Hopeishere

You've already cancelled the visa and the Embassy is aware of why.

He didn't show much commitment before in the application process ...causing you to cancel...Even if a new petition does make it to the Embassy...that alone will be a red flag and a huge hurdle for him to overcome at interview.

I remember you from before and I remember thinking how honest/wise and down to earth you were dealing with it considering the hurt you felt.....Now this? I know you forgive him, and that's great and all....But this guy has proven himself a sneak before......

I sincerly do wish you the best. Be careful.

Thank you for all your words I have never been cruel on this site in all the years I have been on here, I was asking for any ideas. I thought I might get a little more positive feedback then a come to jesus meeting, Im a adult and I know when Im being conned how do you think I found out in the first place he was chatting with someone. He was honest with me and held back no lies about what he did, It was hard for me to take in for sure. I believe in forgiveness and you shouldnt just give up on a marriage so Im at least trying. I cant tell you how many people when I posted back when this happened that wished they had done what I had as they are miserable in there marriages now. Not to say all so please don't take that out of context. I should of just kept this to me and my friends that really know me and that im not just desperate for love, the fact is I do love him. So as far as Im concerened this topic is closed my friends will find out what happens tomorrow.

Hello many of you may remember I canceled my husbands visa when I found that he was chatting with another women online last year, well I have found forgiveness in my heart and love him so much. I think it took what I did to get his attention, filing for divorce and canceling the visa. He has been trying so hard, calling on his dime not mine daily, loving me knowing he may never get to come here. So heres where I stand. Ahmed got a letter from the embassy with his passport without the visa stating they didnt see a true and real marriage,(as they got my cancel letter). Then I got a letter from USCIS saying they are reviewing our case. So not sure where to go from here, I do want to stay married to him and work out our issues. So I did set up an info pass appt. for tomorrow and see if I can show them the letter I sent to the embassy and the new letter I made today explaning that I just was to fast to cancel the visa, Ive been there 7 times so I know they got my letter and this is why is going on because of me. Im at a loss for words, I read all 54 pages of petitions going back to the usa and didnt get much there since most are for different reasons. Any other ideas, maybe just wait and see after the visit tomorrow?

Hey everyone... So sorry to hear of you being bummed out Terrie, I know it sucks to feel like the walls are caving in. I feel so connected to you all. This has been a huge support for me in going through this process with Ahmed. I know now that im not alone in this. Im just going day to day keeping my head up and spending lots of time with my son. Trying to stay focused and not let all this get the best of me. It is lonely but I know after time passes it will be ok. Wish everyone a good day.

As a matter of fact (a loves a) you need to understand some important points here. First, i do believe Sandra and i don't need to really hear about his side of the story to read the obvious signs of FAIL written all over this cheater. Second, being a husband not only means that you agreed to provide and protect this woman that chose to love and trust you with her life, but also to cater to her needs and respect her feelings. This is the barest minimum of your duties as a husband. Yes i said duties and not charity you give to your wife when you feel like it. What this man did is simply stabbing her in the back and abusing her repeatedly if i understood well. As for...

well if you have the right to tell your wife not to have affairs with other men i think she has full right to tell you to stop talking to other women as well, and you should be doing that on your own anyway. As a husband one should at least keep his wife informed of any woman he contacts regularly, notably work colleagues since you are not supposed to be having affairs with other women anyway for no reason. That makes them feel involved and gives them more reasons to trust you, and avoid jealousy to boot!.

Basically, all you need to do is simply sit down and ask yourself: "How would i feel if my wife ......?". Put yourself in her position and try to feel what she would go through. If you TRULY are in love, you will do so effortlessly.

I appreciate you post here, its so amazing how most of the men here don't see this as a problem, as controlling as my husband is, if the shoe was on the other foot, I would probally be shot. He has always wanted to know my every move, this is my first marriage and I really wanted to push and make our marriage work, I felt I was out of options when someone does these things time and time again a person can only take some much before it starts to damage your soul and it was making me seem like I had to made excuses for his actions, like the distance was getting to him and such. After long thought this is what I did. Im happy with the choice I have made and I know deep down in my heart there is someone else out there that will treat me with the respect I deserve as I will to them. My DHL letter to cancel the visa made it to the embassy today and I printed off to keep for my records. So I hope to hear something from them. I have also followed the DHL that was paid during our interview and its not delievered yet either thank god.

