belovedbyme

I have no idea if my check has been cashed my hubby was the one whos ent it in and used a bank check. Ia sked him how can I track it if it is cash he said.."you wont know".Fine..Ridiculous.

Lather? I think not!

that's funny

As far as I know K-3 has a multiple visa and she doesnt need to apply for Advance Parole . I think she can go outside the country. Hear others who will reply in this forum. Good luck!

Our lawyer sent ours in today! Hoping this goes smoothly. Glad I found this site - lots of great information!

Welcome aboard!!!!

UPDATE:

Jan 7, 2010 at 12:39 PM my AOS packet been delivered.

Jan.6 at 7:00 p.m my AOS was sent to Chicago so hopefully at 10:30a.m this morning it will arrive there..

I'm a JANUARY filer.. ..The waiting begins..

UPDATE:

I schedule an STD/HIV test tomorrow for myself. I will show it to him as soon as we have conversation. I dont want to have any sexual contact from him as soon as he wont be tested ..

According to recent study of this year. Those who are greatly affected of HIV/STD are married couples because of unprotected sex . I will protect myself to this. Im nto afraid to die. But dying because of STD's or HIV is very hard to accept for me.

Thank you VJ members for all the support!

Yes they(receptionist) understand it I had contacted him before that night happened. I can speak a little nihonggo too he doesnt know how to read or write or speak japanese language.

Just arrived from work this morning and he was online yelling at me in skype , demeaning on me , swearing at me. He was never like that. I cant take it all. For the first time ,I yelled swear back at him for treating me and told him what he was doing is emotional abuse and i am putting it into writing in my diary. Cheaters are great LIARS and Manipulators. I feel he is trying to manipulate me. I fought back to warn him Im not a stupid wife.

He is never a party-goer man nor loves to go out at night at a bar. He changed his behavior since July since he started going out wtih friends who loves beers and bars well of course if there is drinks there is women.

I STAND being a FILIPINA. I dont want SOMEONE DEGRADING ME as a wife. My hubby is calm now. We have more things to talk in person but will let him open up that conversation first not me.

He now APOLOGIZED to me ONLINE few times a minute ago of his actions and spoken words towards me.

I will UPDATE you ALL. Thank you for all ADVICES.

Thank you for the reply.

His phone works in taiwan. He had been calling me before. But this time not at all.

He now confirmed he LIED to me . He arrived in TAIWAN friday night but dont want to contact me bcoz he was pissed off????

We had good conversation fri.morning on yahoo. I saw _{SOME SIGNS a AMN CHEATS..}.Here it is:

1. Spends less time with you. A cheating man must use the excuse of working long hours, extra meetings and dinners or other unexplained functions so he will have time with his “other” woman.

2. Isn’t as affectionate any more. Your sex life is almost non-existent because of his other commitments. He doesn’t want to cuddle, watch a movie, hold hands or do many of the touchy things he used to.

3. He changes his physical appearance. A cheating man usually starts buying new clothes, gets a new hair style or begins working out because he wants to be attractive to the other woman in his life besides you.

4.Cheating man becomes more short-tempered because of the guilty feelings as a result of the infidelity. Things that usually did not bother them suddenly start bothering them.

5. Behavioral changes. A cheating man frequently becomes defensive when questioned about his whereabouts. He may turn it around to accuse you of being insecure, possessive or snoopy

6.Changes in spending habits. You can tell if your man is cheating if he is suddenly always broke. He’s broke because he is spending all of his money on the other woman. Watch as to whether he is paying with cash and making more frequent ATM withdrawals to cover his paper trail.

THESE are the THINGS I experience this month since Aug.14th...IM SO SHOCKED..

I am trying to contact my husband but I have no luck. His flight was NW 79 from NRT Japan. I can't get a hold of anyone at the customs office in Chiang Kai Shek INt'l Airport. Is there anyone of you here know how to contact the custom office at terminal 2? I called in their numbers in the website I cant get through always said please check the number.. I never called Taiwan before.I freak out now as I dont hear anything from him since last night. I want to know if he made it or not. He always contact me when he arrives.

Please send me a message if you can give some info. Thank you.

