coria1988

Thank you! =)

Now, I thought about going home right now and coming back to the USA next year on the visa waiver program. Can I enter the USA twice a year on the visa waiver? And how much time do I have to spend in Germany after my first visit?

I am confused. Your timeline indicates you are a K-1 visa holder since November of 2008. that said, you should be more than married to your petitioner by now, plus have adjusted status. Why are you saying you are on a J visa? Did something change?

Yeah, I cancelled the K-1 visa and never got married. Then I decided to be an au pair and now I'd like to stay in the US until school starts in August.

Hey guys!

At the moment I am in the USA as an au pair under a J1 visa. I will leave the agency though but I do not want to leave the USA. Is there any possibility to stay in the USA?

Can I change my J1 visa to a B2 visa while staying in the USA?

What if I stayed in the USA after the au pair agency cancelled the J1 visa, how long would I not be allowed to reenter the USA?

Can I go home and come back to the USA in 3 weeks with a visitor visa?

(I am from Germany)

I would be very glad to receive answers soon.

Thank you.

Hello everyone!

I had my visa interview on November 5, 2008 and shortly after that I have received my K1-visa.

However, I do not know anymore if I still want to get married.

What would I have to do with the visa?

Would I have to write a letter to the Consulate stating my reasons for not wanting to marry anymore?

What if I just visited the States in the next few months, would I have to enter with my visa or could I enter as a normal tourist? Would they let me enter as a tourist without my visa papers?

And what if the visa expired and I wanted to visit the States later on? Would I be refused entry or anything like that? Would they not asked me why I did not use the visa?

Thanks in advance.

hi coria how are u doing now? have you used your visa? whats your plan.thats also my probs with my fiancee, after i got my visa he suddenly dumped me. so worried now my visa will expire next month.

Hey, I am doing well. I am sorry it ended like that but I would advise you to get the visa cancelled as well. Like I said I have not used my visa. When I called the Consulate some woman told me that I was supposed to send the whole package and my passport back in order to cancel the visa. Well, it took about two weeks until the visa was cancelled. You will just get a stamp in your passport saying "CANCELLED WITHOUT PREJUDICE" in case it was no fraud or whatsoever...You also have to enclose a letter stating why you want to cancel it.

Okay, in case you want to cancel the visa you have to send the whole visa package and your passport back to the Consulate. They will then cancel it. I have received my passport today and my visa is NOW cancelled =) "Cancelled without prejudice". YAY!

Thank you sister! Stop bothering about him affairs, he's a looser we both know, get over it.

You have your life ahead of you. Let him roll around in his problems!

Tell me something nice you have been doing, how it has been with you. Anything new?

Oh, what has been up with me? Hehe not that much!

I finished my internship about two weeks ago and since then I am home all day.

However, I now have more time to take care of the kids of a friend and I go to the animal shelter regularly.

For the first time I went to nightshift, a disco, like 10 days ago with my friend Ella. It was cool! ; )

Also wanted to go to the cinema again...anybody seen Madagascar 2? =p I think I wanna see it. *hehe*

And oh well, I thought about what I want to do in the future...work? internship abroad? etc.

Then I got such a information literature about "Au-Pair". And oh well, I have already thought about that some time ago but then I only wanted to start real work. And now, I do think it would be a cool idea. I do think it is nice to be an au-pair for a year or so. I have completed the application except the medical form is still missing. XD Yeah, so I might become an au-pair in the USA. It would be so exciting. I just got adjusted to the idea of not being here no more and I kinda feel at the wrong place right now, don't know why. I really do hope that it won't cause any problems as regards the visa!?

Have a wonderful week and merry christmas!!!

Haha, thank you!

It's not that I have cried lately again or have been really really sad.

It is just the disappointment to see that I was honest with him and he might have lied to me.

Sure it does not matter now anymore. But I would like to know whether he lied to me while we were a couple or if he was honest. I disappointed myself in believing that he was a great guy. But he is not that great. I thought army guys should be accountable and responsible for their actions?! Well, this one really is not and takes the chicken way out. May it help him on his journey of live! I really would have never thought that he is such a guy but guess it is the truth! Why do I have the necessity to know whether he lied to me back then?!!! Just have to leave this man or should I rather say immature jerk!? lol

I cant believe what I am seeing!

He prolly did talk to his ###### half sister he did not like and look at that: http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fusea...endID=434077041. Holy ####! I mean thats great but why did he chicken out and could not even tell me? OO

Disappointment is bad, but what is worse is the fact that you saw the wrong person.

