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It's not blah,blah,blah....I am not like others.What I am saying is the truth.

No,it is not after I came back.He loves to make sex video of all the ladies he been...........He have some american gf's even if I am already with him.He still contacted them and most of them are also nurses.it's not only one woman.And,that's why I conclude that,that's why he wants a pre nup because he could make it as an alibi or else so that we will not get married because he knows if we get married I will not tolerate him having affair with other women.He asks me if he could have 2 of us in his house because he wants 2 women in his bed and I cannot afford it because I did not knew he was like that,a maniac.

[Yes,I ask him to have an attorney for me and he said,I cannot have.He said it is too expensive.I said I will just go to the indigent place and he said no because he is not belong to indigent,and that's why..My brother in law advice the same too and that's why he got mad.He just want me to sign ,that's all.If I don't sign it,no marriage.And that's what happened.

not in the second time,even since before....

I do accept the consequences and that's why I posted here how I appreciated it.Yes,but he said he loves me and I do love him too.And he said,that, the sooner we get married,the sooner we could file my papers,that's why..And,I am very thankful to have such a husband who is like him who really cares about me and who really loves me truly.

Correction your honor,it is not just only a simple prenuptial,if that is what you think.I'm glad ,I can understand English and I am just not to naive.If only you can read it,you will understand what I mean.I cannot afford to be with someone who just want me to be his slave but not to be his wife.That's the main root of why we are not married.Why,can you afford to stay with someone having sex with another woman inside the house where you live and wants you to sign that pre nuptial agreement so that you cannot complain anything.Is that a normal life of wives here in america? Have them sign with the pre nuptial agreement,making love affair with another women,making them a slaves? I am sorry for not being aware of it.But I think it is not ,because my husband is not like that.

I give you a credit with your statements,but let me clarify to you ,that not all the time you can choose what is right for you espescially if you are in a very hard situation.Some people cannot understand because they are not been to it or they are not into it ,but, let me tell you ,nobody wants to be in vain.

You know what, if I did not sign that pre marital agreement,I believe that I am just doing the right thing.It's doesn't mean that I do it because I wants his profits,it's because I need the trust and respects.If only you can read,what is states on there,probably you would understand why I did not agree with it.Or maybe, if I am the one who handed it to you,you will not like it.If you are welling to read it ,I could send it to you ,just give me your e-mail add so that you will understand why I disagree with it.

well,anyway, I just don't want that it will be happen to some other people because you just don't know what I've been through.

That video is here with me,I copied itand that's gives me strength to believe that he doesn't love me because if he loves me and his intention is to marry me and make as his wife,he willnot dosuch things like that and he will treated me with respects and not to be likea sexslave.

It's not only the pre nuptial agreement is the reason.It's only one of it.The one which is the most is when I saw his sex video with his co-worker which forced me to believe that he doesn't love me.And when he said that he just want to hide me at his mom's house.

Thanks everyone.Your advice helps me a lot.Yes,I made a mistakes but it's okay.Anyway,I already overstayed my visa even if I was with my petetioner.So,it doesn't matter if I will be banned now for three years.I am just happy that I found the person who really loves me and wants to be with me forever.

I hope these would help to someone who also in the same situation.I am sure I am not alone.So,guys,let's just go home.Petetioner's have more power than us.It doesn't matter if what they do is wrong ,they are still more favorable than us.I am glad for those someone who is lucky and who has a good petetioner.Congrats!

So,now,I am going back home and facing the consequences.Ahm,it will be fine if I will be banned for 3 years.Maybe while waiting I could continue my study as a lawyer.But only,it's hard for me and my husband to not to be together for a while.But,we have no choice.I just wish I meet him before ,before I knew my petetioner.

Once again,thank you and God bless us all!

Yes,you are right..Thank you!

Thanks for the information.Yes, we are planning to hire an immigration attorney.What we were only doing until now is just to look up in the internet if we could see some informative information and that's we saw that we could file an I-130 which is for petetion for an alien relative.So,that's why we submit it to the USCIS after we got married and that's why they gave us a receipt and I got it last May,29,2008....And now I am wondering if they are going to approve our application.I have no idea as of now,because there is no reaction yet.I looked on the internet which shows the processing time,it says that they are now currently reviewing the Nov,2007 case.So, I am thinking that maybe I just have to wait until they send us their descession which will be happen probably on May,2008 or hope sooner than that.

Thank you.It is helpful and I appreciate your response.May God bless you~

If you have a good foundation in life that's good.If you believe in God that is more good.What do you concern about?Why do you not want me to talk about him.That's why I thought you don't believe in him.Now,I am glad to know that you are also God believer.So,what's wrong if i impose my saviour.We are different.That's how I show my love to him.There's nothing to be concern about....

I have no questions because I already know the answer.What all I want is someone who has the same experience as mine and how they deal with it.If they also applied the I-130 like I am doing now.If they also waited the descession from the USCIS before they decide to leave .That's all.

