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My fiance interviewed in Ankara three times, First interview they asked him three questions, lasted three minutes. Second time he just turned in his passport, waited a week and no visa, third time like two questions.

He did say they were very rude, he saw one man tear up a lady's paperwork because it was wrong, he waited like all day. So be prepared.

Overall good luck and the process will end soon. We just celebrated our one year anniversary

Congrats on your anniversary. Ours will be a week and a half after the interview.

I read the consulate reviews by people and there were a lot of complaints of rudeness for the Ankara embassy.

Thank You for being understanding to my hurt not only did he engage or married this other moroccan woman in morocco he supposably used her and now he is involved with another woman from Boston who is also muslim we are still married

Perhaps you should also notify the other women in case they are unaware of each other. Hopefully, the guy will get deported.

Didn't realize there were this many other Iranian filers. I'm really nervous about our interview coming up in December. I keep hearing the staff at the Ankara embassy are really strict and rude. Heck, some of the staff at the Istanbul consulate were kind of rude when I was getting paperwork there before we got married. By the way, I'm doing DCF and you can see in my time-line below that I mailed the packet off in early October and our interview is scheduled for mid-December. I have no idea how long it will take after the interview before he gets his visa. Hopefully, not too long.

Er.. How many submissive Eastern European women do you actually know? Any one who is using THAT as a criteria and looking in Eastern Europe has made a serious error, but we see that assumption posted all the time around here. Statements like that usually come from people who don't actually know many people from the region. Just saying...

Well, most of the East European women here in Turkey are 'working girls' but that's a whole other can of worms. The point is, that some American men have those preconceived notions that turn out to be inaccurate. Hence certain nationalities being over represented trying to adjust status alone after abuse, cheating or because they entered the relationship fraudulently. Hell, I've run into American guys that said they were fed up with domineering, feminist American women and of all places they went to Scandinavia to find a woman. If you know anything about the Nordic countries you'll know they are the last place you should go if you are afraid of independent, educated, strong, feminist women. Some people just set impossible standards for what they want in a mate and convince themselves that they'll find it abroad, only it turns out they can't find it anywhere. After 3 strikes in PI, I'd say Steve isn't going to find what he wants there either so perhaps he should try Botswana next.

...maybe its the way u percieve them as being no good is why u cant find a good one.

u have it in ur head all these bad things and that clouds ur thinking so u will never find the perfect one here even if she is standing infront of u cuz of your way of thinking.

My thoughts exactly. I think it is his attitude that prevents him from finding a woman. His arrogance, piss-poor personality, his ignorance and his unwillingness to look at the reality of the situation is what is holding him back. There is nothing wrong with looking for love overseas. It definitely makes things more exciting but also more complicated. But whoever he ends up marrying, I'm sure we will end up reading posts from her asking how to adjust status on her own unless he works on himself and changes his outlook. Let him go to Eastern Europe or Asia to find a submissive, hot young babe. However, he should be given the heads up that Asian and East European babes are by far over-represented in the VAWA, Effects of major family changes and Imbra forums.

Remind him that the employees there he is trying to impress are American's, not Iranians.

This reminds me of the first time I flew out to meet my husband. He wore a suit to the airport. He was so nervous when he met me it was way funny. We get a good laugh about it now.

Yeah, me personally, I would wear jeans and a polo shirt. Over the summer when I went to the consulate to get some papers, I wore cargo shorts and a t-shirt and he thought I was crazy to go in dressed like that. My dad said he is mailing my husband a navy blue polo shirt with a little American flag on it so I'm thinking I might have him wear that with the khaki pants in case I get a chance to mention to the CO that it was a gift from my dad.

Personally I think a suit is overkill. My hubby is asleep right now or I would ask him what the others wore, but I am sure he wore jeans and a nice shirt.

Thanks. That's what I think as well but my husband says that Iranians view it as a big deal and usually wear suits. He actually thinks they won't let him in if he isn't dressed snazzy enough.

I'm just curious if people dress up for the embassy interview? I'm planning on wearing a skirt, blouse and leggings. I've picked out a button up shirt, navy blue sweater and khaki pants for my husband but he seems to think he should wear a suit and tie like he's going to a job interview.

Oh, for the love of Bob would someone please answer this woman!? She's starting to talk to herself. Help her FFS.

I agree with this. You read my mind lol. But I won't lie, I married my husband because I liked his sideburns

*snort*

Men over 35 are generally not as insulted by comments like this as women seem to be. Especially women over 35. Not sure why that's the case.

It is probably because a man is judged more for how successful he is rather than his looks or age. Whereas, it really hasn't been that long since women entered the workforce in such numbers so women are still judged on looks no matter how successful they may be.

True but looks are everything in getting a relationship started. Don't kid yourself; I two are not attracted to each other (and I mean physically) then any other attraction may not be sufficient enough to make the relationship work.

