MrsRowe

Got Biometrics today. Appointment is June 16. Yeah!

I wanted to add somthing to my prior post that I didnt say and I hope you ladies didnt take the wrong way. I am not putting the blame on women here at all, I am only going by prior experiance as to what has worked for me and what didnt.

When I was going through some of the same things with my husband I got mad, angry, and argumentative(which is a natrual reaction). I developed a lack of trust(which is also natrual for us to do). I became suspicious and dramatic and contstantly looked for the proof I needed to ease my mind that he had used me. I would accuse and complain.There were times when I would counter back with words that not only hurt him but hurt me afterwards becuase after the outbursts and verbal attacks I would feel mad at myself for being a person I didnt want to be. Sure he lied about some things, my husband even had an affair twice while we were seperated. I have been through the gambit with this man. Some will say I should have left and maybe that is the case. But I loved my husband. And I believe all of us have a great deal of love for our husbands and that is why their behaviors hurt so deeply. We have also put a lot of time and effort into these marriages which I think unless we have exhaughsted all the efforts on our part to make it right, would be a mistake to throw away.

You see, sometimes the issues at hand may not be as clear cut as we think, and also on top of that sometimes are own actions, while not starting the problem, can add too it.

This does not mean its our fualts and that some of our husbands actions are not totally wrong. In fact its true, everyones actions must be accounted for and there is nothing right about lying,cheating, neglecting, putting friendships or family before your spouse, or not providing adequatly to the best of ones ability as a husband. They are wrong for doing any of those things and will have to account to a higher person for their actions.

I am only saying that fruad may not be the root of the problem. If we assume its due to fruad, we may be shortchanging ourselves and creating a tornado inside thats doing nothing but picking up damaging debris that is destroying our own sanity, trust, love, and inner contentment.

I read in a Watchtower magazine on a different subject once, that a good desicion has examined both sides of the argument first. If I would have simply assumed that my marriage was fruadulant then I would have not ever made some of the changes that contributed to my marrital improvements and I would still be angry and bitter to this day and have extra baggage that I may or may not carry on to someone else. But in making some personal changes to the way I handled our problems, I most importantly helped myself and the improvments in my marriage came with it.

I am in full support of all you ladies on here becuase I know what this whole process is like and what it is like being in a cross culteral marriage.I also know the pain of lies, and neglect. I know the pain very very well. Please NEVER think I am blaming you guys for your husbands actions. I am not! I am just trying to give some advice based on my own experiance in hopes that it will give you some peace of mind and food for thought.

Your post almost brought me to tears as it reminds me so much of me. My husband and i have gone through it all since he has been her and i have found out so many things that bothered me. I didn't have to go searchign for anything, infact, i had no suspicion, he openly admitted them to me because he wanted to come clean some of which were so devastating. I tried but i had lost my trust and so i was sure that he had used me to get here, sure that it was all a mistake, sure that he was planning to leave eventually. I searched, and searched for evidence. Everytime i searched i convinced myself that if i found definte proof that i would surely leave him but i never found any definite proof of anything. I could not, would not send him back home becuase he my daughter's father and she loves him and he adores her. To see them together brings tears to my eyes. The thing is, that distrust showed and it became so bad that every word he said was a lie to me. It affected me, him and most importantly our daughter. I am learning though that if we are going to make th is work, i am going to have to forgive and learn to trust him again. My husband does not go anywhere. He works, he comes home, that is all he does. He is not good at housekeeping but he will cook sometimes. My constant questioning and accusing made him angry sometimes but he never really pushed back and i think it hurt him. I am not saying that what he did was right but my reaction was normal but hurtfull. I take responsibility for that. It takes two to make a marriage work or not work. I am learning that. There were red flags for me but i ignored them mostly because he was not someone i had just met, we grew up together and he was my first love, first boyfriend etc.

As with everything else it seems, vermont Service center is sloooooowwwww.

Congrats

You'll need an application number from the biometrics appointment letter to be able to add case to the portfolio and track it on USCIS website.

Thank you very much. You don't know how much i was stressing about this. Whew. I was so worried we would be rejected. Still kicking myself for waiting till the last minute. My husband and i have gone through a lot since he has been here but i would not like to see him leave. I still want him here getting on my nerves instead of somewhere else. lol

Hey MrsRowe,

I am glad to read that your check got cashed, I think it's a good sign too. I was curious as to how USCIS would treat an application that is 1 or 2 days off, glad to know they're not so jerk about it

Got NO1 Yeah! It is dated 4/26/2011 but i cannot get case status online. Anyone else or does it take a while?