OK. Let's take a step back. I travel internationally alot. No, A LOT. I joined the million mile club 10 years ago and thank god they stopped me but I was well on to the 2 million mark. Can I make a suggestion, IMHO? Travel east is brutal on business schedules. There are huge "black holes" of both flight connections and information available. However, this may not be a happy post.

I carry an internationally enabled Blackberry including satellite (at about a painful $40/minute). I have Hong Kong, Taiwan, Jap, China and filipino calling cards with balances left, in my wallet. Still a struggle, but I ALWAYS CALL MY WIFE. I call my wife when I take off, land, taxi, go out, stay in, eat, ######, fart, piss, and many times in between. However, even though as technologically adept as I am (and demand from my company)...there are times when I cannot call...period. Asian areas are tough and communication outside is...horrible, because they control EVERYTHING. Unfortunately the time frame you mention is beyond my experience, and I have been in and through typhoons, monsoons, terrorist bombings, etc.

Do not rely on the garbage you are quoted by the airlines/hotels/etc. They want you to believe everything is wonderful..they have to or they will literally be hanged by their government oversight. However...confront your husband...gaps like this are more likely "voluntary" than not and he is out of touch for a reason...that will probably make you unhappy.

Good luck!

Yes I told him we need to talk in person. He sent me an email of the hotel he is staying and with phone #. He was able to find a way to use skype on his company lappy .His co-worker helped him how to do it install then uninstall after using the chat program.

We saw each other online thru skype today after my work. I can see he is not the same person at all. I never ever got any email from him saying he missed me since he left. When we talked on skype he had a phone on his pocket .He told me he needs to go to the bathroom. I heard him loud and clear, he was talking on the phone. He didnt know I think I can hear him. But the question is? Why do u need to pretend to go to the bathroom to talk on the phone? He never did that.

After that incident when he is back, few min. later he told me to go to sleep and rest. He will watch tv(time was 8a.m for me then go to bed. He didnt even change his clothes yet. When he said he wl go to bed soon he usually change clothes. I know in my heart he lies again.

AUg.28th friday my husband and I chatted in yahoo that early morning. I did ask him if he will fly to Taiwan that night bcoz of NWA or stay in Japan. If ever he will be in Taiwan I remind him to at least send me any info of his hotel for emergency use.

He insisted he wl be in Hyatt for 1 day extension and go to Tokyo sat. before going Taiwan on sun. He wont used NWA but insted compnay wl use Japan AIRLINES and he is going to reschedule his flight he has 30 days to do that. But to his record , he didnt reschedule it but it is confirmed.Im very skeptical about it but I dont say anything .It isn't normal to me.

He did contacted me Fri.evening his flight was 6:55p.m he texted 5:30p.m Japan time thats my 4:30a.m my time .Im at work and on the record he said..

"Hi my dear. Im at hyatt now. What a long day". Upon receiving his text I replied .."good". But my gut say something else..He is going to go to TAIWAN bcoz he never change his flight . His arrival time is 9:33p.m he texted me again late night telling me he is back from hyatt and he has a long day. So, when he said he is in hyatt I called at the hotel 5 x all said he check out. I texted him "why u lie to me. Be honest .Where are u really. The hotel front desk connfirmed u werent there". He replied," I am in hyatt why u keep saying I am not here where I am really here." Something is fishy about it.

The reason to my gut he wont tell me. HE IS WITH SOMEONE ELSE that NIGHT. He wont give any details on his whereabouts and he blamed me on eveyrhting.

i really felt sorry for this to happened. im no expert but perhaps its best to settle this in person... give him time (regardless if he's cheating or not) coz the more u confront this issue thru chat or text the more he'll use this against u... maghahanap kasi ng excuse no matter how lame the excuse is. that threat he gave u is just a defense mechanism. ipapalabas ikaw ang mali... i hope God will give u strength and guidance...

God bless!!!

It cuts like a knife. I am able to vent here and knowing I am in USA far from family. It's always been VJ family who comfort me when Im so down.

Thank you to all of you!! I do appreciate all of your concern.

