are that stupid to believe that Obama fixed anything between these two countries? I love it when the news said the two Presidents saw "eye to eye" on many issues but that Putin and Obama had major differences, duh

It is like to featherweights going up against one heavyweight. Sure, they will get in a couple pretty good swings but they do not have a prayer against the big guy. Don't kid yourselves, Putin has the final say in any treaties, togetherness, etc.

Concerning the OP, not much you can do; your friend is in denial. De-Nial is not a river in Egypt