Your situation does not sound like it will be much of a problem with USEM/CO. My advice is to add to any forms that ask for her job title as waitress as you have stated this to be true. Next I advise her and you not to volunteer any information on this subject first. Allow the CO to ask, if they don't then no harm done. If asked give short brief honest answers. Allow the CO to ask the questions. Never not tell the truth. Be confident of your relationship. If this it the girl you want then turn off the outside "noise" and move forward with your plans. I hope you attain the partnership that you dream of.