AUg.28th friday my husband and I chatted in yahoo that early morning. I did ask him if he will fly to Taiwan that night bcoz of NWA or stay in Japan. If ever he will be in Taiwan I remind him to at least send me any info of his hotel for emergency use.

He insisted he wl be in Hyatt for 1 day extension and go to Tokyo sat. before going Taiwan on sun. He wont used NWA but insted compnay wl use Japan AIRLINES and he is going to reschedule his flight he has 30 days to do that. But to his record , he didnt reschedule it but it is confirmed.Im very skeptical about it but I dont say anything .It isn't normal to me.

He did contacted me Fri.evening his flight was 6:55p.m he texted 5:30p.m Japan time thats my 4:30a.m my time .Im at work and on the record he said..

"Hi my dear. Im at hyatt now. What a long day". Upon receiving his text I replied .."good". But my gut say something else..He is going to go to TAIWAN bcoz he never change his flight . His arrival time is 9:33p.m he texted me again late night telling me he is back from hyatt and he has a long day. So, when he said he is in hyatt I called at the hotel 5 x all said he check out. I texted him "why u lie to me. Be honest .Where are u really. The hotel front desk connfirmed u werent there". He replied," I am in hyatt why u keep saying I am not here where I am really here." Something is fishy about it.

The reason to my gut he wont tell me. HE IS WITH SOMEONE ELSE that NIGHT. He wont give any details on his whereabouts and he blamed me on eveyrhting.

I called my hubby in Japan hotel 2 x only. That is not so much I guess he been there for 2 weeks. Im so FRUSTRATED he is making a way of blaming me of things I dont really actually do so he can just tell himself he is pissed off and he wont communicate wth me at all..

hi belovedbyme,

just try not to contact your hubby so much...lets see if he will check his wife if you wont contact him...for me theres a lot of ways you can reach each other if one really wants to be contacted...but if not theres a lot of alibis that you can say too.

for me...there is really nothing we can do to help you but only to comfort you at this time.. because whatever is happening or changing in your relationship only the two of you really know about it...and its only you who can make any decisions and actions about it.

God bless you always.

UPDATE:

CONFIRMED he LANDED in TAIWAN fri. Aug.28th. My brother told me about it. My GUT tells me he wasnt in Japan he is in TAIWAN as NWA status said "USED".

Why a husband would lie to his wife? I am not a stalker I dont do that and when I called him on the phone at a hotel in Japan(it was my 1st time calling since he travelled), its normal for a wife to call especially Im used of hearing and seeing him on skype morning and before going to bed.. I have no idea why he did this. It reminds me of my ex of what he do to me right now. He was cheating on me.

I feel he CHEATS so he wont tell me his whereabouts Fri.- Sun...He emailed me today THREATENED me if i dont trust him or it will become the wedge between us I have to choose.

Why my god!!! I didnt do anything. I dont always ask him where are u all the time. Fri.night I asked him to tell me the truth where he really is bcoz I can tell from his time it is not Japan.It is taiwan. I read his email Aug.27th that he wont used NWA he will chnage the sched his company will used JAPAN AIRLINES. I dont believed him but I kept my mouth shut.

WHen he wants to have fun I never said" NO". I always tell him to have fun. It wasnt a problem at all.

This is TOO much to BEAR. Please..Keep me in your prayers..This is BETRAYAL.

TAKE NOTE:

He never wear his wedding ring at ALL since Aug.trip. His alibi was its too lose?

He BETRAYED my TRUST. I trusted him but all I got are LIES.

hi belovedbyme,

just try not to contact your hubby so much...lets see if he will check his wife if you wont contact him...for me theres a lot of ways you can reach each other if one really wants to be contacted...but if not theres a lot of alibis that you can say too.

for me...there is really nothing we can do to help you but only to comfort you at this time.. because whatever is happening or changing in your relationship only the two of you really know about it...and its only you who can make any decisions and actions about it.

God bless you always.

Thank you..We had that communication before we see each other online. I am not stalking him. I never did that. I was too worried bcoz of it so I called on the hotel but wasnt there .Im not used of not seeing him or hearing his voice.

