Lioncub4

It's been a while since I last posted on here, but this topic (and the replies that followed) is one close to my heart and I thought I would share my experiences in the hope it will help the OP (or anyone else for that matter). I totally agree and relate to all the replies said before - that things WILL get better. My situation mirrors your husband's in so many ways. I moved to the US (I'm the UKC) to be with my US wife and 2 month old son (I was waiting for the K1 visa while he was born) about 2 and a half years ago. We stayed with her father for the first month, which was difficult in so many ways. I thought once we got our own place everything would fall into place and I would feel happier. Actually the opposite happened and I got incredibly homesick to the point I was arguing with my wife over stupid things. At one point I even announced I was ready to move back to the UK just because I was so unhappy with the situation - new country, being a dad for the first time, no job, etc. I am so glad I stuck it out though!
Fast forward to today. I have a job that pays half what I earned in UK, I still get frustrated with the American way of doing things and I do miss a lot of the creature comforts from the old country (foods, TV programmes, friends and family). But my advice (which has already been said a number of times by previous posters) is - it DOES get better - a LOT. Once you get your own place, he gets a job, starts to make friends, and ultimately starts to live his life again - it will all start to settle down. There will be numerous times he will get frustrated with the American way, he will get homesick many times and he will just feel like a fish outta water! These are things he will have to get over and I don't think they will ever go away. Keep talking as a couple and listen to what bothers him the most. Then ask yourself what you can do to make it right? As an example if it is New Zealand foods he misses - then find either an international store close by or improvise with an American equivalent. Misses the rugby? Then subscribe to a cable TV channel that shows rugby.
In the end always remind him (and yourself) of the main reason he is here - to be with you because you love each other. Everything else is small compared to that. I wish you both the best and always know you have friends on VJ who have been here before!

It's been a while since I last posted on here, but this topic (and the replies that followed) is one close to my heart and I thought I would share my experiences in the hope it will help the OP (or anyone else for that matter). I totally agree and relate to all the replies said before - that things WILL get better. My situation mirrors your husband's in so many ways. I moved to the US (I'm the UKC) to be with my US wife and 2 month old son (I was waiting for the K1 visa while he was born) about 2 and a half years ago. We stayed with her father for the first month, which was difficult in so many ways. I thought once we got our own place everything would fall into place and I would feel happier. Actually the opposite happened and I got incredibly homesick to the point I was arguing with my wife over stupid things. At one point I even announced I was ready to move back to the UK just because I was so unhappy with the situation - new country, being a dad for the first time, no job, etc. I am so glad I stuck it out though!
Fast forward to today. I have a job that pays half what I earned in UK, I still get frustrated with the American way of doing things and I do miss a lot of the creature comforts from the old country (foods, TV programmes, friends and family). But my advice (which has already been said a number of times by previous posters) is - it DOES get better - a LOT. Once you get your own place, he gets a job, starts to make friends, and ultimately starts to live his life again - it will all start to settle down. There will be numerous times he will get frustrated with the American way, he will get homesick many times and he will just feel like a fish outta water! These are things he will have to get over and I don't think they will ever go away. Keep talking as a couple and listen to what bothers him the most. Then ask yourself what you can do to make it right? As an example if it is New Zealand foods he misses - then find either an international store close by or improvise with an American equivalent. Misses the rugby? Then subscribe to a cable TV channel that shows rugby.
In the end always remind him (and yourself) of the main reason he is here - to be with you because you love each other. Everything else is small compared to that. I wish you both the best and always know you have friends on VJ who have been here before!

It's been a while since I last posted on here, but this topic (and the replies that followed) is one close to my heart and I thought I would share my experiences in the hope it will help the OP (or anyone else for that matter). I totally agree and relate to all the replies said before - that things WILL get better. My situation mirrors your husband's in so many ways. I moved to the US (I'm the UKC) to be with my US wife and 2 month old son (I was waiting for the K1 visa while he was born) about 2 and a half years ago. We stayed with her father for the first month, which was difficult in so many ways. I thought once we got our own place everything would fall into place and I would feel happier. Actually the opposite happened and I got incredibly homesick to the point I was arguing with my wife over stupid things. At one point I even announced I was ready to move back to the UK just because I was so unhappy with the situation - new country, being a dad for the first time, no job, etc. I am so glad I stuck it out though!
Fast forward to today. I have a job that pays half what I earned in UK, I still get frustrated with the American way of doing things and I do miss a lot of the creature comforts from the old country (foods, TV programmes, friends and family). But my advice (which has already been said a number of times by previous posters) is - it DOES get better - a LOT. Once you get your own place, he gets a job, starts to make friends, and ultimately starts to live his life again - it will all start to settle down. There will be numerous times he will get frustrated with the American way, he will get homesick many times and he will just feel like a fish outta water! These are things he will have to get over and I don't think they will ever go away. Keep talking as a couple and listen to what bothers him the most. Then ask yourself what you can do to make it right? As an example if it is New Zealand foods he misses - then find either an international store close by or improvise with an American equivalent. Misses the rugby? Then subscribe to a cable TV channel that shows rugby.
In the end always remind him (and yourself) of the main reason he is here - to be with you because you love each other. Everything else is small compared to that. I wish you both the best and always know you have friends on VJ who have been here before!

How much money do you have? ALL of it.
Once the paperwork is complete and all the fees paid and all the government hacks are staisfied...you will have a new wife that needs to replace all the things she left behind, your utilities will double, your food bills will double (at least) and every dollar you make will be consumed by the family. Welcome to life in the USA.
Be happy. When you are HAPPY using all your money for your family, you will always be happy.
The fees for the K-1 and the AOS and the Removal of Conditions and the Citizenship and the education, drivers license, medical expenses, insurance....ALL of it, is but a tiny down payment on a life of bliss. Enjoy it every day! It conitnues for decades, children multiply expenses many fold, then they have children. It will end when you die.
Between now and then, enjoy every moment. When the most enjoyable thing you vcan do with your money is to buy your son a new pair of "cool shoes" you will have arrived in everlasting happiness.