Niel&Femi

What do you mean by "not paying on time" - what are you paying?

Did she pull the K-1?

Getting paid on time is a fairly common problem in Nigeria... not sure how that's connected to the relationship though..

Sounds like He didn't get paid on time and he asked her for some financial help. She must not have liked that.

To the OP. Sorry your relationship is having a difficult time. Unfortunately but understandably many Americans see Nigeria as a whole as a high risk country so any attempt to ask for financial help will not be received well by many people simply because there are so many Nigerian scams here in the US.

I'm sure you love her with all of your heart and marriage should be team work to some extent. But it is probably better that you do your best to not ask her for any financial help even when you do not get paid on time.

It's a good peek into the type of future you will have together, though.

Best wishes, if she doesn't come around, I hope you find a woman who will love you equally as much as you love her.

yeah - that is what I am thinking - but wanted the OP to clarify.

well i know many people will think this way... she know this by her own that i have NEVER asked her for any money, even when she was here in Nigeria i took care of her, even if she want to make this decision, she should have then, but just last April, that she took the decision and she came to Nigeria in Novermber last year.

Like everyone else, I'm trying to figure out your post. Sounds to me like you've asked your fiance for money several times and promised to pay her back, but to date have not reimbursed her. Here's the deal. We understand that opportunities in Nigeria are not what they are here, and we genuinely empathize with your situation. However, I only imagine that your fiance has had to bear all of the financial responsibility of your relationship (as most Petitioners with fiance's from Nigeria have). Your fiance is making that sacrifice because she sees something in you that makes her feel like you will be a wonderful life-long partner - someone she can feel safe and secure with. She's sacrificing for you now because she believes you are going to be the man she envisions for the rest of your lives together. She's sacrificing because she believes the type of love you two share doesn't happen every day and she's willing to invest in it.

But you need to understand how much of a sacrifice this is for her. Not only is the process emotionally draining, but it takes a lot of time and effort, and a lot of money to keep this type of relationship going. Most of us on here are not rich. Most of us live comfortably but don't have tens of thousands of dollars just lying around waiting to give away. I only imagine that she paid all costs to visit you in Nigeria and to apply for the K1 and many other things that involves money.

It sounds like you promised to repay her and you didn't. Although everything is not always equal in relationships, she wants you to prove that you are going to be a man who looks out for her interest, protect her and make sure she's okay. Loaning money to you may have placed her in a terrible financial predicament of her own and she doesn't want to hear your sob story. Be a man and do whatever it takes to prove you are honorable and dependable.

She's probably thinking about the kind of husband you may be once you arrive in the U.S. and if you're going to be a man of your word, if you're going to work hard on behalf of your family, or if she will be able to sustain her lifestyle if you don't live up to your word, and whether all of this is worth it for her.

I say do WHATEVER it takes to pay her back so she sees what kind of man you are. Then respect her and trust in the love that you know exists between you and back off for a minute. Personally, I don't believe this is just an issue of money. Women don't walk away from love for no reason. Particularly those that have invested so much already. I think she's seeing some actions on your part, or character traits that concern her. So if you love her, be an honorable person (only you know what that means in your relationship). If you remain the decent man that she fell in love with, she will continue loving you and sacrificing for you both to be together.

Sorry for the long reply, particularly if I completely misunderstood what you were trying to say (laugh).

Dionne

thanks for your insight but the true of the matter is that "I have NEVER asked her for money" NEVER i mean NEVER. for our 3 years friendship, 1 year relationship i have NEVER asked her for any money that is the true and she know this.

i know Nigeria people has been tagged for fruads but i am 1 person out of 140 million people who has decided to make different in my life, for the fact that i working where i am working and i did not get paid on time does not make me to now turn to beggar on the internet. i have my integrity to protect for i have my name to protect too for i know this "a good name is better than silver or gold".

well thanks alll for your insight

In Nigeria situations like this are very rampant, one can work for a business solely owned by one person and don't get paid at the end of the month. They do not pay biweekly but monthly so some businesses due to not making enough money to pay their staffs do owe their staff salaries with the understanding that they will pay as soon as business picks up again.

I think his situation maybe when narrating his experience to his fiancee she may have helped out a few times and when his demands got excessive because believe me it does get excessive she might feel she is being taken for a ride by him.

Whatever the situation is, i hope they can work it out and if not it's better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all. All the best.

