Hello all,may the Lord God bless us and to this column.
I am new to this site and I am so glad to find this because it helps me a lot with my problems.And now ,I am hoping you all to advice me what is the best thing to do.And in order to understand my situation,here is my story.
I arrived here in the US last August 15,2007.On my first day here,I already noticed something is wrong with my fiance.I feel like he just brought me here in order to have a servant in his kids and pets.He got 2 kids.But I don't complain about that.Because for me,it's my obligation as his wife to be because that is what I expect hence he brought me as his fiancee.What I don't understand, is ,why he has no plan about marrying me?He is aware that he should marry me b4 90 days so that I will not be sent back home.I did not ask him a marriage and I just wait because for me as a filipina ,we have no rights to ask for a marriage.I just wait and wait until I decided to ask him if is he having second thoughts of marrying me.He said no,he doesn't.He just told me that he just need a enough time to ask a vacation leave from his work.So,I listened until the date comes that he promise to marry me. It was Nov.5, and my visa will be expired on Nov. 13,see how difficult it is for me.I feel like I am climbing on a very thin thread.I hurts but I can do nothing.He has the ace.My reputation is already been damaged.For me,if I go back home,it would be a very big issue.People will talk about me.Judging me badly.I hope you understand what I mean.So,I take it all.I just cry and pray.But the worse thing was when Nov. 5 comes,it was morning,I thought, we will go to the court but, I was surprised when he handed me a pre-marital agreement.Everything that is bad for me is in there.He said if I won't sign it,there's no marriage will be happen between us.He is welling to buy me a ticket for me to go back home.But,it states there,that he has no obligation on me,if I die,he has no obligation about my burial expenses,if he divorce me , I would just have to sign the divorce paper without any complain.I have no rights in everything that he owns.For me,on that moment,the first thing that comes up to my mind is why is he doing this to me.He is the 1st man in my life and he knows that.I am a virgin (sorry for my word but it hurts me so really bad)when he got me.I am a descent woman and I did everything to be a descent and good wife.I never complain if he wakes me up at 1 am just to take his dog outside to pee.I get up 1st before him just to pack his lunch and prepare his b-fast.He has no tv.He worked 5 days a week.He leave at 5 and get home at sometimes almost 11 pm.I never complain that.So, in short,what I did ,is I said..wait....I talked to my sister and brother in law.I was seeking for advice what do I need to do.Should I sign it or not? I know I won't be happy because for me I don't deserve it because all I want is a respect.So, he said,ok,but he is smart..He get a marriage license.We get it together and I agree because I thought his mind will be changed.But, then,I know that,that is why he get it so that he could used in order to clean his self.He called the USCIS and said,that t is my fault that we will not be able to get married and it makes me mad.He is a nurse and he works in ICU and I am pretty sure that they will favor of him because he is educated.They believe in him because he have that charisma.So,I already know that there's no marriage happen between us because he said that I already disagree to sign the agreement.So,I said,before I go back to my country,I have to see my sister and nephews.I ask him and he drive me to my sister's place.And after 3 days I went back to his house,my brother in law send me back because I was a stupid,I was in love with him.So, i just stay and he said,I could stay with him illegally because I said to him that I love him.My sister got so upset on me and her friend who is the president of filipina association.My sister said that I should go back home so that I will not be on the black list and I did not listen so she called police in order to get me out from my fiance and it happened.But, what really happen is, my fiance make a nice statement to the police w/c I think is his friend,he said,that my sister is crazy and he said that he has already a ticket for me.So the police said,ok...So,in the morning,as what I have expected,he already packed my things, and he said,that I have already a ticket.I was crying because I don't want to leave him because I was very in love with him.But he was mad, he said go...Even if I don't want to,I was forced,so I ride in plane going to Texas and then because it was my 1st international flight,I got lost.The airport is so big and I miss my flight.Maybe it's because,I was crying and I keep going back to the bathroom because I was ashamed that people were looking at me.So,then I called him and told him,I miss my flight.He said,it's your fault,I have no more obligation with you.So,i called my sister and told him,I am stranded.I got only 100$ on my pocket.That's all I have.he only gave me 100$ and that's why I just stay in the airport.My family were all worries about me.So,my brother in law ask me if I am welling to stay with them for a couple of days until I have someone to go with back to philippines.Because,they have heard that there is a filipina who is also planning to go home to philippines.So,that's why I said,yes..So,they bought me a plane ticket.And I took it .And,then, when I was with my sister's family,I was still keep thinking of my fiance.Then,I cheated my sister,I e-mailed my fiance and told him I am with my sister.after, he knew it,he said,that he still love me and I believe, so,when my sister left me at his friend's house, I sneak and called my fiance and then my fiance get me from there.My sister and her friend were so mad of me because I am stupid and they said they were trying to help me and I did not help myself.So,in short,I was with him again.I keep waiting waiting as usual if he's gonna marry me.But,still nothing is changed.In fact,I saw his videos making sex with another woman who is his co-worker,a nurse also..It hurts me a lot.I don't know what to do.I comfront him once and he cannot say anything because it is true.I copied it and it here with me now .I put it on the dvd disc.But,I am still not discouraged,I still waited and waited maybe because I feel like I can't live without him.Until,time come,it was March 10 2008,that he said,he is going to bring me to his mom's house and hide me there because he said nobody knows me there.Like I will just travel thro and fro so that the INS cannot locate me.It's stupid.Then,I wake up and face the truth that he doesn't love me.I called my friend and ask her for help.She was a little bit mad of me because I already cheat on her.My sister is afraid to help me concerning I am already an illegal.I talked to my fiance,I said to him ,I can't go with you.He was very mad and I don't listen to my heart anymore.I left.He did not give me even a peny.
