MBJ

As BMJ has already said we got approved. I was in a state of shock, I will say get there real early. my interview was initially kicked off at 0800 they let us into the embassy at 0745 but I had been there since 0630. I was literally back out of the embassy like an hour later. Now im waiting for the passport/ visa to be returned .. though it doesnt look hopefull that I will be flying on saturday ah well time to go find another £500 for flights. the Consular officer that gave me the Auth said that it would be with SMS by the end of the day, but ive been reading elsewhere that SMS are about as reliable as british rail used to be. anyone shed any light ? I know they say upto 5days but I asked for nextday pre 12 and the guy (who was just as stunned that I had gotten through so fast) on the counter said how much it would be and that was that.

btw being a noob.. DOS =???

I thought this day would never come... finally!!! We checked the website and it says we our NOA2 is on its way!!!!!

YAHHHH!!!

Bah you beat me to it... Ah well thats the timezone difference for you. soon baby soon

Hi folks,

BmJ and myself are currently approaching the end of our k1 app *fingers crossed its soon* however there is a possible chance I can gain employment with the US company I work for, I understand that if I work in the US I need my green card but will this interfeer with the K1 ? Im already thinking I will have to return the UK for my interview should I get the job before my interview date is given I know that once Im approved for my K1 I need to apply for change of staus etc etc and that part of that is obtaining a temp green card, but what if I get a job before then ? what then ?

Any ideas or insights would be appreciated.

Frustrated and just needed to vent a little. Kids keep asking when their papa would be home, wedding that is already paid for so date cant be changed now is coming up in mid October, going out of my mind worrying that this will not be finished in time and then we will be SOL and have to start ALL OVER filing a K-3, never have been good at waiting. Been with Mark for almost 4 years now and lately cant keep from crying myself to sleep. Trying to go to school and work both full time plus take care of four kids ages 9-17 and still have time for homework and spending time with Mark.

I feel stressed out, worn thin, and I am annoyed that the world is like this. I guess it is a naive way to think but who gives any government right to own people? This world should be for everyone, everyone should be free to move and live where they want. Some might say but what about taxes, yes you might have some people who move often to avoid taxes, but most people for cost of moving alone would not move all the time. I am sick of feeling like we are property and people can control if we can or can not be together. I understand we cant let everyone move to the USA but if the world were fully open to anyone to move anywhere I really think that would improve ALL the countries all around the world. Governments would have to make sure their country was run well so people would want to live there. It would be like a business trying to make their country the best.

I hate going to bed with Mark not by my side, the kids miss him like crazy, and while I understand that a lot of people are waiting this only makes me feel like, since we paid so much to get this started, then surely they could hire more people so this goes in a more timely manner.

We filed in early Feb. and got our NOA1 on Feb 11th. it has now been 145 days, we have not had a touch since Feb 13th, and I am frustrated as heck.

I know that some people from January have not gotten their NOA2, I just wish they would do something, cant they set up another service center? Some of our friends will be filing soon and they hope to get married next April, we will be there to support them, and have told them about this site, but we have also explained that it isnt easy.

Thanks for listening to my rant

Rebecca

Its tough, No one said it would be easy and I know I have the easy part of this. IT will happen Rebecca. We WIll be together, and all of this stress, worry, exhaustion will be worth it. Ill make sure of that. If it means you rant at me about this then rant away Ill be here to listen. Our love is stronger than this we will see it through.

Mark

Its hard Feb Filers., I know were gonna be soon.. 8 weeks from NOA2 to interview in london isnt that bad, theres still time and I would hazzard a guess that thats an outside estimate. I know soon Im gonna be winging my way to the US of A. Now all I gotta do is convince my boss (in the US) to gimme a job. .

The hardest part is knowing that while im sleeping there is the chance that BMJ will get notified... and then theres the dread of waking up and knowing that while im at work nothing will be happening. *sigh* Theres a light at the end of this tunnel We just need the door at the end to be opened.

Cummon... Touch.. Approve.. Lemme In...

I Dont Bite...

Hang in there folks were at the top of the Super Fun Happy Slide to where we want to be. Its all downhill from here.

Toucha toucha toucha touch me...I wanna feel approooved...toucha toucha toucha touch me creature of CSC.

...if you don't get it, just look at me like I'm crazy...I'm used to it.

ROFL that made me nearly splurt coffe on the keyboard... I wonder how many film quotes we can subvert to our Needs.....

Common CSC give us all a break PUUUUUUUUUUUUUHHHHHHHHHLLLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEZZZZZZ!