Welcome to the club MrsRowe!!! Now you just have to wait. Date on my NOA is 4/14 a and I received it on 4/21.So if nothing happens after 4/21 i am going to be really worried!!!

Thanks. Our petition was late by one business day after USPS messed up. That worries me but we did send lots of evidence. Good luck to us all.

Check cashed today. Hoping this is a good sign.

I doubt it will be rejected. Keep us posted.

Thanks. I will.

Can i join this group? Sent application on 4/21 to be delivered overnight but post office delivered on 4/25 instead. Waiting.....

No news so far. Going to go crazy waiting. If they reject it, do they cash the check?

No taxes, no copy of his green card (front and back), no bills or statements of benefits from health insurance company showing one or the other using doctor services?

Edit: at least you sent some evidence - a friend of mine just sent copy of husband's GC, I-751 form and check. RFEd later but she knew what she did and had the whole set of evidence ready to mail. He got his GC in March (filed in September).

Oh yes, taxes were there for the past two years and our pepco bill to. Forgot about those. Yes we did send a copy of the greencard as well.

Do you have a stamped receipt with the postmark date? That part was (is) under your control. You have no control over any service to whom you trust delivery.

Thank you. I do have a receipt and it was supposed to be an overnight delivery. They dont' really have an explanation for what happened.

Okay, so my husband's green card expired on April 22nd. I sent the mail overnight on April 21st to arrive on the 22nd of course, as luck would have it. USPS did not deliver overnight as they were suppposed to. It never got delivered until Monday. Now we are stuck waiting to see if we will be accepted or rejected. I am angry at myself for waiting till the last minute to do this. Need help. I think we have pretty good evidence of relationship though.

Lease agreement - joint

car title - joint

car insurance - joint

health insurance - me as his dependant -

pictures of us together

daughter's birth certificate

copy of dna test done when he was immigrating.

Still i am a little scared.

Any ideas, suggestions? Help?

How lond do you think it will be before we know something. Help!

Okay, Don't panic!

Heres my advice, go to https://www.sss.gov/...rification.aspx and do a registration search, you may find that although you did not register yourself, that USCIS/INS automatically registered you as part of

your immigration process.

If the search says that it was unable to find a match, still dont worry, its VERY likely that they dont have your social security number in their database (very common) give them a call on 1-888-655-1825 and tell them your name and the city and state you were in during your initial entry to the US, they can do a search and find your registration, and then can add your social security number to the record on file.

They will also be able to provide your SSS number and the date you were registered, and will also send you a copy of it on a postcard in the mail within 5-7 days.

Thank you so much. We searched and he was automatically registered. Thank you.

If you did not sign up for selective services and are now over the age of 26 can you still sign up or what do you do when applying for citizenship? My friend did not know about selective services and so did not sign up now he is applying for citizenship. Help!

I got case number last week Friday. I emailed the DS3032 yesterday morning and has only gotten the autoresponse. I am already preparing my other forms but cannot pay anything as i was unable to get the invoice id number on the the phone. I also gave them my email address and updated our address as we moved. They said they would email the forms to us very soon but nothing so far.

Is there something going on with NVC??

They have assigned my case number but they are taking a long time to send things to me. They are supposed to be emailing but i still have not recieved an email yet.

I meant the Choice of Agent. Sorry.

Has anyone done the DS-230 by email? Is it not being accepted by email anymore?

Do i have to send in w'2 if i send a copy of the tax return? I cannot find them?

Thank you. I spoke to NVC and they said that my husband has to do it as the biological parent.

Help I have to do this for my stepsons. How do i word it for a minor? I am just not sure how to word it. Does anyone have an idea?

Congratulations.

I think it's really mean for any April filer to be posting results in the March thread.

Seriously.

There's an April thread, ya know.

It is not our intention to be mean to anyone. We simply posted here because there seemed to be more activity on this thread than the april filers thread. We are all here to support each other and share our happiness or pain, not trying to be mean. When i filed for my husband, it took a long time and lots of people filed after us but were approved long before we were and i was not upset, i was just happy for them that someone got out.

Thanks. I sincerely hope that you can just be happy for us. Take care.

Oh, cause on your timeline, it says Texas Service Center.

Ooh, didnt realize that.

THanks.