YOu know what???? IT IS CONFIRMED he had LANDED in TAIWAN Aug.28th. My brother used his connection to people and I knew my GUT is RIGHT. This is cheating thing...

From a wife's point of view with a husband who also travels a lot, you need to sit down and voice out your concerns. If I were in your shoes I would be suspicious too.

My husbands works from home 20 days a month ( except Saturdays and Sundays of course ) and travels the rest of the days. He is a commissioning engineer and travels as far as Minnesotta to "solve" problems in power plants. When he is on travel we probably talk in the phone 10 to 15 times a day. He calls when he boards, when he lands, when he has checked in the hotel and before going to bed. We also chat before sleeping. The next day, he calls early morning, calls when he leaves the hotel to go to the power plant, calls when he gets there, calls when he leaves and calls again when he is back in the hotel and the same routine everyday while he is away. I have no reason to be suspicious.

I am not saying that your husband do the same as what myhusband does but it is very important to communicate and he should at least do that to keep you from worrying.

I hope everything will be better.

Thank you ManilaIdaho.

I want to hear his voice I missed him..We used to see each other online on skype but company no longer allowed it since July so we talked on the phone and jsut emails. I dont tell him I called in that hotel he told me. I wont say anything at all.

I will go to work now. I am now relieved he is not in JAPAN. My mind keep thinking if he is in Japan or Taiwan. More talk and discussions as soon as he is here wth me but I dont know when he will be home...He never mentioned anything to me at all.

Hi,I'm sorry about what's happening to you,I do understand your situation,but you said your husband is in a business trip,maybe he needs time when he said that "he's sick of it".Save your time and energy when he gets home,you're just making everything difficult by keep on locating his whereabouts,you said you just want to know if he's ok,now that you've got a text from him and found out that he's ok,just relax.dont nag him on the phone, emails nor thru text.it's hard to have an argument when you're not face to face with a person.for now,you cant do anything but wait till he comes home and have a heart to heart talk.

good luck and hope everything will be ok with the 2 of you.

Thank you. He goes to the bar nothing to do at all they hang out with some group and he is in a higher position too. I wish he would buy a laptop for us to talk not using the company laptop since chatting program is now blocked.

His msg in skype is warning me. I just want to know the TRUTH of WHERE in the WORLD he is. I dont want to think he is cheating bcoz he is not a playboy. Who knows? From this experience, I am feeling it.

I am trying to contact my husband but I have no luck. His flight was NW 79 from NRT Japan. I can't get a hold of anyone at the customs office in Chiang Kai Shek INt'l Airport. Is there anyone of you here know how to contact the custom office at terminal 2? I called in their numbers in the website I cant get through always said please check the number.. I never called Taiwan before.I freak out now as I dont hear anything from him since last night. I want to know if he made it or not. He always contact me when he arrives.

Please send me a message if you can give some info. Thank you.

i pray that things will be okay between you and your husband...if he is starting to change then i think you should really have a good talk...try to talk about it when you are both in a good mood so you can clear things more.

its hard to be alone and apart from your hubby...even me when my hubby is not yet home by 9pm coz he is still working i really call him and ask him what time he can go home...and there was a time i was not in the mood i didnt call him past 9pm already he told me why you didnt even care to call me...hehehehehe.

ask also your husband why he go to bar...what kind of bar he always go to?

God bless you.

UPDATE:

My husband texted me thru skype .He is using a hotel pc this morning (US time) that he is still in Swissohotel Japan staying. He msg he doesn't want to talk to me bcoz he is pissed off why I told him he wasn't at the hyatt hotel in hyatt when i called and he claimed he was there. He said he is so sick of it!

Tonight, I called in Swissohotel to talk to him before going to taiwan accdg.to him he wl leave in the morning. THERE IS NO SUCH name on that hotel when I called. I again freaked out.

All I got are LIES. I am now sure he is not in JAPAN. He is really in TAIWAN .

I am SICk guys. I dont understand why he treating me this way. Everything was so right before he left.