I met BMJ playing Everquest 2. At the time we were both attatched elsewhere I quit the gam (if you can call it that those that play MMO's know you never quit) due to the strain it was placing on my RL (real life) relationship, THat didnt work it all failed, I went back to Everquest 2 and Rebecca was still playing my old guild was still there I got back into the swing of playing again. BMJ took pity on me for being 10 levels behind the entire guild and tried to help me power level, I got bored or the "grind" (killing things endlessly to get a lvl) and quit once more this time heading to Lord of the Rings Online Beta program. Still keeping track of the Everquest 2 guild I used to troll their forum I noticed BMJ had placed a piccie of herself up and it was common concensus through my friends that Dang she was good looking, I also noticed she had quit the guild AND the game leaving an email that folks could reach her if they wanted to So I sent her an email to see how she was.

It was almost fate that she decided to turn on her mums PC and look at her emails espeically as she wasnt going to do so having made a clean break from the computer world. She read my email replied, saying she was AFK but would like to talk when she got home once more. a week passed, she was on Msn I was on Msn, I sent her a message it all started from there. we talked for hours and hours through MSN I finally got the courage to ask her for her phone number then we spent HOURS talking via the phone (and BT made sure they took their £ of flesh for that I can tell you... £90 for a 5 hour phone call) & the rest is History & we are now building a future together..

Im sure she remembers things slightly differnetly to me but heck It git us where we are today with the promise of good things to come.

Well. I call and Tuck BMJ in at night. I call to wake her up in the morning. I call and Sing her to sleep sometimes Yes sing.. even with my awfull voice. I try to be there when she needs it, I try to be there when the kids need it.

And at the end of the day you say it how its meant to be said. in whatever language

I LOVE YOU.

But Whenever you say it Mean it form the heart

Last year we started our very first summer camping tradition. Hopefully Mark will be able to get here before that time, but if not, then I will take the kids on my own *a bit nervous about doing that* but we can find a camping area that is not as remote as we went on with Mark. Mostly its just about getting away from the traffic, the tv, the internet and computers, and enjoying each others company.

Its was Great fun camping with You and our kids. I look forward to doing it again and again and again and again. I loved camping as a Scout and Venture scout. Some of it is the same but alot of it is differnet in the US. It was great to be doing something as a family and I felt that I bonded Lots with the kids in the 3 days.

Im Hailed as xaosbringer

Everyone has their story of their relationship, sometimes they get hard, with all this visa stuff it can be challenging, but if they are really "the one" and you keep up the communication, you can overcome anything.

Hang in there everyone, it might take a while, but you can do it!

And your the one for me. Thankyou for letting me into your life. through thick and thin we will see this through and be together forever.

If you search for a perfect friend without faults ....................You are looking to Hard, Your friends around you are the ones you should feel are perfect. They accept you as you are

The most important human right is.....................freedom

The greatest change will happen when...................You least expect it to happen

It's wise to take it slow and not rush things. The premarital thing BMJ and myself had was a bit of an eye opener not for how much we think apart but for how much we think alike and how when we are together we & how we come across to those outside of the relationship. Sounds a bit silly but being married before has really opened my eyes to how relationships work & what is required to get through the tough times and to enjoy the good times. Unfortunatly you have to have the bad to unerstand and appreciate the good. Its saddening to hear that folks dont survive the bad times, & that the bad times outweigh the good. But if your prepared mentally and emotionally for it you can make it.

Im up for a toon On terenas, It'll be a few lvl's till I can mail yah. I hate running as a gnomer. Im Hailed as xaosbringer (I just like the name ) Gnome warlock. If you dont see me on I can be reached through my hotmail. Im always there regardless of the server I play on.

All hail the Wogan whose whitty comments get more and more scathing as the night goes on and higher the alcohol count in his bloodstream gets..

I missed it this year but used to tune in solely to listen to him rant...

Those who say LDR's dont work just dont want it enough, BMJ and Myself have been in one for 3 years now and the end is in siight (as soon as I pass my interview that is),

Its all down to communications, Not sleeping on arguments, being open and honest, and most important. Being Loving and Patient. so much can be misconstrued from a written statement in an Email as there isnt any feeling behind the words, Personally I wake up everymorning in the UK to wish BMJ Goodnight in the US west coast & to tuck her in. I want my voice to be the last thing she hears in the day. I email her twice a day once to cheer her up when she wakes up. & I email her just Coz I can. poems, pictures, funny stuff that circulates my workplace email system, Or even just How my day went. We talk on average 2-3 hours a day on Skype. Me at my PC, her on the skype phone I bought her, what do we talk about well Everything literally everything. ho my day went how her day is going, how the kids are, we even call my parents and family in the UK and have a conference style call with them. To some it might seem over the top and to some it might seem obsessive BUT its how its worked so far.

Will it change when I emmigrate out to the US No because we still talk as much when I am there the topics wont change just the locations we are talking about. will we still call the UK Yes. BMJ doesnt want me to lose contact with friends and family. Most folks I know reach me via emails anyway so where I am in the world will make NO differnece at all.