Well in my defence the ppl here that said follow my heart thats what im doing. Its kinda funny today how I sat with a couple at work from Jordan he was a christian minister that came here in 1972 a super wise man, and said to me many times has he seen this happen. He and his wife also prayed with me which I thought was so sweet and exactly some extra strengh I have needed. Ahmed has been calling and sending me messages and begging me to come back to him, I got an email from the embassy and they said I had to DHL a paper to the embassy noterized to cancell the visa so I have done that and there is no looking back at this. Im folling my heart and gut, I know this relationship will only get worse. When Ahmed tells me he has already changed in the last few days and to give him another chance, hell how many chances are there to give. Then another name another women on msn he is chatting with that he doesnt even know disrespecting our relationship. I truely believe in there eyes at least the way he was raised this is OK behavior. Well its not ok for me. So im pulling up my boot straps and moving on. Im going to San Diago Aug. 8-11 for a awesome work promotion I won and get to stay at the hard rock cafe in a suite and im going to enjoy my time to the fullest and relax and have fun. Its time I move on and im for sure standing my ground on this and not changing my mind.

Thank you all for your kind words and emails sent to me as well you guys are awesome, I talked to Ahmed last night and he was begging me to try and make this work, I know things will not change he has said these words before, going there 7 times and being married over 2 years you put a lot of yourself into this. I dont feel at all it was a waste but just a growing opertunity. I don't really feel that heart broken, just knowing that this will be over and he is not comming is a big help. Thinking about what things could of turned out to be in the long run would of been worse so I thank God this has happened for a reason. There is always time to grow and improve your life and learn from your mistakes and im taking that and running with it. Again thank you all for being here for me, the support is more then i could of ever asked for.

Well sad to say after over 2 years of marriage and now in AP. I have discovered my husband has cheated on me, not physically but enough for me to be done with this marriage. There other things to add as well such as lying and name calling that im not willing to put up with I know It will get worse when he gets here. Question is does anyone have any idea of how to get a divorce in egypt? I know im calling DOS and NVC and USCIS tomorrow, if any helpfull advice I sure could use it or some numbers. He told me he will never divorce me. I don't feel this was a waste of time just God showing me this is not where im supposed to be. Thanks for reading.

Thank You aishiahossam and and_sam!!!

We got his visa today!!! 4 days amazing!!! Good job Cairo!!!

WOW thats great, record time for Egypt!!

Tomorrow is our interview in Cairo and I will be by my husbands side. I really hope things go well and a special thanks to Sarah, Sandra, Wendy and Jalan for helping me out with any questions I had throughout this process.

We are hoping for the best. My anxiety hasn't kicked in yet, but my husband is very anxious. Mind over matter, we just gotta be cool, calm and collective Also, just to relax and be ourself. We may be from different cultures, but we were passionately drawn together. I want to start a family and begin our lives together in my home country. We can only hope and pray for the support and blessings of the US Government.

Sincerely,

Leia Mohammed

Congrats Leia on your approval, and no problem with helping you out thats what were all here for. Im glad your interview went well. Chat when you get home.

Congratulations Vanessa!!! Happy Wednesday, good to see Andrea you are getting to get a break. Nawal babies are still such cuties, im sure there a handful though. Called the DOS yesterday and they said still AP. Im just waiting in the wings, not much else you can do. Have a great day everyone.

called dhl today cause got email saying that package left the facility so we called dhl andthey said we would recieve our passport tomorrow ,,, wooo whooo!!!!!!!!!!!! did interview june 23 and june 29 we get our passport inshallah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Congrats thats great news. Happy travels..

Happy Monday to everyone, all the coffees are looking good right now, working at from home today and getting a bit bored. Im off to the doc at 445, been having major back and hip pain for about a month, made it tough to do a lot of walking in Egypt. Im not usually a wuss but had enough and Im forcing myself to see whats wrong. Still in waiting mode on the visa.

Welcome Home Sandra!!! I sure hope they hurry for you guys!!!

