R&AINC

You know what is the biggest lie? The lie you created for yourself. Love is like a drug and you can get an overdose of it. When that drug is bad, then it can hurt you really bad/.

The lie that after she walked away, you could still live together. The lie that by proving yourself right about her cheating on you, would actually be a lie. That you were wrong, that was a lie. The truth is that all you thought since when you start thinking about marrying her is true.

-She married wit you to get green card

-She used you

-She never thought you were the man of her life.

The biggest mistake is to try to prove yourself right. As you know now, the less you know the better it is.

You know enough to let her go so just do that.

Moreover, since she attacked you, you should be the one going to the police.

She is not good for you period. No hate no love. No proving yourself wrong or right. Just become a man again, and stop being a wannabe someone that you were not.

Go file any police reports you need, make sure you watch your back. She has not much to loose. (seem like from a movie, but you never know)

Many people have love dissapointments. This is part of life. Take it as another university degree. What you know now will certainly help you in the future, but do not let love or hate blind you.

Hi,

Thank you.

I will call the consulate to see what the say. I am getting ahead of myself, but I want to have everything ready for when the time comes.

Hi all,

I (beneficiary) will have to move before we get NOA2 etc. How do I report my change of address. Should we just wait for NOA2 and then notify the consulate?

I saw that there is a form for the petitioner, but none for the beneficiary.

Thank you.

If you read the following number you would actually be happy to get NOA2 withinn the 6 months:

http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/men...00045f3d6a1RCRD

In total they have almost 2 million cases pending.

For a i129F they have 22656 pending. The plan to get them done within 6 months that means 188 per day (counting 120 working days in six months).

An agent may processes 4 per day. That means that they would need 47 people.

I have worked in a service center with that many people and it is really difficult to keep a tight control of what is done. YOu get 47 agents, of which 5% are top performers, 40% good agents, 50% just do the work and the remaining 5% just does not give a ....

So about 2-3 people of those 47 people do not give a ###### about what they do. That translates in 8- to 12 applications that get delayed and just stay on someone's desk for ages. If it the cases have been there too long eventually they go in the garbage unless the customers calls and complain the right way.

Moreover some of the good agents, may go on vacation, or quit. There could be downsizing. etc. But most important is that the current economic situation is against all of us.

Let say that out of those 22k 17k gets approved. That would mean 34k more immigrants a year. 34k more jobs that are taken away from americans.

Then you have to add the 55k from the green card lottery, and all the rest of the visas k3 etc etc.

At the moment this influx of immigrants may not be in the interest of the USA, therefore you may really see a slow down in approvals. I am also afraid that the system could change completely.

Therefore there maybe people getting approvals in 1 month, but I would say that most of all should feel lucky if we get it in the 6 months limit.

I am sure some of the agents know this site. If you complain too much they may push you behind even more

I just got a WII fit. So at least while a wait I get in shape

Hi Missmissy

We're worried about how many times and for how many days a year you can be in the US on visa waiver program.

Did your fiance get denied because he did not stay in Denmark for twice as long as in the US during a given year (we were told that for every day you spend in the US you have to be out of the country for two days)? Or did he just visit too often for the CBP officer's liking? Did they explain anything at all about the rules concerning this?

Thanks, Jon

This is what happened to us - and we were not very smart about anything! Before I tell this story - a disclaimer.

I did not do any research about him living here until it was almost too late. We had been waiting for his divorce to be final (for TWO YEARS) and knew we couldn't get married until then. I had assumed that we could come to the U.S., gather my family and get married and then go to some office somewhere and tell someone that I had married him and he was from Denmark....sort of a Just lettin ya'll know kind of thing. I had no idea until October what was involved in marrying someone that isn't from around here! Now I know! We were just busy with other things and I never thought that it was going to be this hard or involve so much paperwork! We just didn't know.