All you have to remember is the person on the other end of the phone / email / Internet loves you as much as you love them, sure it will lead to stress and tension just be aware of that and prepared to deal with it and half your worries are over before you even get them.

Good Luck with the Move,

Its good to hear that It easier to get back in that it is to get out... Who knows for the future.

Gotta love it when I get a poem in an email from my Love. Always brightens my day.

/me *gets up on soap box*

Reasons for leaving this tiny little hell hole well...

1) The youth of today.

2) The Youth of today

3) The sheer cost of living *try buying a house*

4) Claustrophobia

5) General Apathy of the folks around me to be content with their lives

6) People using *its to far* as an excuse not to come visit when they can drive...

Reasons for wanting to live in the US

1) My Love is there

2) My New Family is there

3) The cost of Living $ for £ you ge alot more for your money. Nicer too

4) Outside of cities subburbs even you have a sense of space

5) The Whole "Lets just do it attitude" ( i work for a US firm and they all have it..)

6) Im not in the UK.

Be aware these are personal views and not to be trolled. You cant shoot a man down for answering honestly. On the trips ive been to the states. Ive deliberatly NOT done the Tourist thing I've tried hard to keep my time with BMJ as real and family orientated as possible ,yes we've been to the cinema, which couple doesnt. Yes weve been to a resteraunt, again which couple doesnt. but weve just done the day to day living stuff. Heck weve even done the family trip to disney (man what a blast). My current view of life in the states is as true as I can have made it. I have no delusions of the grass is greener ! Im expecting it to be tough. but its wher I want to be so its where I shall be.

By hook or by crook.

Front & Center... Wow Geek reporting for geekiness...

While I met BMJ playing EQ2 I now (having beta'd many many many many MMO's) have settled in Wow for a while. I do keep trying to get her playing wow but so far she has resisted the addiction !!

Im Currently on Khadgar. Under Tassian, Tassraen, Whipper or Phunbags (being a US server the GMS's have not yet got the meaning behind the last name , Dang sometimes I love being a Brit) I might be up for a bit of casual gaming. Horde OR Alliance Lemme know.

PS I do mean casual as Im studying hard to get more Qualifications to help me get a nice big juicy IT job in the US.

Thankyou, Thankyou one and all. *doffs cap*

For the Suggestions of BJ's when Im good.. Not to sure about the KY though. Not really my cuppah Tea. I do like the suggestion about the Candles and the low lights, maybe some scented oil burners goin on... Set the mood. maybe Ill supply a rose or 2 or maybe Ill even cook. You know candle lit dinner for 2. Yup Im that smooth & that real Who ever say romance is dead is a liar. BMJ Is worth every effort. I have never met such a wonderfull woman, who not only makes me feel this way once or twice but every day, even when I am with her.

PS The spelling and grammar thing comes from being lazy and typing handed early in the morning GMT when I've yet to have at least 2 cups of Java.

Brag away baby bag away,

you do realise that I feel like I have the better end of the deal. While you say you are not rommantic, you do the most amaising gestures, you sing me to sleep every so often. You are not ashamed of me nor are you worried I will to things to embaress you, but most of all you listen too me, you actually take the time to listen to my day, you even care about it. I may not be the most active poster on message boards, my wow guild sometimes moan about things like that. but I do read alot of it. I love you baby & we will do this. I have no doubt in my min that by the end of this year we will be together forever, side by side.

To you my love the most wonderful woman in the world.

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Brag away baby bag away,

you do realise that I feel like I have the better end of the deal. While you say you are not rommantic, you do the most amaising gestures, you sign me o sleep every so often. You are not ashamed of me nor are you worried I will to things to embaress you, but most of all you listen too me, you actually take the time to listen to my day, you even care about it. I may not be the most active poster on message boards, my wow guild sometimes moan about that. but I do read alot of it. I love you baby & we will do this. I have no doubt in my min that by the end of this year we will be together forever, side by side.

To you my love the most wonderful woman in the world.

Well Here It is. and Here I am.

BMJ got Our Paperwork Filed at the begining of February. & thats the beginning of the rest of my life. It started 4 or so years ago playing games online (everquest 2) when we bumped into each other. we started chatting and that was that. about a year later we both were Free and Single so jumped at the chance to see if we could make a go of it. A year after that I was proposing to her, Now we are filling papers for us to be together untill death do Us (an all that stuff).

Life sure has changed for this simple IT geek. and its only changed for the better. Its good to know there are folks out there experiencing stuff like this and telling everyone about the relevant experiences as it makes it not easier but less stress full for Noobs like myself. I look forward to chipping in and offering moral support in the future even after I am done with the immigration process.

Xaos by Name Xaos by nature

Your companies IT Guy by trade.

Were everywhere you ust never se us.