stephanieh_67

Thank you for everyone that have been very supportive during these difficult times for myself and my 9 yr old daughter.
Abdeslam Chahir filed for divorce last week. Since he had left in the beginning of January, he has not maintained any type of contact. This surprises and angers me because of the way he just abandoned my daughter. When they met, she was only 4 years old and he promised to be her daddy for the rest of her life. I do believe that he loved her. I'm not saying that he is financially responsible for her, but that is besides the point. When I met him, we both agreed that one day he would officially adopt her. Of course, things started to really change when the lifting on conditions came around and when he got his green card. He became very distant, not wanting to do any type of family functions, eventually stop spending time with my daughter. He insisted that he sleep in his own room, so my daughter gave up her room and slept with me. He started opening up various bank accounts in his name only. At first he did let me have access to his bank account to pay bills and so forth. But everything totally changed after getting the damn green card. I was no longer able to check any of his bank balances, he stopped giving me any type of money, even is I need to go to the grocery store. He would make comments like that was his money and that I what was wrong with me using my own. Last time we even had a "date" night was like december 2005...we were married dec 2004. I honestly thought that he was depressed, and I begged him to see a doctor or someone to talk to. He said that it would never help our marriage. Keep in mind that he will be graduating this summer with a design engineering degree. I just feel that I was scammed by the way thing progressed or didn't progress in the marriage.
I'm not here on VJ to say all Moroccan men are scammers. I just wanted to share my story. And yes, this is extremely painful for me and my daughter. Now, he is trying to get me to pay for his attorneys fees! I do not think that it is right for what he has done. Sara535 knows my story better than anyone here. My next step is the divorce.....
Thank you for listening to me gab. Sorry if I offened anyone. I do love Morocco and Moroccan food just as much as I did before
Stephanie