Wei&Shu(Joe)

I also think an attorney is your best bet and you should probably take your family up on their offer to help you finance that, but your question is what other options you have. The only one I can think of is either a mediator who speaks Putonghua or a mediator and a translator. If nothing else you can plop down your screen shots and phone number lists, maybe an affidavit from one of her boys if he is sympathetic and is willing to sign off that she pursued a relationship and presented herself as single. If it is explained clearly to her she may re-evaluate her position and take one of your offers. However, she could also a) re-evaluate and flee into the illegal community or b) become more motivated to strengthen her position by creating the appearance of abuse. Hard to say with confidence which way she'd go.
I'd follow others advice also to move your cash to places where she has no access but through you.
In general (big red flag this is a generalization that may or may not apply) Chinese women tend to respect a man who is resolute, firm, sticks to his guns. You don't need to be cruel to change the rules of the game, especially financially, and do it calmly and resolutely. My wife questions my medical advice all the time and quotes a Chinese friend as seeming to know more about medicine. I don't get upset. I just say you know me, you know my study all the time and my work, you take the advice you want but your friend's idea doesn't change my advice. Most of the time she responds by saying "I take husband's advice" and most of the time she does. Again, a generalization but Chinese women are often more prone to believe other Chinese than an American, even their husband, until they've gained a sense of security with you.
Let her know how things will be if she stays and what you can and can't accept. Be sure you collect all that hard evidence of her flirtations for your probable divorce, and start looking for a lawyer or mediator who can speak Chinese or a translator so you know everyone understands what is happening. Do you have any Chinese friends who could translate something you write so that you can be sure you are communicating your stance to her clearly?
Good luck to you. Better luck in the future.

I also think an attorney is your best bet and you should probably take your family up on their offer to help you finance that, but your question is what other options you have. The only one I can think of is either a mediator who speaks Putonghua or a mediator and a translator. If nothing else you can plop down your screen shots and phone number lists, maybe an affidavit from one of her boys if he is sympathetic and is willing to sign off that she pursued a relationship and presented herself as single. If it is explained clearly to her she may re-evaluate her position and take one of your offers. However, she could also a) re-evaluate and flee into the illegal community or b) become more motivated to strengthen her position by creating the appearance of abuse. Hard to say with confidence which way she'd go.
I'd follow others advice also to move your cash to places where she has no access but through you.
In general (big red flag this is a generalization that may or may not apply) Chinese women tend to respect a man who is resolute, firm, sticks to his guns. You don't need to be cruel to change the rules of the game, especially financially, and do it calmly and resolutely. My wife questions my medical advice all the time and quotes a Chinese friend as seeming to know more about medicine. I don't get upset. I just say you know me, you know my study all the time and my work, you take the advice you want but your friend's idea doesn't change my advice. Most of the time she responds by saying "I take husband's advice" and most of the time she does. Again, a generalization but Chinese women are often more prone to believe other Chinese than an American, even their husband, until they've gained a sense of security with you.
Let her know how things will be if she stays and what you can and can't accept. Be sure you collect all that hard evidence of her flirtations for your probable divorce, and start looking for a lawyer or mediator who can speak Chinese or a translator so you know everyone understands what is happening. Do you have any Chinese friends who could translate something you write so that you can be sure you are communicating your stance to her clearly?
Good luck to you. Better luck in the future.