We left the U.S. in the spring of 2007 and had an apartment in Sweden. We traveled a lot that year but in January of 2008 - I wanted to come home. So, we left Sweden, kept our apartment there, and moved back to Jackson, Mississippi and bought a house. We knew we were going to get married as soon as we could but we were waiting on a divorce certificate from Denmark. There have been delays with getting that so, every 90 days Lars would fly home to Denmark, stay a few weeks and then fly back. He did this from January until October. In June, we decided to give up the apartment in Landskrona, Sweden. I couldn't leave my family and it was just money wasted. He went back to CPH in the middle of September and in October when he tried to enter at Newark, he was denied entry. The BPO saw how many trips he had made and started asking questions. He was very honest and answered all of the questions, yes he is engaged to an American, yes he has been back and forth, no he wasn't aware of the actual requirements of the VWP.....Lars' biggest mistake was carrying his library card for here in Jackson, an AARP card, a AAA Club card and a Kroger Plus card. They opened his computer, booted it up and started reading emails and of course we talked about waiting for the divorce, getting married, taking care of our house, my mother's terminal illness......he had a resume on there as well, stating that his home address was our address in Mississippi. According to the Border Patrol Officer - all of this indicated that he had in fact immigrated to the U.S. or that he was intending to immigrate.

So, they put him on a plane that afternoon and sent him back. Totally our fault for not researching any of this BEFORE we did anything. The good news is the only thing that we had to sacrifice that time was the money for the plane ticket.....there was no "note" or flag placed on his passport, the BPO was very nice and told him that he needed to go home and apply for the K1....

Most people that have a job, an apartment and significant ties to Denmark can come and go without a problem. I am 49, Lars is 57 and retired.....we were extremely blessed to be able to take the year that we did and travel, but we had no real significant ties to anywhere for a few years and the lack of a Danish address or a job in Denmark was a big problem for him that day. I don't know what kind of criteria they look for at the POE's....I have read that it is totally at the discretion of the Border Patrol Officer if they will allow entry,accept your documentation or explanations or not. We had been back and forth to the U.S. since 2006 but we usually fly into Memphis or New Orleans.

I proof read what I have written and I didn't really answer your question but I don't have an answer. He was denied entry because it looked exactly like what he was doing.....immigrating to the U.S. Now we are doing it the right way, but paying a price for our ignorance of the law. He cannot come back without a visa, so we wait. I'm going to try to go to Denmark in May - who wants to go with me??

I find the point about them booting his computer to be very bad. Usually you need a search warrant for that to happen. This is why I am avoiding going back during the K1 approval. If something like this would happen to me, I would probably not want to live there anymore. Another thing that seems ridiculous is that you have to pay for the ticket. At every airport, before you fly to the States, they have agents and they ask you all kinds of questions. If they let you in the flight then they should be responsible for the cost of the ticket if you are sent back.

I would just stay in the airport till they kick me out like that movie with Tom Hanks .

Well, I hope all goes fast for the March fillers. But our center is quite slow now.....The california forumists are posting NOA2 within 1 to 2 months.....and we have the 1 year and 6 months clubs....

I had no idea where to post this moderaters, let me apologize if it is in the wrong place.

My fiancee told me that he did not turn in his i-94 on his return trip in January. He says they did not collect them, I have no idea if they did or not. I am worried that it will look like he did not leave the country, and that would put him into what looks like an overstay. Does anyone have any idea how to fix this?

funny that it happened to me.

I found the following link:

http://help.cbp.gov/cgi-bin/customs.cfg/ph...amp;p_topview=1

apparently if you used a commercial airline, you should not have a problem. But it is good idea to bring the boarding pass from when you left the States last time, when you go back.

Hi,

I was in the States in January, and I just realized that I still have the I-94W green paper on my passport. They did not take it out when I left.

Should I send it somewhere? Will this be a problem?

Thank you.

ok I found the answer here:

http://help.cbp.gov/cgi-bin/customs.cfg/ph...amp;p_topview=1

lazy lufthansa check desk

Hi,

I was in the States in January, and I just realized that I still have the I-94W green paper on my passport. They did not take it out when I left.

Should I send it somewhere? Will this be a problem?

Thank you.

We had our interview, everything looks wonderful, the only problem is that I lost my Argentinean ID (which I need to get my police certificate) I have been waiting for 1 year and noe they say it can take more than 17 months.....iM SO SHOCKED! Have no words....no tears either.

IS THERE ANY INTERNATIONAL LAW PROTECTING CITIZENS FROM LIVING WITHOUT DECENT IDENTIFICATION FOR SO LONG????? Are they kidding?