I have never asked her for any money she knew this, even when she came to Nigeria i took care of her very well make sure she feel at home.

Please I need your advice, me and my fiancée are doing great working, and communicating together very well, but the little problem we have now start because my boss doesn’t pay me on time, not because I’m asking money from her, I know she feel concerned because of me not paying on time. but i let her know that this is the problem we have here working for one man business despite of this to get a new job in here in nigeria is little hard. but she made decision to end the relationship.

Please tell me what can I do, to gain her love back, because she already cut off the relationship and I’m afraid that she will not bend on changing her mind, because she would not change her mind.

please, What can I do for her to change her mind, I really love her.

Please Help when are we going to get our NOA 2 also it seem we are been forgotten it getting tooo loong for us

I think you don’t need to lie since majority of people are meeting online nowadays I met my fiancée through yahoo 360 over 3 years ago, and we have been doing fine since then.

Lying might put you in great problem if get to know later, so be careful…

I wish you and your babe good luck

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=183692

Did you accidentally repost this?

yess sorry for that

Hi VJ’s

Based on the purpose of many of us coming to this place that I like to know the individual idea or meaning of love. I want to know from individual knowledge what is meaning of the word love and what do you really understand by it …

Please don’t take this discussion personally, just want to know what individual thinks about the word love

Thanks and cheers

Hi VJ’s

Based on the purpose of many of us coming to this place that I like to know the individual idea or meaning of love. I want to know from individual knowledge what is meaning of the word love and what do you really understand by it …

Please don’t take this discussion personally, just want to know what individual thinks about the word love

Thanks and cheers

Please I do not want any one to jugde me for no reason... All I am asking for is a piece of advice on what to do right now...I created this new account to remain anonymous.

Ok my wife is crazy, yes she is crazy, we met online back in 2004 everything was going good we were both loving it all that in a nut shell we decided to get married, when I gat over here I found out a lot of things that she didn't tell me. Ok first of all she didn't tell me she has a mental disorder called Schizoprenia not until I experience one of her episodes and that was like 10days after I gat over here, I didn't like what I saw. I confronted her about it and she told me she didn't tell me because if she had told me I might not have married her...

Now we have been leaving together now for 2years and its been one problem to another, everything that we do is what she tells her mum is like I am married to her mum cus her mum makes the decison for her, when I say everything I mean everything she even tells her mum if we made love with or without a condom.....Also I'd like to ask y'all if you are married is it true that you can't make friends with the opposit sex ???......

I9 don’t think I would want to believe the story of this guy, not that I’m trying to judge him but I believe that he is tired of the relationship and he is looking for a way out.

Point number one, why did you change your id umm curious to know.

2 this is what I read about schizophrenia

Schizophrenia is a brain disorder that affects 1% people from all over the world. It is not linked by sex, age or breed.

What schizophrenia is not

People with schizophrenia aren’t witches as they were considered in antiquity, and isn’t either linked with split personality or multiple personality?

What schizophrenia is

Is a mental illness with multiple symptoms that are difficult to distinguish from another psychotic disorders. Patients with schizophrenia present delusions, hallucinations, bizarre behavior, withdrawal from society lack of interest in life and people around, etc.

What causes schizophrenia

Difference in brain chemistry, such as imbalances of: certain proteins, specific amino acids, specific neurotransmitters; difference in brain structure, difference in brain circuitry , genetic factors, developmental factors, such as: prenatal exposure to a viral infection , exposure to a virus during infancy , early parental loss or separation, hormonal changes that affect the brain’s chemistry and serve as a trigger, environmental stress might be causes of schizophrenia.

Can schizophrenia be treated

In present is no cure for schizophrenia. But medication for schizophrenia is developing with every day that is passing by. If the first medication that appeared, called the classic antipsychotics, have many side effects, the new generation of antipsychotics have fewer side effects and treat well the symptoms. Patients with schizophrenia under a right treatment can live in present almost a normal life.

What happens to people with schizophrenia

In present people with schizophrenia need no more to be treated in special hospitals, but they must respect the treatment that are given, otherwise the ill can develop and the symptoms are very annoying.

How big a problem is schizophrenia

Schizophrenia is a major problem of ours times because it affects a big number of people, have many symptoms and need a special and complex treatment.

