amnyc86

Hello to all VJ members,
So I married a guy from India. We met on-line, went to visit him in 8/08, and things went well and decided to get married. Long story short we filed in India DCF in 5/09, and after some delays, he was given an immigrant visa and came to the US in 9/09.
Just days prior to our marriage, his family gave some problems which he did not handle well. I forgave, not knowing that forgiving is all I can do in this marriage. Only after being his wife, living w/ him did I realize that he was very irresponsible, verbally and physically abusive. I tolerated his outbursts, his embarrassing shouts in the streets, in front of his parents, etc. Finally, the physical behavior took toll where he exacerbated an old back injury and I couldn't sit up or walk for 3 days. His parents did nothing. I forgave him, b/c I loved him. I recommended many things to prepare for his life here. He heeded none of them, and decided to do it his way which was unsuccessful.
After many empty promises of change in his behavior, and came to NY, I realized actually nothing had changed. He became physical w/ me again after Christmas, and the relationship has not improved. I went to the police and filed a report.
I have told him many times, that I do not want to continue w/ this relationship, as I am not getting the love, respect or concern that I need. He has caused too much damage, and I feel that we are definitely not meant to be together.
He is currently in India for family matters. While he was away, I realized that I am much happier and at ease.
So far he has earned $6,000, and has assisted in paying $2300 in bills. Understandably, I earn more than him, and all my money is spent on house bills. When I ask him about his expenses, he has no recollection, and no answer. When he does go grocery shopping, all he manages to bring home is a gallon of milk, and whatever else his heart desires(cookies, candy, juice). Never eggs, meat. fish, rice, things he eats in the house. He has accused me of stealing his money, starving him, and abuse to both our families. Prior to leaving for India, knowing that I depend on him to pay some of the bills, he cashed his check and left. He did not even inquire once after getting there and settling in on how I will manage. I had purchased his one-way airline ticket, since he did not have any money prior to him getting paid.
Our marriage apparently will not work out. He is under the false impression that it will. I do not know why, especially when he has been a horror show from the beginning. He has said and done things to be that I cannot forgive.
What is my next step? Since he is already in India, can I proceed w/ filing for a divorce when he is there? My state does not allow no-fault divorces, so I will have to file on the grounds of cruel and inhuman treatment. CAN ANYONE HELP PLEASE?