Yeah, sure. Its called the "The International Get decent identification when you become an adult (age 18) and keep it current all your life Act" The UN will call a meeting to get to the bottom of this right away. A couple million people a year die from genocide and ethnic cleansing but the UN will jump right on someone not having an ID card. This is one of those things where I have to say "and you waited until now because...???????????????" I mean is this not something most adults have whether they plan to marry a foreign national or not? Silly me, I have had a valid passport since I was 14!!!! You go through the petition process, the interview process and now SURPRISE!!!!!!!!!! "I don't have a national ID card, Oops, maybe the UN will come to my rescue? D'ya think?"

Well, the visa has not been issued because you do not have a poilce certificate because you do not have a national ID and now the validity of the visa petition will expire in far less than 17 months and you will have to start all over. I hope you are somehow getting extensions to the visa petition. Yes? You thought of that?

Now I don't know anything about Argentina, but I have very much experience with Eastern European government agencies and I would never wait 17 months for anything, rarely more than 17 minutes. And I never needed the UN to sort it out.

Some of the members of this forum, and a vast number of people worldwide, want to move to the United States because they believe that they will live a better life. Depending of where you come from, a "better life" can become an understatement or overstatement once you get to the US. Nevertheless, the sure thing is that the United States has a set of laws that allows its citizens to live in a decent way. There are things that could be better, but overall, the United States is a great country, that in the majority of cases, has a great respect for its citizens.

This cannot be said of countries where you your rights an liberties are constantly put under discussion. The right to have a national id is equivalent to your duty to have one. Therefore it is not acceptable to wait 17 months to get a national id. People may not understand the impotence of having to deal with governments that are only a democracy on paper. The reality is that corrupt governments that systematically undermine the economic stability of a country like Argentina, Venezuela etc are systematically decreasing the civil liberties and rights of their citizens. Obtaining a national id may be only one small thing, but there are many other actions that governments like this do to undermine the constitutional liberties of its citizens.

Not having a national id, may mean, that you are not allowed in most cases to travel outside of the country. Thus, this is limiting your liberties of free travel. This limitation has only been seen in times of war, or in a dictatorial and communist regime. In any civilized and democratic country you have the right to move freely and to leave the country as many times you want. Denying to you the means of freely travel, is the same as denying your rights as a free citizen.

Therefore, I deem really inappropriate to "attack" a person who is not able to obtain what is legally his or her right to obtain. This is not about why you do not have it. This is about why it was not given to you yet

Thanks for the reply and support.

I have most of the documentation for the interview ready. I plan to have the medical exam soon as well. So I will try to minimize the turnaround time from packet 3 to interview.

But as you suggested, it is very unlikely. I will keep you posted.

By the way in asia is 9 a bad luck number, I remember that 8 was the good luck number. I heard something like people pay to get an 8 on their license plates.

Another interesting number would be 789 too early too....

Event Date

Service Center : Vermont Service Center

Consulate : Frankfurt, Germany

I-129F Sent : 2009-03-10

I-129F NOA1 : 2009-03-13

Touched: 2009-03-18

I guess it is difficult, but .... it would be nice to make it..... How are you suppose to make wedding plans if you do not even know when you can get married?

I was also reviewing the cost:

455 the first application

320 for the embassy

180 for medical exam

plus fedexing

plus I485 of about 1000....

And all this takes like 3 years........and after you are done, the gov will know even at what time of the day you like to take number 2.......

Thinking about all the above makes me realize that I really love her

this is really stressful.

Hi,

We have just submitted our initial K-1 application. According to the tracking number it was received on March 11th.

So we probably have 4 to 6 months wait time according to the various discussions here.

My fiance ( Sponsor ) is currently in the USA, and she is a Student. She will graduate this year, but she does not have any income. Her parents are on work's comp, so they do not have a real income.

So my question is:

Can a friend of us do the sponsorship?

Can I self sponsor myself? (I am currently collecting unemployment but would it be enough to have a bank account with an amount over the poverty line requirement?

Any other options?

Second questions:

It says that I need police certificates. I lived in the USA for more than one year. Do I also need police certificates from there?

Thank you.

And good luck to all