So you he can not tell me that her wife is suffering with all those thing and he can live with her for 2 good years, please open your heart, again look at what he said the green card is his so that mean he is not ready to leave the country. There is something fishing.

HAPPY NEW YEAR ALL!!!!

Perseverance, I pray you don't have what I had. My sweety was here for Thanksgiving holidays and I was sick with strep throat his entire visit. He left on Saturday after Thanksgivng and I had to drive myself to the hospital that Sunday. Worse I've ever felt in my life. I pray that you will feel better soon.

I was curious about what the "9" signify in the Bible and I found this

THE NUMBER OF JUDGMENT. There are 9 greek words derived from the root word meaning judgment = dikay. The following words each occur 9 times in the Bible: abussos (bottomless pit); asebee (ungodly); aselgeia (lasciviousness); and astrapee (lightning). The gifts of the spirit are 9 in number (1 Cor. 12:8-10): the word of wisdom, the word of knowledge, faith, healing, miracles, prophecy, discerning of spirits, tongues, and interpretation of tongues.

Good night ladies and gentlemen

well i got to this site late but i want to make sure i contribute to every one, whenever i can.

to answer you question i believe 9 is the number of the fruit of the spirit.

i will tell you some of the numbers that i knew of

1==== is the number of oneness in God

2------- i dont know that

3......... is the number of trinity

4......... is the number of stability

5......... is the number of grace ( this the reason why God can not come down below his grace when Abraham is interceds for Sordom and Gormorah

6...... thi sis the number of man (man was created in the 6th day

7........ number of perfection (it took God seven days to rest)

8....... the number of new begining (David was the number 8 son of Jesse and God is looking for new begining of kings and dynasty in Israel.

then 9 number of the frit of the Spirit

Well i think K-1 might be god for you, because it is the fastest among all other visa, but you must have meet in person at least once before you can file for it except in condition that did not make both of you to meet in person.

but i suggest that you should start planing or he should start planing to come visit so that you cold file immediately you get back or while he is there with you.

i wish you best of luck

well there is a way to still do about it call the gathering your engagement party

Just keep your eyes wide and really wide open because, yes, there's a very very very high probability he'll leave you to marry in his tribe when all documents are in his hands. Yes, it's not a joke. HE WILL LEAVE YOU SOMEDAY TO GO BACK AND MARRY IN HIS TRIBE. I'M SORRY BUT I CAN'T BE ANY CLEARER. YES HE WILL LEAVE YOU WHEN HE GETS ALL HIS PAPERS.

please where are this people come from, if they dont have anything to contribute why cant they just keeep thier mouth shut, i dont want to sound rude but this is ###### talking like this

In Nigeria I hear that your suspose to be financially stable before you marry; if

someone is always telling you of situations or occurrences that would prompt you to

send money; I'd be wary. I'd let them solve their own problem, many peeps milk money

out of others that way. Your love interest shouldn't need you to rescue them; sounds

a little cruel; but I say that for a reason. Just my little two cents.

I think i would totally agree with you on this one, because this are some red light you have to look for when someone is want to defruad you, i also believe that Idocare is talking from experience, but neverthless that should not make you to generalise it because some are still genuine in there relationship with their foreign spouse.

Again as for sweet... so also you when you mention that all those people that are going to cyber cafe are fruadster, that mean anytime you find yourself there also you are qouote/unquote that is that.

what about the people that has internet on their offices, and are being brutalite by nigerian girls in the name of love, but they now trying to spread there net somwhere else.

please refrane your defence and think very well before you start generalise the your posting

thanks

please i have a similar question too

me and my fiancee mostly communicate through chat we hadly send each other e-mail can this be a problem for us when we are gathering proof of ongoing relationship?

There are some inexpensive and good hotels across the state it now depend on which area you want to lodge, there is one in ogba, excellent hotel, and there is one around abesan which is my area infinity http://infinityhotelsng.com/index.php but about accomodation when my fiancee came i have to used my brother's place since he is using 2 rooms flat, one thing is that you can not get a flat or an apartment that will want to collect a numbers of days or a month of rentage from you, it is better you get a hotel or look for someone that you can trust that you can stay with when you come

these are little thing that i know off, well good luck

Contratulation

just as it happened to you one by one we all are going to have our own also

There something I notice in all this discussion, the OP asked the question for you to advice most don’t do that you rather started to condemn the poor lady, I believe that is why she could not come back again since most of you are already sentence her to condemnation for life, when most of you are not there when the interview is being conducted, you don’t know what they fill in the form, you don’t know what are the questions the interviewer asked her, you are just there to castigate her, as if you are the presiding judge of the matter. Please give her a chance and explained things to her instead of condemn please rethink

Thanks and cheers

here...lets make this visible

http://www.visajourney.com/examples/INS-Form-G-325A.pdf

this is the G-325....which you have to fill 4 of these out for yourself.