We were doing okay we chatted that morning without my knowledge he is going to check-out. I dont do anything to him. The 1st time I asked about hotel no. what hotel he is staying when he never contacted me Aug.14th whole day and night and called me Aug.15th on his way going to Japan...I emailed the hotel begged them to send me a confirmation that he did check out as my proof of my claimed. He love to say IM SICK of your INSINUATIONS. I dont think cheated but he said to me " why in your email its about cheating". I never mentioned any word. I just told him in order for marriage to last communication, openess and faithfulness makes the relationship grows.If u cant be faithful to your partner, dont get married so no one wl check on you if u r okay or not as no one cares.

I know it is hard for you to sleep having that situation right now. Im sure a lot of things are in your mind. Please try to get some sleep so your head will be clearer and you can think better. Is there something you have done why he is acting that way? His actions are strange especially because he did not tell you the truth about that hotel check out. Were you okay before he left? Was he like that always? Do you see a big change in him(not only on that travel thing, but in other aspects)? If your husband is doing something wrong, ex: cheating, you can feel that. As they say, "woman's intuition." Can he check his emails there? If so, then maybe you can write him about how you feel. Do it in a calm way, so that he wont feel suffocated. I know it is hard to really "talk" to the person trough email than personal, but that is the best way now since he doesnt call you and you cannot contact him. He did not tell you where he would stay in Taiwan? Of course as a wife, we will reAlly worry about our husbands. Pray to God and talk to Him, He will give you signs.

I begged to NWA to confirm to me if that passenger name boarded on that plane last night. But she wont tell me bcoz it is not allowed. Adviced me to call taiwan customs.

I am sorry to say this but if you have this gut feeling that he is cheating, then he probably is. We women can feel when something is amiss or different with our boyfriend.

He has some changes when he was back on his July trip. He wanted me to dye my hair to look fashionable. He doesn't like color and stuff now he adviced me last time. Im puzzled as he said thats what he saw in Japan.He was dry when I met him at the airport that time but we did have fun for those 12 days he was with me. We dont have issue at Japan. The issue is TAIWAN. Then he told me he wont be going to taiwan this time Aug. trip it wl be Japan. So i said, okay. But I got an email from him saying he wl call as soon as he is in TAIWAN? He can save money once he booked it himself then deduct it on company agent so he can save money. I saw the itinerary..The thing is: He dont dropped off to taiwan on his way to JAPAN. He will dropped off to Taiwan once he is on his way home 1 night stay then leave next day. Thats the time I dont hear anything from him at all. I was crying again. This time , it gets worst.

When he called me there as he arrived at airport for 5min. call last aug.13th night time. He informed me that his company wants him to go in taiwan sept.2-3 to check the plant. He got a call from the head of the group. So i said okay. But when he is in Japan 2 days after arrival he told me he will be in Taiwan sept.1-6. The company change the sched bcoz of problems in japan earthquake their plant was affected.

As soon as I will just simply ask where are you really? Be honest.. He will just say..Im tired. Good night.

He called me in Japan hotel only ONCE 10min.since he been there for 2 weeks. I called for the 1st time Im able to talk to him but he seems cold when we talk. The next night I called at the hotel phone rang but he wasn't at hotel around 9:20p.m. But I informed him I called at that internet at hotel is always connected. The last time was last night. He wasnt there at all but claimed he was at the hotel. INSINUATION word came out of his mouth.

But we do email each other but sometimes when I emailed evening like 6a.m for me he wl reply that email at 6a.m or 8a.m Japan time. He told me he cant connect to internet the system of the laptop block it is owned by a company so everything is being monitored. At least he emailed me . Oh my god! I dont know what to do. To think he is much older than me its funny. I can play wirhour his knowledge but I remain faithful to him always....

without i mean

Im trying to be awake. He is much older than me for 15yrs. I dont have kids...Do u think you can sleep well as a wife knowing you dont even know where is your husband?I wish I could have talk to customs terminal 2 about passenger name but I called 3 x no one answered the phone. I need to know the truth.

I called 3 hotels in Taipei where he used to go before but his name is not there.

Im tired now. I will go to bed. I will reply all messages as soon as I am awake. Good night!

