KJandSH

I'm so glad to hear this. It's a huge deal! Hopefully he is actually one of the people involved in the murders and can lead to more arrests. This whole situation is just so sad and all the families of those murdered girls deserve justice and women in Juarez deserve to feel safe again.

We met in his hometown of Mokpo, Korea. I was teaching English there and he was my taxi driver and I forgot to pay him his fare. Luckily I was able to contact him about it and we started dating 2 days later.

I want the dress below, problem is I can't remember where I found this pic

is it possibly a casablance dress?

EDITED TO ADD : Yup it is!

http://www.casablancabridal.com/Products/D...amp;SubCat=2006

Ah, the power of networking!! Wonderful!!!

Jen

If you are in Michigan--even the Detroit area--you should go to Becker's Bridal in Fowler. They have the best dress deals in Michigan. I got my dress there for less than $200 and my cousin bought hers for $100. I think their dress quality is better than David's bridal too. Here is their website: http://www.beckersbridal.com/

I don't know what any of the 3 of them are.

i hope this was a joke!

Actually, it's not. I know hummus is some kind of food, I remember seeing someone eat pink mushy stuff and saying it was hummus once. But... that's about it.

Hummus shoudn't be pink--unless it's roasted red pepper hummus I guess.

You must try it. It's made from chickpeas, sesame seed paste, garlic and maybe a few other things. It's yummy.

Side note: the chopstick offered where I ate were metal.

I believe that is a common Korean style..

Yes--Koreans almost always use metal chopsticks. The only time I ever really use wooden chopsticks in Korea is when eating ramyun. I don't know why--that's just the way my host family did it. Maybe because the noodles are slipperier than other foods.

I don't think chopsticks are a fashion statement and I don't think western utensils are better. At my house we eat with chopsticks 95% of the time (of course we eat primarily Korean food) and I'm not trying to impress my hubby when we're alone or anything.

The reason I choose chopsticks is: 1) I eat more slowly and am less prone to overeat and more likely to enjoy my meal while eating with chopsticks. and 2) there are definitely some things that are easier to pick up and eat with chopsticks.

Things easier to eat with chopsticks include:

1) salad. You know those lettuce leaves you just can't spear with a fork? Well, chopsticks work great to pick them up. Same goes for kimchi and shredded veggies in general.

2) anything you don't want to put a hole in, but don't want to pick up with fingers...like pieces of kimbap--or whatever the Japanese equivalent is called. sushi? or is that only with raw fish? Anyway, you know what I mean.

3) anything you're going to dip in communal sauce. A lot of Asian food is shared with the whole table. I really think less of the chopstick goes into the mouth than a fork and therefore less mouth saliva goes into the sauce.

4) my omelet this morning. I chose to eat it with a fork and it was a pain. When I got the chopsticks I stopped having problems.

Now, I am no chopstick genius--they were elusive little tools for me until I was 24, but once I figured them out I was totally gung-ho about using them. So much so that when I was eating my sticky rice with my chopsticks, one of the teachers at my school asked me 'why are you using chopsticks to eat your rice? We use our spoons.' (Lots of Koreans do eat rice with their spoons--especially when it's accompanied by soup.)

And the cool thing about chopsticks is that you can still use them to spear things if you really need to--like that slippery cucumber. Or you pick one up in each hand and tear things apart if you need to also--like pancakes, etc.

I think forks are cute, but chopsticks are sexy.

I say yes--with restrictions. On another site I visit they require 100 posts for certain forums so they can more easily keep out posters who will make rude comments. Maybe that would be an idea for the divorce/considering divorce forum since it could end up being a volatile topic for some. I say this only because some of the reply posts I've seen where people are having trouble in their relationships seem to be completely unhelpful and sometimes people try to troll by starting threads with this topic too and you can't tell if they are for real.

I speak English and Spanish. I also speak Korean, but if the conversation is about complicated things, like politics, I am lost. I want to learn to speak Korean better, but have not applied myself. None of my husband's family or friends speak English so I always speak Korean with them--although with a limited vocab.

I voted yes--for health (hygiene) reasons.

My husband was circumsized at the age of 19 (babies are not circumsized in Korea--usually boys are circumsized at age 12 or after). He definitely wants us to have our future boy(s) circumsized as babies to reduce scarring (which he has and bothers him, but not me).

He also has said that it is a lot easier and cleaner being circumsized and he prefers it. I can't speak to his sexual pleasure before/after because let's just say that he was pretty innocent at age 19.

Edit: I don't think that boys should be necessarily circumsized as standard practice. A parent should always have the choice. However, I do think it's better for boys to be circumcized.

Congratulations! I'm about 12 weeks along, due February 18th. One site I would recommend if you would like to join an on line due date club and compare notes with other moms due the same month as you is:

http://www.justmommies.com/

C l i c k on "Pregnancy and Parenting Message Boards" on the top menu to get to the message forums and due date clubs.

(I know babycenter.com has due date clubs too, but there are so many people there you get lost in the shuffle.)

Thanks for the website link. Babycenter is one busy place and it's really slow on my computer too!

I just found the huge thread--thanks for bumping it. It didn't come up when I searched. Lots of babies and baby-making going on I see!

I'm off to check the whattoexpect website!

I just found out that I'm pregnant (Only 5 weeks along now) and we are really excited and hope everything will go well. What's kind of fun is that we conceived while on vacation in Korea.

Just curious to see how many people are expecting children here.

We are expecting our first--and just found out. I'm only about 5 weeks along right now.

If you know of any good websites for pregnancy (I've already discovered babycenter.com) please share them here!

I think it's healthy for 2 people to have separate lives and friends after marriage and it often happens that I may have a friend or two that my husband isn't crazy about and vice versa. So in that case, we are generally fine to let the other hang out with those friends.

For us, the partying late at night is more of an issue when we are in Korea (for reasons of time and $$). The only reason I don't like him hanging out with his friends until late is because then we get on different sleeping schedules and he gets up too late for all of the fun activities I plan for the daytime. My husband wants me to go with him and stay out late, but I just can't keep my eyes open until 4 and 5 in the morning--1 is about my limit these days--especially when trying to keep up in a language where I only understand about 35% of the conversation.

When we have kids I may be less happy to see him go out and party with friends, but actually I am happy that he can do it now since we are residing full time in the states and in Korea only on vacation so most of the time he is away from his longtime friends.

That's great that your trip falls during the interview. I was also in my spouse's home country for the interview and really glad that I was able to be there.

Hi from a fellow Michigander. Unfortunately I'm far away in Ann Arbor!

CONGRATULATIONS. Another Detroiter approved. great news.

congrats! We were approved last year in Detroit. Isn't it great to have this step over?!

We are so excited! After 2.5. years without seeing his family Seung-ho and I are going to Korea this summer (June 29-August 6th) for a long vacation. Our tickets are purchased and we are really looking forward to our trip. Is anyone else traveling to their spouses's home country this summer?

Haha! I did all the paperwork too.

I know what you mean abotu the family register having 'creative' information on it. My husband's estranged dad has screwed his totally up by disowning kids and erasing them off the register. Hopefully people know the culture of Korea and can understand that the dates are not always accurate and that as long as the wife is deceased the specific date isn't particularly important.

Kristi

Yes...congratulations!

Sorry I didn't see this before. Seung-ho and I went through the Korean consulate back in Dec. of 2003. It was pretty painless really. I was lucky enough to be present with him and I think that made it a lot easier. The man interviewing us was an extremely nice American (young too) and he was very kind and wished us well. We had a short personal interview at the window, about 10 minutes or so. I will look to see if I posted the experience elsewhere on this site and link to it.