When,I was at my friend's house, she let me use the computer.You just don't know how it's hard for me.There's no nights that I don't cry.They see me and felt pity on me.She sometimes brought me to her school so that I will be entertained.And,then,one time,when I log on my computer,i saw a message from a man, which is now my husband.He said,he is welling to marry me and starts family with me.I agree with him w/o any hesitation.We got married after 2 weeks of conversation.He came to my friend's house and ask my hand from them.My friends were trying to disagree about it because they said it's too quick.But I don't listen because for me,I believe that these is all God's plan.This man is for me.He comes on the right time.He marry me without any hassle.No premarital agreement.He put me on his bank account and everything and then he filed me a I-130 to the USCIS.And he also work in the hospital and he is more specialize than the other guy.He is also more responsible than him.And now,my heart is change.How can I not love him if he loves me more than I thought?I am completely in love with him now.I don't know,my feelings from the other man is just vanish completely especially everytime I think what e have done to me .
Now,I am just waiting for the approval.I don't know if they gonna approve it or what.I hope they will..They already sent us a reciept on May 29,2008....that's all i need to know about..if someone out here who has the same situation of me,please share and tell me if I am doing the right thing.I also need to know,if i should go back home,while my application is pending so that I will not face the banning.Just share..thanks for reading.God be with us all~
k1 visa expired and married to someone else
in Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits
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Dear Everybody,
Hello all,may the Lord God bless us and to this column.
I am new to this site and I am so glad to find this because it helps me a lot with my problems.And now ,I am hoping you all to advice me what is the best thing to do.And in order to understand my situation,here is my story.
I arrived here in the US last August 15,2007.On my first day here,I already noticed something is wrong with my fiance.I feel like he just brought me here in order to have a servant in his kids and pets.He got 2 kids.But I don't complain about that.Because for me,it's my obligation as his wife to be because that is what I expect hence he brought me as his fiancee.What I don't understand, is ,why he has no plan about marrying me?He is aware that he should marry me b4 90 days so that I will not be sent back home.I did not ask him a marriage and I just wait because for me as a filipina ,we have no rights to ask for a marriage.I just wait and wait until I decided to ask him if is he having second thoughts of marrying me.He said no,he doesn't.He just told me that he just need a enough time to ask a vacation leave from his work.So,I listened until the date comes that he promise to marry me. It was Nov.5, and my visa will be expired on Nov. 13,see how difficult it is for me.I feel like I am climbing on a very thin thread.I hurts but I can do nothing.He has the ace.My reputation is already been damaged.For me,if I go back home,it would be a very big issue.People will talk about me.Judging me badly.I hope you understand what I mean.So,I take it all.I just cry and pray.But the worse thing was when Nov. 5 comes,it was morning,I thought, we will go to the court but, I was surprised when he handed me a pre-marital agreement.Everything that is bad for me is in there.He said if I won't sign it,there's no marriage will be happen between us.He is welling to buy me a ticket for me to go back home.But,it states there,that he has no obligation on me,if I die,he has no obligation about my burial expenses,if he divorce me , I would just have to sign the divorce paper without any complain.I have no rights in everything that he owns.For me,on that moment,the first thing that comes up to my mind is why is he doing this to me.He is the 1st man in my life and he knows that.I am a virgin (sorry for my word but it hurts me so really bad)when he got me.I am a descent woman and I did everything to be a descent and good wife.I never complain if he wakes me up at 1 am just to take his dog outside to pee.I get up 1st before him just to pack his lunch and prepare his b-fast.He has no tv.He worked 5 days a week.He leave at 5 and get home at sometimes almost 11 pm.I never complain that.So, in short,what I did ,is I said..wait....I talked to my sister and brother in law.I was seeking for advice what do I need to do.Should I sign it or not? I know I won't be happy because for me I don't deserve it because all I want is a respect.So, he said,ok,but he is smart..He get a marriage license.We get it together and I agree because I thought his mind will be changed.But, then,I know that,that is why he get it so that he could used in order to clean his self.He called the USCIS and said,that t is my fault that we will not be able to get married and it makes me mad.He is a nurse and he works in ICU and I am pretty sure that they will favor of him because he is educated.They believe in him because he have that charisma.So,I already know that there's