momov31

Im so sorry for you guys, we had a similar problem and with a lot of prayer and calling we were blessed. I suggest calling the lagos consulate and speaking to a head CO. Im not sure if it will help but it couldnt hurt. Keep talking to your senators, mine didnt help me but sometimes you get one good one. Ill pray for you guys. Be blessed

How can u really be helped if u only want to listen to one side of the story. I don't have any problem in what moveon posted, the same anger idocare gets to carry she has the same right. I'm not saying this women didn't have issues, but if u want to help me tell me what u did right and wrong to so i will know not to do that. @ purple i don't see it as vindictive, it sounds informative to me, to actually here two side is rare. Christian would listen to both sides before making a judgment on anything. See when my kids have their fights me as a parent wants to know who did what, i know i will never know the real truth only their truth, but i cant just punish one child without knowing what really went on. I know my GOD doesn't judge and is very forgiving. I remember idocare telling me she could post her opinion where ever she wanted because thats what this forum is for, so is it not ok for this person to have the same right. She may have joined to get her point across, but why are there still people on here that r not in the journey anymore and only seem to want to hold on to the past, still here. @ enlighten one i get ur point sometimes, but come on ur story is still kind of new, at what point in ths saga after u have been hurt, u have been "scammed" and u want him to pay with his life, do we move on. When do we move on with our lives. U r a church going women, u work and u keep busy with ur child, but u find time to come on here and find any link where someone is having trouble to offer ur so called help. Ill say this u just post a link to ur story and some resemblance to help. Anyway ill be praying for us all, because anything we do we need Jesus, not any one person more than any other.

Well we are on our happy beginning, enjoying each other. I know it takes time and years to really know someone, but i believe communication is such a important thing to have in any relationship. My boo has been here since April 5 and i still touch him at night lol. I'm a touchy feelly girl. He just lays there and let me rub his head and tickle his ear. We are adjusting to each other and at night we talk about our day even if we were looking in each others face all day. Before we married we agreed to talk any problem out be it good or bad. My boo watches soccer and i read or get on the computer. He is having a hard time not being able to work and being in the house all the time. My boo is a Muslim and we haven't found him a mosque close by the house yet but he prays in the closet(its a huge closet). Him and my girls are getting along better than i thought, it was a Lil bumpy at first, they were thinking i was giving him to much of my time, I had to step back and see it from their point of view and i realized i was just giving my boo so much of my time that my girls time had been cut back, Ive found a way to give everybody their time with me.(I'm special lol) Anyway i do have a hard time reigning in my temper, because for some reason if i get mad i wont talk to him and he cant stand that. I'm also learning to not say my or mine so much and to ask his input, which i didn't do when he first got here but i explained to him being in control for so many years its hard to let someone come in and help or even take control sometimes, but I'm doing it because if i want him to be the head of my household i have to let him lead. He has been a good man to me and I'm trying my best to be a even better woman to him. This part is only for the adults lol OK just kidding but i do love when that man caters to my body just the way i taught him , OK some of them really don't know how to please a women, so hey teach him and tell him its your body you know what feels right and what doesn't. OK i ramble a lot but the gist of my story is you will never and i mean never have a fairy tale ending but you can at least make your journey with you partner as civil and fun as possible. And remember if you put GOD first all things are possible even happy marriages.

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No you dont have to go, i had a interview date to. The lady says it just put that on there. And if u send in express evelopes it will be expressed back to u. Also just call them to if have any questions they will help u. Be blessed

Kool beans, cant wait for my boo to be here. Be blessed

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So sorry to hear about ur denial, as everyone has said fight and keep fighting dont give up on ur love. Pray, fast and allow the lord to assist u in this battle call on him. Ill be praying for u guys. Be blessed

Congrates!!!!!!!!! Be blessed

Congratulations Momov!!!

Sounds like you were ready to open a can of whoop azz for your man!!! Amen.

I am so happy for you two.

Ty i believe i was. lol. Im happy for u guys to. Be blessed

Way to go, very happy for u guys. Be blessed

My boo got his visa today, ty everyone. Im so excited. Be blessed

Way to go. It is a great start to a new begining. I pray the rest of ur journey is Blessed.

Ty everyone and please keep praying we r all on this journey and need as many prayers as can be given. Be blessed.

God is soooo Goood Praise the Lord!!!!! Miriam girl I cant tell you how happy I am for you. Me and you suffered from the same fate a we triumphed. I will never forget all the times we encouraged each other to fight for the ones we love. Im so happy for you girl I will never forget our friendhip.

Nwanyioma

Yes girl But u r talking like its all over, girl we still need each other, u r my rock and i am ur roll so we have to keep rocking and rolling lol lame i know. But i love u man.

