DGAB2008

No one owns another human being just because they are brought across the ocean for love (or whatever the case may be). The issues you state are what all married couples go through the first year of marriage. Marriage is quite an adjustment! Complicate that with differences in culture, sometimes religion and language, and of course leaving all a person has known their entire life to make a home in a new country, and you're bound to have some disagreements.
I say, give her a minute to miss you. Stop calling her and using this immigration issue over her head. If you hadn't brought her to this country how would you respond in this situation? No one likes to feel like they are owned just because you've offered them a new life. Give her a moment to miss you, and when she calls you, dedicate yourselves to counseling so you can both learn how to address what you're feeling in a more productive way.
If you find that she doesn't return and she's dedicated to ending the relationship, then sure, you would be violating the law by continuing a fascade, and I would advise you to inform immigration of your actual status. But, the fact that you have just been married one year, and she hasn't been away that long for you to be talking about contacting immigration, suggests that maybe you have some control issues, and maybe her actions right now are because she truly doesn't like feeling owned.
Think about whether you are loving her in a way any human being wants to be loved. Giving her a new life in America is a wonderful gift, but it's a gift to both of you so that you both can have a life of love together. Give her a chance to let what her sister is probably drilling in her ear die off, and respect whatever decision she makes. If she decides not to remain married, then by all means, you should report your current status to immigration. But don't be vindictive if it doesn't work out. If she did use you to get into the country, trust me, God is much better at Justice than we are. Be prepared to let that go from your heart if that proves to be the case, and pray that God blesses you with true love, happiness and a life full of joy.
At this point, however, it just sounds like a woman who doesn't feel understood or respected who is testing her husband's true love for her, or trying to get your to understand how frustrated she is with the way things are going between you.
Good Luck!

Applying at 1 year and 9 months is perfect. My husband applied to remove conditions at 1 year 10 months and received a letter within 2 weeks that says, "your conditional resident status is extended for a period of one year (while application is pending). During the one-year extension you are authorized employment and travel." So, unless something is wrong with your application, you should get a temporary one year extension while your application is pending. It should come within weeks of receipt of your application. HOPEFULLY!