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    MY LIFE IS AWAFUL IN AMERICA

    in Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits

    Posted

    Hello, all...

    I´m wrting to get some help... I got in US in the end of january, and since then, my experiencce isn´t well. I am feeling very lonely and have no one that is able to understand me. Here is a short context of my relationship:

    We met almost 6 years ago in my country,

    Six months later, I moved in with him in California, in a tourist visa. I stayed there legal for almost 2 years, then I had to move back to my country , but we never ended up our relationship. After 2 years, we married and after that, I waited for my green card approval for a year.

    While I was in my country, I lived in my bedroom, without going out and never hanging out with my friends... I juste worked, went to college and came home to wait for his call. He never lived with me. Just visited me every 2 months... it was very pleasent and we had great love to each other. my family loves him to death and his family came to visit me in my country. They do love me too. However, during the course of the Visa journey, I realized that he didnt have any interst on the visa situation even paying a lawyer to help me... and I didnt have anyone to share my steps- acomplkishments like NOA1, NOA 2... NVC... Interview.... I felt very lonely.

    In this meanwhile, we had our first marriage anniversary and he forgot... he never called me. His mother called me, but he forgot.

    I started getiing so frustrating because i had to deal with the pressurew by myself... my family were pretty scared wacthicn it, and one time, they asked kevin if he really wanted me... he was upset and felt insulted... one month before my interview appointment being schedule, I fell ill and I had nobody to share my deeply sadness, even with him calling me many times a day.

    time went by, and I got my interview. I was all alone. And went I told him (so excited) that I have passed , He said, "OH, Okay! Good! I ´m very happy". Then, I thought I would meet him imediatly, and he setup my flight to US for 3 weeks later... he said he need time to set up some things for my arriaval: HE MOVED OUT FROM HIS OLD APARTMENT SUDDENLY AND DIDN GIVE A CHANCE TO CHOSE OUR HOME.

    I was hurted, and had nobody to share. I felt terrible bad and didnt know what to do... I knew things werent right.

    I landed in US, he picked me up with the coldest flower buquet ever....I was weard... I couldnt pretend every thing was fine, because it wasn´t.

    The days went buy, and I tryied my best to make that workout, even, with no words from him about the real problem: there was something it wasn´t right, and both of us knew it. Then, by the time I started getting to know his new friends, things even more weard strated happening: most of them avoided talking about my husband´s past especially because they all were neighborns in the old apartment. They avoided showing me pictures, they made weard faces when by accident somebody mention any thing about him going out to parties and etc. Just to mention: I WOULD´NT HAVE ANY PROBLEMS WITH HIM GOING OUT TO PARTIES IN THIS 3 YEARS WHILE I WAS GONE, SINCE HE HAD SHARE THAT WITH ME, AND NOT PRETEND HIS PAIN WAS SAME LIKE MINE. So, I eventually caught evidences he had a way funnier life then I...

    Another weard thing happened also: he started getting into my e-mails and MSN and getting very jeoulous about my friends talk, and especially with my guy friends who I most of the time chat by internet because I was not social in my country at all. He became very aggressive morally, he yeal at me, he accused me of cheating him, he almost hit me..he used very bad words , things I never heard in my whole life. he humiliated me in front of my friend who was visiting me. he said painful words. and I never had done wnything bad to him. I never dated anyone, I never flirted, I never even got out of my room for 3 years.

    So, he kept me humiliating me for 4 days straight.. and on the 5th, I told him I wanted to leave him. He freaked out, and trying to do everything was possible to changed my mind. Same day, He went out, acctually inveted me to go meet another friend, but there wasnt atmosphere for me, os course, and I said no, you go. He came back home, 3 am, extremely intoxicated screaming I was the love of his life. We ended up making up.

    The next morning, his blackberry bipped, he didnt woke up, so I went to answer his phone, then I saw there was a woman message, I mean, over 20 txt message from him invitinmg her to go out with him same night after I said no, and 3 pictures of a girl in his file.

    So, my heart was deeply hurted... I so myself in bed, shocked... frustrated, even more humiliated... This man almost hitted me after accusing me of having affairs with no eveidences of anythings, just because I have guy friends as any other person... and now, I caught pictures, chats...

    WHAT ELSE DO I NEED, MY GOSH....

    I dont know what to do... I have know idea how much a divorce would complicate my GREEN CARD SITUATION SINCE I AM CR1 and I am living with him only for a month...

    If I divorce him, what is going to happen with me... Will I be forced to come back to my country....

    I read something that for me to file for a divorce in California, I would be permanent residence for at leats 6 months.....

    Please, anyone, help me.

    i feel for you... i am actually scared this will happen to me too. good luck and i hope everything will turn out for the best. take care.

    Lawyer Dilemma

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedures

    Posted

    just the kind of reply that i need to read! :) tHank you so much

    to those who are considering hiring immigration lawyers, if yours is not a special case then you are better off doing it on your own. will save you a lot of money really. on our 2nd-4th month of waiting for NOA2, i have already spent a lot of time doing my own research here in visajourney and the more I learn and understand about the process I was like -- WTH did we pay that lawyer for. lol

    anywhoo, good luck to everybody and God bless us all!