PS,only for those someone who have the same experience as mine because I believe you can give me more accurate answer than anybody who doesn't know what they were talking about because you also experiencing it.

I don't ask to people to bend their back over me.I just stating my experienced and asking if there is something I could do about it.I don't ask for your favor.You have your own views of life.If you think,what I am doing is not right,I agree and I am aware of it.I know that I disobey the rules of my visa,but I did not do it intentionally......That's why I said,I am welling to deal with it.I didn't say,that please be in favor of me.No,I don't ....Because I know I made a mistakes.I thought you understand my situation,but now,it is clear to me that you don't.Well,I just hope that everything will goes right for you and you will never make a mistakes in your life.

I am not talking about a ####...What,I am taling is a fact.But it doesn't mean,that I am talking that women are easily fall in love to every man...................Not''''EVERY'''''.......What, I mean to impose , is it doesn't mean,that we cannot fall in love again.If you are also'' one woman,one man'' good for you.I used to be like that too that's why I don't leave my fiance.But,if you are in my situation, you have to be smart and think to love yourself.Why would you love someone who doesn't love you?Why? would you tolerate to a man who doesn't love you and who will just torture you for the rest of your life.I think you will say''NO"".That's why,I pick my husband ,because he loves me and he mary me.When a guy,propose you a marriage,it means he loves you and he doesn't want to lost you.That's how I describe it.That's why,I accept his proposal even if it is just a short period of time.And I will be with him forever ,no one else.If I fall in love with him easily,my answer is I don't know,I think it's just because he shows care for me and love which I don't get from my previous relationship.i thought everybody is just the same because that's some old people told me.Because for me,I already give up to love again.I thought I cannot love again but I was wrong.If I put God on my statements,I am so sorry if you don't like it but that's the way I talk.I believe in him and he is part of my life.thank you

I don't mean that I am cheap and I will fall in love to every man who shows care for me.I am so sorry for not clarifying my statements.What ,I just want to say is I love him because he cares for me and I know it's unbelievable to believe that I love him in just a period of time.I am not a playgirl or a prostitute if that is what you think.I used to be ''one woman,one man'' before that's why I did not leave my k1 petetioner easily.I tried to be with him and that's the reason why I overstayed my visa.And when I realized what I am doing is not good,is not healthy for me,because it is so very stressful.If you don't understand what I am dealing,I don't think you have any ideas to advice me.But anyway,thank you.And,if I married my 2nd man in just a short period of time,jus because I believe he is right for me because he respects me and he loves me.And also,if I say,that women are easily fall in love to a man who shows care for them,I am sorry if it sounds generalize,but you know what,I have my points.But it is not applicable to a woman who is in good relationship or married.Its only for a woman who lost hope and think that they cannot fall in love again.If for you,it is not hard to forget your first love,then you are exempted and I would consider you as different.

Because that's the truth.Perhaps, you don't believe in God.

I've been there..My fiance did not marry me also.He has a lot of alibis.They said when a man has too many alibis to marry you,it means he is just not sure of being with you.He is having second thoughts.Before,I did not listened and that's why I also overstayed my visa.I also loved that guy because he is my first love and I was used to be ''one man ,one woman''until I realized the fact that it is not happen all the time.It doesn't mean that you do it intentionally,but it's just happens.I think it's because ,we as human,before we were born and see this world,we already have a partner.God already made a plan for us.Because,I base it from my experience,I really wanted that guy so badly to be my husband,he knows that,and I also feel that he also feel the same,but I am just not 100% sure because if he does ,he should marry me without any alibis or whatever.But , you know,let us be feel pity to ourselves.We should love ourselves.Nobody can help us but it's only us.Dealing with emotional problems is hard.I been there.It will make you malnuorish.You cannot sleep well.I don't know if you feel the same way too.Because,when I was on that situation,all I do is crying most of the time.Can't eat.I lost my apetite and you will look old.Believe me.Stress can make you old and unhealthy.I don't know if you don't feel stressed with this situation.

You know,what I did to my fiance,I give him a time frame.Maybe he will not listen because he is already used to is like what happened to mine also.It is just like threatening to him and it likes it makes him feel more challenge to not to marry you.It is like,I don't care.Yes,he also said to me,everything will be fine which I know is not fine.Well,that's what I did before I left him.I gave him a time frame.Believe me it's like ,maybe 5 times until I decided to leave him.What I did in order to forget him is think what he have done which is not good for you,then, you will be brave.You will say to yourself,I am stupid...I should have not love him.But, we are human, it's not a fault.It's just like a lesson.It could be a nice part of your life history when you grow old, you can advice it to someone too who is in the same situation.I think it's because God wants us to be strong that's why he gave us some trials.he wants to measure your loyalty to HIM.Just keep praying,that's what I do every now and then.Ask him to take the cross in your shoulder.Just believe in HIM.And if this guy is really meant for you,he will marry you.And if not,look for someone else who is deserve to have you.I am also young .I am only 22 yrs old.And,being a young, there's nothing to be discourage about.Justdon't give up.Someday, you will also find the happiness like me.:-)

Because I want a respect?Why, is it okay for you if somebody doesn't respect you?