Awww, thank you.

I love you guys!

Hey,

Thank you so much.

I think its getting better from now. I talked to my ex-fiancé yesterday. He told me that he had started feeling weird some time in August. However, he did not want to admit it he said. He then told me on the date I told you that he had to tell me something, he prolly carried it with him for too long. I told him that he could have told me before but he did not want to admit his weird feelings. Now, it is clear, he does not love me no more. We will still talk later on, maybe in the new year. It is said to hear that now he wants to go and get laid by some random chicks (he does not know yet lol). It still somehow hurts me to know this, but we are not together anymore and he can do what he wants. Maybe I will be really hurt when he gets "the right one" because I was not it. If there is a girl out there who is "the right one" for him anyway. He did not blame me and he told me that I did nothing wrong. He did not get mad on the phone and I liked that finally he talked to me normally. I do feel weird but I think that talk will make it easier. I am going to miss the great times we had!!!

Thank you so much for the time you have taken to listen to my story and to give me advise, to support me and to be there for me. You are great guys!!!

I think that was my story...in case there are some news in the new year which belong here, I will let you know.

I am so ###### mad right now.

He is pissing me the #### off.

How can he be such a jerk now?

And I felt like he lied...I mean he told me that he did not talk to his family....

But he has been talking so much #### about them a normal person would never say if they loved or liked someone.

So one day I just started thinking ####### about them too although I have never met them....I know that was wrong but always when I said that they might not mean it etc. he said they did and what the ####### they did wrong etc.

And now he talks to them again? Now when he left me...I mean that's cool, but why does he talk to them now again after all that #### he talked about them? Why did he say all this ####### about his family? And why does he only love them because it was his duty to do so? WHY? I can't understand this...

How comes he wants to know how they are doing all of a sudden when he made them seem horrible to me?!

That is just so weird...I dont get it...

Yeah, I think if I am honest to myself I felt that something was not the same no more.

Just some minutes ago I told my aunt about it. She did not know we broke up.

She just said that he was not worth it if he does that #### and that she already thought that there is something wrong with him in October when I was there crying because he did not want me over there due to him possibly being deployed. It hurts that he is gone, but what hurts more is, is probably to know that he has already stopped loving me before and that he does not care about me no more. That he treats me like I am ####### and not the woman he wanted to marry. The fact that I protected him from every stupid comments my friends made about him and got angry at my friends because I did not want to hear anything bad about him. I feel like he took it for granted...

Yeah, maybe I am better off without him...

Hey,

Thank you all

Yes, I am ok

There is no chance he will get back with me...just friendship.

I really have no clue what I did wrong ...

So, once again, thank you all so much for your support!

I really appreciate it!

My dear Sweet sweet Coria,

I refrained from writting anymore because i was getting worked up, worrying more than was necessary and being drained for several reasons, A lot of us had warned you to begin preparing for sad news as it obviously wasnt going in the right direction after he gave you a date!

Its very hard for you yes i understand, especially since this is a festive season, how on earth did he pick now of all the times in the world? Why let it linger till Jan 02? Whats going on behind closed doors there?

My fruustration.....

Do you take time to read our responses or just scan through them? Its hard i agree but you ll never get better advice and encouragement like you have found here as these caring, nice, calming, thoughtful, experienced men and women, old and young have taken time out to write to you, not just a few words but lengthy messages, some have shown experience some have used parables.

Coria, you are young, you have been patient, you have cried enough, its time to say good riddance to bad rubbish, take nice, long warm showers and scented baths, drink some apple ciders! Wear some lovely soothing lipstick straighten your hair and put some blushes on, look in the mirror and say .... he didnt deserve me and i will NOT be miserable for you all my life....

Alot of us have tried to advice, encourage and guide you in preparing for the worse, accepting it and moving on... leaving him in your past! I know its hard to explain but sincerely we have had worse experieces! We survived, i Did....

My fiancee got my bridesmaid and best friend pregnant 7 months to our wedding,all for a few minutes of groin gratification! its a long story, i lost my fiancee and best friend in one day, everything i had worked for, and i heard of it all through a lousy txt message, meanwhile it had been circulating round me while i was busy shopping for the wedding, silly me..... but i'm still here, laughing in his sorry face, so my dear, i've been there, others have seen worse, we listened, learned and survived!

I cant say more than i have, neither can i match words with some fine comments you have had, please Coria, re-read, take it in and accept the situation... then and only then would healing process begin..