    Lawyer Dilemma

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedures

    Posted

    We hired a lawyer when we applied for our visa to avoid messing up in filling up the forms and whatnot... that was before I learned about VisaJourney website. If i had known about VJ before we filed, we shouldn't have hired a lawyer because 1. ours in not really a special case 2. they really did not do anything but send out the forms for us 3. the fee is totally a rip-off considering there are a lot here who can offer advice for free! Now, the thing is, we have not fully paid our lawyer half of the fee he is charging us and honestly, i don't think we want his services any longer. my questions are

    - what are the proper ethics for this, should we still pay him whatever we owe him and then tell him we wont be needing him anymore? honestly, i could use the money for my one-way ticket to my loves :blush:

    - he has the hard copy of our NOA1, if he wont give it to us, would it be okay not to have it(NOA1) during my interview?

    as for NOA2, he sent us a PDF file of our NOA2 so i figure I can just print that out and that should be good as hard copy eh?

    I'm sorry if my questions has really obvious answers.. i guess i just need to be very sure. Thank you and more power to you all.

    ha they found my case

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedures

    Posted

    well today i finally had enough of the responses from csc and their our records indicate blah blah blah sicked my mom on them,

    after she got done they found my case the hard copy all these months and year it has been setting in review for someone to send a rfe. Nobody sent us one and it was just sitting there all this time

    The supervisor told us what to send and to request expedite due to the length of time it has sat there can u believe this #######?????????????????

    and i want to know why in the world no one at that office ever thought hmmm maybe we should look for the hard copy to find out what is really going on with it?

    why did it take someone that refused to accept its in security as our records indicate to get to the bottom of this mess?

    they would not even be straight forward with our attorney but then i guess he also dont have the time to set and really get down and ugly if he has to.......anyways thats my up date on this nightmare of a journey and plz everyone pray hard i have

    requested they get this expedited next week i believe they owe me that much

    sara

    Yay! Finally! :)

    hi there everyone

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedures

    Posted

    Hi.....i need your advice friends in here.... or im about curious about the K-1 visa

    ok heres the situation, i have a bf from USA....he been filed as a being petitioner since august 2008 till now yet havent heard from approval from his side and im waiting too.... and now i found a new man which they both same country but different state .....then who is also willing to petition as same petition with my old bf.... but the question that really bothered me is that, is it okay two petitioner do petition on me? though both sides on them havent know the real situation and i dont have plan to tell to them coz its very complicated and i dont want to hurt one of them.....does the NVC or USAID or USCIS, wont trace up for my side? that i have a two petitioner?

    some friends told me it wont trace up my side coz it just trace up for there own each profile of the men, is it true?

    please help me .........or do send me a private message

    thank you

    hope i can hear alots of opinion or advices

    clyn

    omg get that flag off your profile. how embarrassing! :angry:

    air21 visa delivery

    in Philippines

    Posted

    how long will i wait before i can receive my visa? im from ilocos hopefully soon.. and can i take the CFO seminar a day before my flight?tnx guys!.

    I hope u will update us with whatever happened with your interview about your "concern" so that other VJer's will learn from your experience since we are all here to help each other. Thanks. :)

    Emailing the NVC

    in US Embassy and Consulate Discussion

    Posted

    yep u can email them.

    i emailed NVC 1/19/09 and got a reply 1/26/09 with our case number as the subject title of the email :)

    i found this sample email somewhere in VJ forums and i just copied and edited it.. it worked!

    no copyrights but wth :lol:

    Subject: Status of I-129F Receipt Number: WACxxxxxxxxxx

    Dear National Visa Center,

    Good Day!

    I am writing to inquire about the status of our approved I-129F petition with Receipt Number: WACxxxxxxxxxx. We have received our final approval from the USCIS (U.S Citizenship and Immigration Services) on Friday, May 9th. May we request you to please assist us with any standing information regarding this matter with specifics on our case number assignment. I've enclosed below all the pertinent details needed to serve as your reference for this inquest.

    Petitioner's Name:

    Date of Birth:

    Applicant's Name:

    Date of Birth:

    Your soonest possible reply on this matter will be greatly appreciated.

    Thank you.

    Sincerely yours,

    good luck to u!

    CAGAYAN DE ORO

    in Philippines

    Posted

    It's nice to know there are a handful of us here! Congrats to those who are already in their lovey's arms! I am still in CDO, got my NOA2 2 weeks ago and I am now in the process of gathering all the necessary documents. Super stressful! I cant decide if I should go for short, long or A4 sized bond papers :cry:

    keep in touch, mo mga miga, ok? INgatz!

    September 08 K1 fillers

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

    Posted

    i wonder how the sept vsc filers are doing hehehe...

    oh boy...i get the feeling that is a VEEERRRYYY sore subject for the VSC sept. filers. it's ashame the two centers can't be a little more equal.

    whoa!

    yeah, i just looked at Igor's list and no approval for sept. filers yet. how is that even possible, i thought csc has a lottt of backlogs. ah well, why cant i just be thankful. k, ill shut up now.

    NOA2 approved! what's next?

    in Philippines

    Posted

    Congratz! ur almost done..anytime u can attend seminar.but for me its better to go to seminar after u receive ur visa.like mine,i went to CFO manila after i received my visa & good thing i have my visa coz if not i think they will not released the certification coz i have no parental consent but im 23 yrs. old that time.They have no choice hahahhaahha....

    Goodluck!

    i just want to ask if the seminar in CFO is a requirement?

    Does National Guard belong to Active Army??

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedures

    Posted

    For filing our I-134 for the Interview we are wondering if my fiancee hast to make the income of the 100% or the 125% poverty guideline matter of fact he´s in the National Guard?? We called USCIS up and asked em our question that my fiancee is National Guard but he is not on active duty right cause he got back from his deployment this october but they told us that National Guard still counts to Active Army so we are wondering now!!! Can anybody help??

    hmm... that didnt even occur to me but that is a very good inquiry. now i am wondering the same :unsure: cuz my fiance is also in the National Guard. I hope somebody can answer this question.

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