And yes,I mary my husband for just a period of 2 weeks because he respects me and he loves me for me that's all that matters.We as a woman,we are just easily fall in love when someone shows care for us ,admit or not,but that's the truth.

i am not whining.I just express myself.Maybe someone has the same situation as mine.Who knows?If you are not one of it,then you are lucky and be thankful with it.

Sorry if it bothers you.But i wish someday you could relate yourself to me to see how it feels.

Yes,it is...But you cannot control your heart..How can you not love someone who respects you and treated you that way you should be treated.Yes,I admit on our first day,I was still thinking of the other guy but I said to my self it is stupid to love someone who doesn't love you and who doesn't care about you.And then,time after time ,my heart is completely change.I wish you read when I said,that I go back with my ex-fiance 3 times,even after my visa expired.I don't get anything from him besides being a sexslave but I take it all because I thought he is for me and I have to deal with it.I think God helps me to enlightened my mind in order to realize the truth and He gave me someone who is nice and who is really for me.I believe in destiny.If you believe,you will understand what I say.

I also want you to know that I am not a gold digger.I don't blame you if you think I was,but I hope you will realize that you are mistake.Not everyone is the same.I have God in my heart.I don't do things that I know is wrong.I may not perfect but God knows what I am doing is just right.I hope you will understand me.Plus,if I want money,why should I go here,my boss offer me his company if I marry him.He have more profits than him.My boss is single and he has no kid while my fiance has.Please don't judge me because it hurts .All I want is a respect and love..Thank you.

Yes,I did not because I was being fooled by myself.

I am aware..what laws do you think what i want?

Thank you for your symphaty...Thank you for understanding me..Yes,I wish I did it.I don't know.I was being blinded.Honestly,on that time when I went back with him,I was already ready to stay with him illegally.I know it's stupid but I don't know what I was thinking on that time.That's why I stayed with him even after my visa expired which was on Feb. 15,2008..But,it was changed after I saw his sex video with his co-worker and when he said that he wants to hide me at his mom's house.You know,that's the reason I changed my mind.But,i don't understand why some people cannot understand me.Maybe because they don't experience it and they were lucky that's why they can't relate their self to me.But,I don't blame them,I understand them.But wat hurts me when they call me a gold digger...It is not true....I never ask him any amounts and that's why it hurts me when he handed me that pre-nuptial agreement.If it's okay for you,it is okay for me if it doesn't say there that if i die ,he has no obligation on me.What if I get killed,how can my family see my dead body.What if I get sick,how can I get heal,I have no money even a peny.He never give me any aounts since we were together.I was working when we met each other and I only quit when I got my visa.And now, they said I am a gold digger..I think the reason why he wants me to sign it so that he could have me as his sex slave and he could be with other woman without any hassle.And I think that's an abuse,right?So,that's why I wish there's a law for this kind of people.I believe I am not the only one who is in this kind of situation.I feel like some americans,look down us because they think we a just a rag that they can step whenever they want because they are on their country and they believe they have all the rights because we are just a filipina.I know not erybody experience this,that's why I said they must be thankful because they are lucky.Like now,I feel lucky to have my husband who dearly loves me and who treated me as his wife.I got all the respects from him.And he knows that I am not a gold digger.I have his money,I know how much is his income.He call me even if he is at work during his lunch time unlike from the other guy that who never call me even if i was sick.But I never ask that.I am just happy that he trust me,he loves me and he respect me as a woman and his wife.

Anyway, whatever the descession is,I am welling to deal with it.I know that ,I must abide the law.I respect the law and I believe that they have their own purposes.But,I just wish someday,they will make a law on both sides.Not only to the petetioner.I wish they will look on both sides.Reputation is a must for me.I grew with a nice reputation,with a respect from people around me so I just wish I could get it till the rest of my life.But life is full of trials wether we like it or not.I am just here to tell you guys,that , it is hard when someone doesn't respect you.I think everybody needs a respect.Correct me if I am wrong...

Hi,thanks for the reply.I am glad that you understand my situation.I don't know why some other people could not understand.I am not a gold diggger.......................All,I want is a respect..That's all!...........I never him any amount besides the payments of my papers,but he is the one who do it voluntarily.............So, why would they judge me that I am a god digger.It's just because some people do it and they generalize it..........It is so sad...........It hurts!............Not all people are they same,right.............Is it bad to ask for a respect?

Thank you so much,beloved me,whoever you are..May God bless you!........You have such a good heart....Thank you,thank you,thank you for the reply.