I feel something 2 weeks ago when I have a raising heart he went to taipei arrived Aug.13th 10p.m and told me he will call me. But never did nor email nor call a telephone at a hotel. Thats why I called using his mobile he didnt answer me. He now always told me he is sick of my insinuations. What did I do? I am reaching out to him. I never even say anything about cheating. But he was the one who mentioned that word not me. He called me when he was at taiwan airport and pretending he just got my call and he has now "SIGNAL". When he arrived at taipei he said "my phone works in taiwan". As soon as he is heading to Japan trip he left a message telling me " Im able to call now I have service". What the heck??? He always call me before never mention about signal.

Everytime hubby arrived he called me evening then morning too. Its was our 1st time July trip we dont chat bcoz company wont allow him. He is planning to buy a laptop. But as soon as he came here he didnt. He told me money is tight but he had spent on his personal acct. going to the bar alone a night 100usd or 200 usd. He is not the type of man who always go at a bar. I dont get it. I saw the July bill statement I am so shocked. I trust him but why u have to lie where you going. He has freedom all I need is make sure he is really okay. Simple.

Yes I am in USA and have a job now.

He will go to taiwan for a business trip. But he is scheduled to be there Sept.1-6.

I am trying to contact my husband but I have no luck. His flight was NW 79 from NRT Japan. I can't get a hold of anyone at the customs office in Chiang Kai Shek INt'l Airport. Is there anyone of you here know how to contact the custom office at terminal 2? I called in their numbers in the website I cant get through always said please check the number.. I never called Taiwan before.I freak out now as I dont hear anything from him since last night. I want to know if he made it or not. He always contact me when he arrives.

Please send me a message if you can give some info. Thank you.

Go to Northwest website and then go to their flight status, I also check that flight... your husband is already arrived at Chiang Kai Shek Int'l. Your husband will come here in the Philippines? You can call the northwest airlines.

Your husband is a businessman? Does he always go for a trip in Asia? I'm just curious about it. Because my husband when he go in different state in America he gave me his contact# in the hotel because he go for a camp... he is a military instructor. Try to email him and tell him your feelings about what he is doing, that you worried a lot to him. That is what I do when my husband let me get worried a lot.

Yes into business once a month have trips Taiwan and Japan. But my hubby is different. He never give me contact # or anything to me since his July trip. I dont know why. We had been arguing a lot because of it. I am wife I need to know where he is. He wont communicate with me at all. I requested the itinerary last week because when he dropped off to Taipei before going to Japan. He never called me whole day and night. I called him morning and night time. He wont asnwer my call but it kept ringing. His reason was he has no service?

We never have issue about it before..He will think nothing happens and that he didnt do anything and he was at the hotel that time when I called but he was sleeping at 9p.m due to jetlag 2 weeks ago. He never go to sleep at 9p.m..It is 10 0r 11p.m as soon as he arrives froma trip so he wont experience much jetlag. But then the bill statement from his company he works with sent in our adddress of the bill he paid in credit card BAR payment . I confronted him about his lies and claimed he was at a hotel but the bill statement showed he was out.

I would like to talk to someone.I am so lost. I am alone in the house. I feel like the world slapped me.

He will go to taiwan for a business trip. But he is scheduled to be there Sept.1-6.

I am trying to contact my husband but I have no luck. His flight was NW 79 from NRT Japan. I can't get a hold of anyone at the customs office in Chiang Kai Shek INt'l Airport. Is there anyone of you here know how to contact the custom office at terminal 2? I called in their numbers in the website I cant get through always said please check the number.. I never called Taiwan before.I freak out now as I dont hear anything from him since last night. I want to know if he made it or not. He always contact me when he arrives.

Please send me a message if you can give some info. Thank you.

Go to Northwest website and then go to their flight status, I also check that flight... your husband is already arrived at Chiang Kai Shek Int'l. Your husband will come here in the Philippines? You can call the northwest airlines.

Your husband is a businessman? Does he always go for a trip in Asia? I'm just curious about it. Because my husband when he go in different state in America he gave me his contact# in the hotel because he go for a camp... he is a military instructor. Try to email him and tell him your feelings about what he is doing, that you worried a lot to him. That is what I do when my husband let me get worried a lot.