I wish you good luck Coria, soon love would find you again and this time you ll be careful and question everything deeper.

I did read what you write but I can't process it within one day and can break up because of the advice the first time I read it. It really helped me alot to get through the days the advices given me here. And I did think about them.

I also have already thought about breaking up with him myself, I did. But I just could not. I thought I have to wait a bit more and more because I love him. I did want to prepare for the worst at the end and I thought that I was ready for him to break up with me but I was not. Maybe another reason is because it came all of a sudden. First he gives me January 2 and then he tells me on November 27. I really thought I was ready for him to break up with me and I took your advice but it is not that easy and you guys know that for sure. I will move on and it will be hard but I am already looking for a job etc.

Thank you all for the support you have given me!!!

I just wish it was a huge nightmare...

That he came back again and realized that it was a mistake.

I feel so empty and I wished nothing more than being with him, cuddling, dining out, watching movies etc.

And now it should be over, from one day to another...how can love be over within two weeks?!!!

Hello everyone!

I just wanted to let you know the NEWS.

I am single. We are not together anymore....

It just hurts sooooo much.

Today we have been a couple for one year and nine months.

Well, now it is over.

He said that he was sorry...

Hey!!!

I would be interested in working for a Consulate or Embassy in France, USA, Canada, Spain etc.

Does anyone of you guys know which vocational training one has to do in order to be able to work in a Consulate or an Embassy?

How is the selection process?

Thanks in advance.

You have to take the Civil Serivce test that is given every April.

Here is the website that you can find out more information. http://careers.state.gov/career-options.html

I looked into this but my wife is a Chinese National so I am not able to do this for security reasons.

Thank you, but I guess I can only work for a german embassy or consulate as I am not US citizen!?

When I called USCIS I did not get a touch.

Hey!!!

I would be interested in working for a Consulate or Embassy in France, USA, Canada, Spain etc.

Does anyone of you guys know which vocational training one has to do in order to be able to work in a Consulate or an Embassy?

How is the selection process?

Thanks in advance.

Things in Manilla are handled very differently.

Look here first.

MY BAD!

Thanks to everyone who replied! We definitely want to follow the rules on this, we just had no idea it was so convoluted and drawn out, and probably like everyone, just looking for the best way to be together as soon as possible.

By the way, pushbrk, who is the "OP"? Tried looking it up on the abbreviations page and couldn't find it. Operating Procedure? Ocean Pacific?

Thanks again everyone!

Anita

As far as I know OP means Original Poster, so that would be you!

hi Sarah!!! we chatted before in ym!!I hope you're ok now!!!

well about your post here, many people whos in VJ are waiting for their Visa to come in US(I'm one of them)

but its sad to know that your(Fiance ) do that to you,and he never talked to you anymore!???wow I wish I can him!!!!

think first Sarah what are you going to do!!you have six months to enter US,but I dont think you need to use that Fiance Visa just to visit US??

you applied for that Visa to marry in US.and if you go to US to visit using that Fiance Visa then go back to Germany,

You can have a bad record to apply on your future Visa to United States,, well everything will be up to you!we're just here to give you advise,.

Good luck sweet girl!!!lav yah,

I know I have not decided yet. But I have to decide soon and can't wait 6 months. I have to look for a job or something else I want to do. I do not want to sit at home for six months thinking about whether I want to go there or not and once I have a job it is not that easy to leave...

No, I would not need the fiancé visa to visit the US. However, I need to know what to do with it in case I do not get married in order to not get a bad record.

And no, he did not really talk to me. He only said that he would write me after work but he never did. The next day when I asked he said that his computer did not work...but neither he answered his phone...MY BAD! It might not work anymore either all of a sudden. =S

Like I said, I have not decided yet but I want to make sure that I do not get a bad record or anything else in case I do not use the fiancé visa.

Thanks.

It is not me who had second thoughts!

I really wanted to marry and it was not just for fun I went through this journey.

I went through the interview myself waited for him to call me before to support me. I came back waited for him to ask me how it was but nothing...

I did want to get through it. I REALLY did but now I am not so sure no more because he left me hanging by myself and does not talk to me.

And I am sorry that I might have made you guys wait longer for your visa...

Yeah, the reason I am asking what to do with the visa in case I dont marry is because I don't want to lie neither I want to do anything that I am not allowed to.

Would I have to let the US embassy know about it before I go to the US?

Congratulations on the approval!

I think you have to wait for Packet 3 now and then follow the instructions...

Congratulations!!!