Oh, I'm not kidding myself in the least. I realize that looks are important. Looking at your picture I must say you are too old, overweight, pasty and unattractive to appeal to me in the slightest. No offense, you just aren't my type. Perhaps you have a great personality but I would never get to know that for judging you based solely upon looks. Obviously, I admit to being superficial too but I still think it is sad we live in such a thoroughly superficial world. But at the end of the day, I think men and women's preferences go back to biology. The male wants the woman he perceives to be the most fertile which in the past as in the present usually translates to an attractive, young woman. The woman wants the man that would provide the greatest amount of security and protection for her and her offspring. In the past that meant the biggest and most successful hunter/warrior, today it means the guy with a big paycheck even if he is a goofy little computer geek. Hence you see some beautiful supermodels with some silly looking but rich twerps. But now women working has changed things so women with high salaries can choose to remain single and still have kids (or not) or pick a man based upon looks or that is equally successful and sometimes even less so.

Honestly, if I'd met my husband in a bar I probably would have walked right past him and not given him a first let alone a second look because I prefer men that are really tall. I just wanted to point out that judging based upon looks is no different than judging based upon income and ultimately goes back to biology and the most beautiful women usually have the highest expectations with regards to income. So obviously an ugly man with a moderate to low income will have to go to a 3rd world country where his income will look far more attractive to the local beauties. Steve just doesn't seem to get that the beautiful women he is courting still have their standards but those standards are based upon 3rd world economics where he will stand a better chance rather than 1st world economics where he doesn't. Like Donna said, women have every right to have financial standards. Having a family is expensive and if a woman wants children then the smartest thing for her to do is find a man that makes enough for them to afford as many children as they want. It might be crass but it is also being a damn good mother by choosing a responsible and reliable mate to help provide for their offspring. Personally, I don't want children so I don't care if my husband never makes over $40k and I've long gotten over the fact that he isn't tall since he is so sweet, considerate and smart. To be honest, he is a far nicer and less superficial person than I am so I probably don't deserve him but I'm not going to let him go.

Shall I report myself now, after daring to critise the regime?

Not for that, but you should report yourself for having David Hasselhoff in your siggie.

So our DCF interview at the Ankara embassy has been scheduled for Dec. 15th. I'm wondering how likely we are to get the visa the same day? The contract for our apartment is up on Dec. 19th and we have to give our landlord a months notice before we move out. How many have gotten their visa the same day or week as the interview?

*snort*

I think judging someone based on looks is equally as bad as judging someone based upon income. But everyone is superficial to some extent. I know that my blue eyes, button nose and long, blond hair is part of what attracts my husband to me but that isn't all he cares about. And the fact that my husband isn't a fat, balding, superficial, materialistic, ignorant, loud-mouthed, misogynistic, American male is part but not all of what attracts me to him. The superficial things might be what initially holds your attraction but they won't hold your interest completely or be what maintains your relationship in the long run. Now to all those out there with deep-seated feelings of inadequacy due to low income and insufficient packages, it is time to break out the blow up dolls because you'll never attract a real woman of any nationality with that massive chip on your shoulder.

The nastiest thing I have ever eaten was raw conch. Blech.

people sure come up with some silly ideas about what they have a right to.

No doubt.

Broadband internet must first be "produced" before it may be "consumed"--the same as any other good/service in existence.

Having an inherent "right" to the labor of another is pure slavery.

Matt, you have never enlightened us on what your background, as in education, is in.

He has.

I've only got a GED!

That's correct.

It's really a shame that someone needs a framed piece of paper to be taken seriously.

No one needs a piece of paper to be taken seriously. However, they do need to have an adequate education and the intelligence to discuss things in a well informed manner.

Oh, wow. I just got an email from the embassy saying our interview will be on Dec. 15th. Woot! I hope he doesn't have to wait too long after the interview to get the visa.

Ankara is little bit slow in processing applications, mine took about 3 weeks, it wasn't DEF, but what I'm hearing and reading from others, is 2-3 weeks.

3 Weeks! That isn't slow. That is actually pretty fast for Iranian applicants from what I hear. I was told it would take months. I sure hope mine goes that fast.

Congrats to all the people that have been approved!

Does he have any relatives left in Iran that could obtain a copy for him? Perhaps the Iranian embassy in Belgium could help...

My husband is Iranian but we are living in Turkey and waiting to hear back from the embassy in Ankara. I sent my paperwork off early this month. They received the packet and told me they will contact me as soon as DHS has finished processing it. I'm wondering about how long it will take to clear DHS and when I will receive a case number...

Who else is waiting? Or if you're finished with the DCF process then maybe you can post how long it took to get the visa and which embassy you went through so that those that are still waiting can get an idea of how long it might take.

If you're making yeast bread there is no way to get around waiting for it to rise. You might make big batches of it on the weekend in the morning and then run errands while it rises. Otherwise, it is better to just buy it. I've been making lots of bread at home lately from pizza dough to Hamish bread to fry bread with varying levels of success. The fry bread is the only thing that always turns out right. My Hamish bread and pizza dough are rather fickle though. Apparently, if you look at the dough funny or your husband happens to fart while it is rising it just won't come out right.

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A cult of octo-moms. Just what America needs to speed itself on it's way to 3rd world status. Sheesh!