no marriage happen between us because he said that I already disagree to sign the agreement.So,I said,before I go back to my country,I have to see my sister and nephews.I ask him and he drive me to my sister's place.And after 3 days I went back to his house,my brother in law send me back because I was a stupid,I was in love with him.So, i just stay and he said,I could stay with him illegally because I said to him that I love him.My sister got so upset on me and her friend who is the president of filipina association.My sister said that I should go back home so that I will not be on the black list and I did not listen so she called police in order to get me out from my fiance and it happened.But, what really happen is, my fiance make a nice statement to the police w/c I think is his friend,he said,that my sister is crazy and he said that he has already a ticket for me.So the police said,ok...So,in the morning,as what I have expected,he already packed my things, and he said,that I have already a ticket.I was crying because I don't want to leave him because I was very in love with him.But he was mad, he said go...Even if I don't want to,I was forced,so I ride in plane going to Texas and then because it was my 1st international flight,I got lost.The airport is so big and I miss my flight.Maybe it's because,I was crying and I keep going back to the bathroom because I was ashamed that people were looking at me.So,then I called him and told him,I miss my flight.He said,it's your fault,I have no more obligation with you.So,i called my sister and told him,I am stranded.I got only 100$ on my pocket.That's all I have.he only gave me 100$ and that's why I just stay in the airport.My family were all worries about me.So,my brother in law ask me if I am welling to stay with them for a couple of days until I have someone to go with back to philippines.Because,they have heard that there is a filipina who is also planning to go home to philippines.So,that's why I said,yes..So,they bought me a plane ticket.And I took it .And,then, when I was with my sister's family,I was still keep thinking of my fiance.Then,I cheated my sister,I e-mailed my fiance and told him I am with my sister.after, he knew it,he said,that he still love me and I believe, so,when my sister left me at his friend's house, I sneak and called my fiance and then my fiance get me from there.My sister and her friend were so mad of me because I am stupid and they said they were trying to help me and I did not help myself.So,in short,I was with him again.I keep waiting waiting as usual if he's gonna marry me.But,still nothing is changed.In fact,I saw his videos making sex with another woman who is his co-worker,a nurse also..It hurts me a lot.I don't know what to do.I comfront him once and he cannot say anything because it is true.I copied it and it here with me now .I put it on the dvd disc.But,I am still not discouraged,I still waited and waited maybe because I feel like I can't live without him.Until,time come,it was March 10 2008,that he said,he is going to bring me to his mom's house and hide me there because he said nobody knows me there.Like I will just travel thro and fro so that the INS cannot locate me.It's stupid.Then,I wake up and face the truth that he doesn't love me.I called my friend and ask her for help.She was a little bit mad of me because I already cheat on her.My sister is afraid to help me concerning I am already an illegal.I talked to my fiance,I said to him ,I can't go with you.He was very mad and I don't listen to my heart anymore.I left.He did not give me even a peny.
When,I was at my friend's house, she let me use the computer.You just don't know how it's hard for me.There's no nights that I don't cry.They see me and felt pity on me.She sometimes brought me to her school so that I will be entertained.And,then,one time,when I log on my computer,i saw a message from a man, which is now my husband.He said,he is welling to marry me and starts family with me.I agree with him w/o any hesitation.We got married after 2 weeks of conversation.He came to my friend's house and ask my hand from them.My friends were trying to disagree about it because they said it's too quick.But I don't listen because for me,I believe that these is all God's plan.This man is for me.He comes on the right time.He marry me without any hassle.No premarital agreement.He put me on his bank account and everything and then he filed me a I-130 to the USCIS.And he also work in the hospital and he is more specialize than the other guy.He is also more responsible than him.And now,my heart is change.How can I not love him if he loves me more than I thought?I am completely in love with him now.I don't know,my feelings from the other man is just vanish completely especially everytime I think what e have done to me .
Now,I am just waiting for the approval.I don't know if they gonna approve it or what.I hope they will..They already sent us a reciept on May 29,2008....that's all i need to know about..if someone out here who has the same situation of me,please share and tell me if I am doing the right thing.I also need to know,if i should go back home,while my application is pending so that I will not face the banning.Just share..thanks for reading.God be with us all~