The question:

Former Husbands or Wives (If none, so state)Family Name (For wife, give maiden name)

First Name

Date and Place of Termination of Marriage

Date and Place of Marriage

Birth Date(mm/dd/yyyy)

[if there is none put none]

If the OP put NONE.......LIE....FRAUD

If the OP put her current husband and a termination date...it wouldve been a false date as there was no termination date at the time of filling out the form...guess what....LIE.....FRAUD

How about if they did not put any date there at the date of termnation of marriage, what would have happened?

We talk all day on msn, and I mean all. He owns his own business so he's on it all day. When I'm not working, so am I. We use skype, cell phones & the web cam all the time too. We have a son together so it's important that they see each other as much as they can. It's really hard sometimes

We're also very big on games - kind of how we met, so we do a lot of playing games and looking for new games to play. You name it, we've probably tried it lol. ....whatever it takes to keep from going nuts while we're apart. In the past we saw each other every 4 months or so so the waiting was never hard. By the time we were going nuts, he was on a plane here. This time, it's been since August that I saw him last, 6 months and counting. It's not fun. We do what we can to stay occupied because you go nuts saying the same stuff over and over again if you talk as much as we do and you don't have something else to do lol. He sleeps with the laptop next to his head in case I need to msg him at night. We are both very well trained. hahahaha

In the past we saw each other every 4 months

Umm this might be good if the distance is not far away, unlike me and my baby flying 11 hours to and fro is not easy so much so considering the fare also.

so we take the best opportunity we have to stay in turn with each other, calling, messenger, in case your case is like ours because of distance

good luck all

A question for all my fellow December filers!

As we all are away from our loved ones I am curious to find out how you keep connected... and in each others lives while apart?!? I have been here in the US with my fiance since September of 2008 and we frequently see each other... alas, I will be going back home this coming weekend and was wondering how the rest of you stay connected.

Thanks!

I think phone card wil be good, so also if you have internet MSN, Yahoo, Skype etc are also good, like me and my fiancee, we do normaly use phone, but much more we are privilege that i use internet mostly in the office, while she use her phone to chat with me as im using yahoo messenger.

this is how we do communicate, and we have been encouragig ourself as we are far away apart to come together through phone at nite...

Wow!! this is one of a great forum in this place, thanks to the originator of this forum, i really much appreciate it, we are december filer too good to have you all in here.

i also enjoy all the sence of humus you have all in this place this will at least make the journey shorter for us.. i wish you all free safe journey

cheers

I don't know how many people have run into this situation before but here it goes anyway. So a couple of years ago I got married to this girl from the Philippines. I thought we were in love but found out that she was just really good at manipulating people. Eventually I was able to file a K1, get her to the US, marry her then find out she had someone back home. I had that marriage annulled for marriage fraud. So I go about my business dating other girls. But now, I end up with her sister. Eventually I do want to bring her over. My question is will their relationship be a burden to my petition? Also, will I have to send a copy of my annulment papers with the K1 petition? Has anyone run into this before?

My thoughts on this are that any girl who is willing to get with her sister's ex-husband has questionable morals, no matter how "in love" she may seem with you. This kind of relationship is asking for trouble, and is bound to create even more family drama--resentment, jealousy, fights. I personally wouldn't want to get myself involved in a mess like that or be a catalyst for the break-up of family relationships. It's just not worth it. No matter how hard it may seem, end the relationship and move on to find someone else that isn't willing to risk destroying her relationship with family. Family, after all, is first and foremost. Another way to look at it is, would you marry a girl that your own brother or sister had been in a relationship with, whether married or boyfriend/girlfriend? Would you be willing to ruin your relationship with him/her for a so-called love with their ex? Or on the other side, how would you feel if your own brother/sister told you they were going to marry your own ex?

Hello man, i really agree with you friend, my question to this poster is that, dont you think those sister are taking you a ride to USA, please open your eyes and thinking with you heart not with your head...