Thank you, I did call the DOS yesterday and talked with a real nice lady she asked my case number then asked if she could put me on hold and I said of course. She came back and said your case is already here and they just have to do a few checks on it. I said are we denied she said NO NO NO maam, we just have to do a few checks. She of course couldnt give me a time frame but she told me they email part of the case for them to review and they email back the go ahead to Cairo. So it made me feel a bit better, I know we have to wait, but when I was at the interview that lady was tough and really trying hard to confuse my husband with the dates, she asked the names of my kids and there fathers name as well and he knew it all. I just feel blessed this is all over and now the wait is all we have left its a far cry from the beginning of the process sending off the first USCIS petition. Hope everyone else is hanging in there, now in two months my attitude may not be as good if we havent got the visa...lol

Congrats to you both thats great, Im sure we had that same lady she was a bit tough. She was also at the time we were there training a new person maybe a little more extra tough for that reason, im so glad your not in AP thats great. Safe travel home and take care.

Sandra,

Congratulations on getting done with the interview stage! I hope Ahmed is out of AP in no time! Keep us updated!

Aya

Thanks everyone for your words of encouragement. Just keeping our heads up and trying to stay positive and hope the AP will end soon.

Finally Im home!! One of the longest trips ever. I just wanted to say congrats to HG and welcome to the states. Im going to open the suit case in a bit and check the white paper they gave us at the interview and look at the dhl and see if they have moved the papers, its already been 8 days so who knows.

Hello everyone sorry this is the first moment Ive had to get to a computer, we did our interview on wed. last week, unlike I thought the lady asked me to sit in the waiting room, so she could question Ahmed alone. She did talk to me for a little bit maybe 3 min. He did ok,but did stumble on the dates I was there, I have been there 7 times what do they expect. So when she was finished she called me back to the window and said this. He will not be able to come home with you in the next week we have to send his papers back to the state dept. for further review? She kept his passport and gave us a white paper with a website and number to check on our case? What does anyone make of this? I will post more I just came back from Hurghada and am very tired. So im guessing the AP and she kept the passport but didnt say welcome to the usa and you will get your visa in 2 weeks, she said your husband did great we just have to do some more checking and it can take 2 weeks to 2 months. I wish i would of brought the white paper with me today. but I know it has a website and our tracking number. I also have the dhl reciept. The interview was as most have described here. Wish everyone a good day, its 215pm in Alexandria now. Take care

Leaving for Egypt in the morning for husbands interview, in getting so excited. Of course overpacking...lol Good luck to eveyone else with there interviews this month!!!

Hello everyone, my interview is in 5 days, and im leaving on Monday for Egypt to be with my husband, getting very excited. Best wishes to everyone else with June interviews and have a great weekend.

From what Sameh said, he had to have the visa stamp in his passport for him to get the release from the military to leave Egypt.

Ahmed probably knows about that Sandra, so you shouldn't worry about it!!

Have a safe trip!!! Let us know how is goes!!

Thank you HG and Andrea, and yes you were right he knew but we didnt know how long it would take. Ill keep you posted on the interview results. Have a great weekend everyone. Im out here Monday.

Ok maybe a silly question. For the men that served there time in the military, I have heard with Andrea she needed her husband to get a release to leave Egypt. Can this be done before the interview or do you have to wait until you get the visa and have your completion paper from the military to take, and what do you say. Im leaving Egypt or what. I leave monday and if we got lucky and got the visa in a week is it possible my husband can come back with me? Is there a timeline on getting this release, do you say its for immigration or visiting?

So awesome!!!!! Congrats what a great day for you, and how exciting. What a long haul for you and trina my very best of wishes to you both in your future together.

we already got our interview date its 3rd of June and my fiancee with me me here in egypt , but plus we happy cuse we got our interview date we also worried cuse we dont like to speak to people also they hard people to deal with , you know its the true time for me and her , but any way they cant separate us whatever they desicion ,

did any body here had his fiancee with him in interview ??? , if so what happend and how the embassy do them ?

Good luck with your interviw, Im sure it will help with your fiance being there, it sure can't hurt. My interview is just 6 days after yours I will also be there.

I'm here in Egypt with my husband. Just called the NVC AVR and it said our case was COMPLETE on May 28th!! We are so happy about the good news We are just now awaiting our email and our interview date. Good Luck everyone.

Congrats Leia, now you can relax and enjoy your time in Egypt and await your interview. Have fun girl.

Hg and Holly we all pulling for you, I can't imagine all the heartache you have been through. Its been tough enough waiting for Ahmed to finish his military. Im so happy this is all comming to an end. Its so scarry to know that after the interview your life is in there hands.