Ty everyone. The good lord was fighting this battle for me. @Chibuogwu will update now as ive been kissed sooooooooooo much lol, also im praying for us all as my battle is not over yet. Any advise i can offer is be prayed up and fight for ur love. Be blessed

Hi all

Hope everyone is doing well. I just got back home this morning from lagos and im so tired. But our GOD is a good GOD my boo was approved for his visa and was told to pick it up on the 9th of march. It was a battle, well i got there on the 24th in order to be there for his interview on the 25th. We got to the embassy at about 12:30pm and had to wait til one before they allowed anyone in, So i picked a spot and sat and waited. Then at one they let them in, while i waited i bought a necklace and earrings and water lol. Well at 15 mins til 4 my boo comes out and says they said it was a error he didnt have a interview. Okay first let me say i asked him to repeat that, Then i walked to the door wating to speak to someone and was told they r closed and i couldnt see anyone , The security guard gave me a number to call but it didnt go through and he wouldnt let me talk to anyone saying come back tomorrow at 11am, we said ok and was about to leave til another security guard told us tomorrow is a holiday and we wouldnt be able to talk to anyone. This same security guard gave us a new number to call and i was able to speak to someone, but the guy on the phone just kept repeating himself that it was a error and there is nothing he can do about it, i asked him to get me a head consular and let them tell me there is nothing that can be done. He said ok and asked me to hold on but he hung up the phone. So i was really mad thinking that man hung up on me. The same nice guard called me into the building saying someone was on the phone, but when i got in there the lady sitting behind the desk had hung up the phone saying noone was there. So im standing there looking like now what. The guards on the inside was nice and keept calling different numbers to find the guy that had called me. The guy that called had told them to go get the white lady waiting outside lol. Anyway he showed up with a head consular a light skinned guy about average height. They both looking at me like we told u there is nothing we can do, but before they could start that i went slap off. I told that guy u cannot play with people emotions or money like that and of course my neck was rolling and my finger was wagging then my hands went to my hips lol. I told him when i sent u guys an email requesting confirmation on this interview that was the time u guys should have discovered ur error, not when i have sat out here in this hot sun and sweated my nice curls out. The head guy said but ur case was sent back on the 6th of feb, i said i dont care u have got to fix this. It was ur error not ours someone needs to interview him and we dont want the asian lady again because she has it all wrong. Well he looked at me standing there with my hands on my hips and my feet tapping and said ok we will give him another interview on monday at 1pm, I said can i get that in writing because i dont want another error. So him and the other guy left and he later returned with the letter. We were praising the lord all over the place, But i had to extend my plane ticket and pay an extra 250.00 his brother covered that fo us. So monday came and i was tired because we had stayed up going over everything and checking everything. I was a nervous wreck those 4 and a half hours they ha him in there. But he came out smiling and i had to hold on to the building because i didnt realize how nervous i really was til i got the paper out of his hand and read it myself. Our GOD is so good. He said the new lady asked him alot of questions like where did we meet, who was the mutual friend and how did he connect to us, how many kids do i have with my ex and thats where she tried to trip him up, because he answered two kids after she asked a few more questions she went back to how many kids does she have he sai three and she said but u just said she only has two, he told her she asked him how many kids i had with my ex and not how many i have in all. Anyway long story short the lord blessed us and he picks up his visa on march 9th. Im gonna sleep now. Be bless everybody.

Boy u said a mouthful lol. Im so happy for u and ty, im still praying for our win in lagos. Im ready to dance with u lady. Be blessed

I am soooo Very happy for u guys. Yes GOD is good all the time. Girl im dancing with u. Be blessed

Way to go!!!!!!!!!! Be blessed

THE FIRST INTERVIEW WENT NOT TOO BAD WITH REQUEST FOR ADDITIONAL EVIDENCE

THE TOTAL OF 23 QUESTIONS WAS ASKED AND WAS WELL ANSWERED.

WE RETURN TO THE EMBASSY WITH THE REQUESTED ADDITIONAL DOCUMENT FOR THE SECOND TIME TODAY AND WITH/AFTER ALL QUESTIONS, ASCERTIONS AND INTIMIDATION GOD WAS SO PREDOMINANT AND PROVES HIMSELF AS SUPREME AND THE VISA WAS APPROVED AFTER INTERVIEW HUBBY AND ME.

WE CAN'T BUT THANK ALL OF YOU GUYS WHO HAS HELPED US IN ONE WAY OR ANOTHER, WE ARE REALLY GRATEFUL.

WE THANK YOU JESUS AND WE ARE GRATEFUL..... :dance:

Way to go!!!!!!! GOD is good, be blessed

Not every nigerian is a potential scammer. Even if couples were to remain married for more than 5years and the foreign spouse decides to leave the marriage afterwards, the/she will still be labeled a scammer by the United States Spouse.

Scorned USC calling the embassy every minute does not help legitmate relationships. Its more like wanting other people to suffer for your loss (IMO). Pick up the pieces and move on with ur life. You learn from ur mistakes.

This popped up in my "recent topics" which is why I'm gunna respond.

I agree that it's unfair that the US government is the one that "decides" who we're allowed to be with, BUT I don't think it's fair to say that they should let it slide because they're the "gateway" to the US. Once they're in, they're in so it's a big risk on their shoulders if they let someone dodgy in. I know I personally would feel bad if I find out that I let someone through like in "Enlighted One's" case.

I think the best measure would be to alter the immigration laws. So rather than a denial in more ambiguous cases, they should simply put them on probation and make it harder to get LPR.

"Nwanyioma" said that Enlighted wouldn't have said what she did if her guy hadn't been a #### but the comment can equally be reversed. if you found out your situation ended up like hers you would be upset and pissed that you were used and abused for a greencard. For that reason it needs to be harder to get a greencard. It should be simple, if you don't remain with your spouse then leave the US. If you're naturalised then fine, stay if it doesn't work out, but make it 5 years to get naturalised. If you're an LPR and it ends in divorce, go home. If you're abused, go home. It's pretty simple. Maybe set a timeframe like MUST remain together for a minimum of 5 years. I don't know many people that can "fake" a relationship for 5 years.

I gave up a lot to come to the US but I would go home in a heartbeat if it turned out my husband abused me, or whatever. It's hard to express exactly what I think without writing a huge post but basically it's this:

- "flag" those relationships you're not 100% sure off

- deny the relationship you ARE sure are dodgy (proof of lies or whatever)

- in the flagged relationships make the AOS harder to obtain, or the ROC. Keep track of them. Visit randomly to inspect their residence.

This allows loved ones to be together but if it doesn't work out then the USC is protected and so is the US government.

So going by ur flags if u cheated on or lied to ur husband they should ship u back to where u came from and u would happliy go. I dont think it would be so easy. The fact that people r being treated like they r less than human at the lagos embassy is the real issue, being scammed is not. What do we do with the peole that scam us that r born and raised in the USA where do we ship them. I say do ur job but do it in fairness, If u were scammed which i cant say u were because the man could have come here and was mistreated by u, then im sorry it happens. I dont know what went on in the house. Example: When he gets here all u can say is my house, my computer and more my this and that. Who wants to live with that so he leaves and the woman cries he scammed me, so do we ship him back because the woman was a controlling, selfish person I dont believe we should. Every person that cries scam has not been scammed they have just been dumped and cant handle that. I can only go by my on situation and pray that all works out if it doesnt then it doesnt, i havent lost my life to any man and dont plan to start now. But the embassy should really be fair in their judgement about the relationship that pass through there. Be blessed and put GOD first.

Enlighten one,

You are very courageous for sharing your story for how your husband scammed you. With that being said let me ask you a question: If you were to be in our shoes (that is your husband is issued a 221g or is denied and he didnt scam you) will you have posted what you posted today? I strongly doubt that. I personally dont think that its up to the CO's to determine if your SO is a possible scammer.

Nwanyioma

I dey hear your gist but no one said that all of the 221g's issued in Lagos are due to the bonafide marriage issue. Some of us are delayed for a piece of paper that they aren't even collecting or only taking a glance at once its presented.

I don't feel we are attacking the employees and if some of us want to question their practices we can. We have a right to determine whether people are being treated fairly at the Lagos consulate or if there is an abuse of power. Just because someone is doing their job doesn't mean they are being fair and impartial.

I for 1 am thankful they are doing their job but that doesn't change the fact that we have a right to marry the person of our choosing... even in the US we can marry a murderer, inmate, pedophile.. drug dealer... crackhead etc.. Its our choice and unless the person is a security risk or risk to society why deny us or delay our desire to wed.

This is not about the CO and their wish to be 100/100 on their approval success record and they need to accept the fact that they won't "get all the bad people". This is not a soap opera this is our lives, our families lives, and our kids lives and ultimately its OUR CHOICE how we decide who we wish to create a life with not the embassy. In addition, I'm not seeing the same level of denials or issuances of 221g's in other regional threads that are considered fraud risks.

USCIS asked for certain documents and if you provided what is required why is there a problem. As with any other US government agency that was created to SERVE its people you wait in line to submit what they've outlined and you get what you apply for... objectively. If they were really trying to protect us they would put additional roadblocks on permanent residency or the non-USC's ability to petition for another from their home countries not impeding our choice to START a family. Its the petitioners choice... whether they make a good or bad 1 as to the person's character. Bad marriage choices happen here too. Most of us our intelligent people. We have suffered a broken heart before and we don't need the embassy step-parenting our choice of a 'good spouse.'

Now, we are looking into how I could move there for a while to meet their subjective idea while we get started on our life. Because of paper addiction I feel I am being forced to suspend my career indefinitely and possibly ruin myself financially to marry someone that is not a threat to others. Obviously, it would have been easier for us to settle here but for us settling here was always an option to begin with, not a requirement.

All in all, the CO's are wrong when they delay applicants for nonsense reasons.

Im praying for u guys as well as the rest of us fighting for our lives and our right to live our lives as we see fit. Be blessed

Im sorry for u guys, i feel ur pain and frustrations, but keep fighting all will be well. Be blessed