Beth/ Paris Heart

Morning guys.

Morning Everyone!!! Have a wonderful day!!!

Good morning, Paris. the cold front blew in here as well and my hands feel like ice blocks. So much for the balmy weather we HAD.

Its cool to me not cold, I love it. Do NOT miss the balmy weather!!! I'll send you gloves my Dearest Nagi!!!!

Well all I can say is my husband's interview didn't go well. Ahmed was put on AP and they informed him it could be up to 7 months maybe longer. It's related to him being here in the U.S. before, him having two nationalities and being born in a different country then the nationalities that he has. They want verify dates and do name checks or whatever. The DOS couldn't give me further information, the operator just said the AP will take a long time.

I expected AP, although NOT seven months or more. For now all I want to say is thanks to all of you for your help, positive thoughts and listening to me venting when all I wanted to do was b1tch!

I am not in a good place now and although it will get better inshaAllah....I am not looking forward to this waiting. Again, I want to thank everyone. Take care all and best of luck on your visa journey.

I'm so sorry Shar, I wish I could cheer you up, you need a bit of time, we are always here for you!!!!

I do know how you feel when we had our interview, but now we all know how that turned out.

Funny thing Paris embassy sent our case to Wahsington, A/R Nov. 12th State dept said they have no record of my letter to cancel petition, so sending it all again soon to them.

We are here for you Sharifah and we know eventually he will be with you, we love you as well.

Help!!! I traced on the Chronopost package we left with U.S. Embassy, and they sent it to him WEDNESDAY, would they send him a visa without them having his passport????????????? Please help, Embassy is closed, and Dept of State is all backed up.

I dont beleive this, what is in that Chronopost? Would they overnight a denial? I pray it is. They sent the package BEFORE I cancelled petition. HELP!!!

Morning MENA! Happy Monday!

The weeks are just flying! I just love the holidays and cant wait for next week. I need to get another asst manager hired at my branch so im doing interveiws today (since i fired one last week) its really hard to rotate weekends with only 2 other members of management! I worked this saturday and working weekends is something I dont like doing!!

Its balmy and cold here in Chicago. 42 for a high today. I think winter is finally coming full force Im not ready to be bundling up me and the kid everyday, its such a pain!

Hope everyone has a great Monday!

Morning Everyone!!! Cool front blew in, cooler, mixed with rain and winds later today, feels good!!!

I'm the member formerly known as Visa4habibi! Since I couldn't log in after not using my account for so long had to re-register to tell everybody this: my Moroccan husband SUCKS! HE RUINED OUR MARRIAGE!!! All this wait, all the tears, all the money and effort spent for absolutely nothing! If he's from a country that looks like it's still in 17th century - it's because it is and so is he and his mind! There's no more Tanya and Mohamed!

October 19, 2009 - he's finally out of the house! Oh joy! No more being treated like a piece of meat!

November 15, 2009 - went for counseling and as I suspected there's nothing to be done! Yes, the marriage counselor worked today since he was away for when I needed him the most, all three weeks since we got separated!

The marriage's been dead since he came over here! I got somebody else baby from another country that just wanted to do his own thing and live his own life in my house on my dime and not help with anything! There's no happy ending here! All the attention all the promises I got in Morocco meant nothing!!! I was his star, his Moon, his Queen and now he's not my slave and how dare I want his paycheck to pay our bills?

Now I hate him, hate my life and mostly myself for letting him do all this to me! God knows I've tried and tried and tried but they do know their job in Casa and age difference plus cultural differences is way to much for one adult and one man-child to handle! I was mad at the consulate all the time they kept us apart, but they do know a thing or two about lazy people who never worked a day in their life and can smooth talk others into spending time and money they don't have on them. Just so they come over here and be as lazy as before and help with nothing!

Don't mean to offend anybody's culture but we are what we are and I'm not a Moroccan woman to take abuse and follow my man a yard behind him! Or pretend like he was pretending that we have no problems and hide from them!

Tanya

Tanya, I totally relate to your situation, just last week this all happened to me, except he did not make it here, but as you, I was used, and promised the world, and spent more money on him and this process then the national debt. Im bitter, deeply hurt, but I dont hate MENA men, you and I both got the wrong ones, I dont hate Algerians or think they are filthy as my husband acused me of that I will post all over internet of this. He is wrong, he is just the bad apple.

So,...... I learned a very hard lesson , the money I dont care about, its money, my heart has began to heal, now I just need to work on forgiving myself for being stupid and seeing the signs which I choose to ignore. That is all my fault.

One day you will wake up and say "Glad thats over". All things DO happen for a reason, Im still asking myself that, "WHY" but we go on, we get out of bed everyday, and remember to breath, and soon we wont have to remind ourself to get out of bed and to breath, things will fall back in place for you.

All the Best,

Beth AKA Paris Heart

Thank you for your post, its done, cancelling case, visa was NOT issued nor will be ever as me as a Sponsor or anything else. Too many things found out today, and to add to his behavior, he cheated on me, You dont do that to one you claim you love with all your heart. Im done, a nice girl got her heart ripped out, cheated on, and used.

and cheating? what a jerk... Beth, I'm so sorry for you, but happy that this ended earlier than giving you more heartache Stay strong for the one who'll love you later in time and who will be the one

Well after 6 days, I heard from him, it was bitter/sweet, mainly bitter on his side. Seems to be all my fault he has not worked in 2 years, and Im the reason why he is now illegal in France. Im filing for divorce, and sending him the papers certified mail, maybe he will sign the wavier and have notarized at embassy, maybe not, we will see.

For today, Im packing up all pics of us, but keeping all paperwork till divorce is final. After that, no need to keep it. I did try to reach out to him to keep now and future on neutral terms, so its up to him.

I know I dont belong on VJ anymore, no in process petition, or a happy ending here for me, but Im comfortable here. Feels like family all over the world here on VJ. Thank you all for your PM and just being true and caring people.

Morning everyone! Last night the hubby and kid and I went to the mall, and when we came out, I heard the most pitiful meowing. I finally narrowed the sound down and it was coming from the engine of a car in the parking garage. I am kind of a sap for animals, so we ended up waiting around 2 hours for the owner of the car to come back from the movies and open the hood. What crawled out was the dirtiest, grimiest black and white kitten ever We took it home and warmed it up and we are now discovering that it is also the NOISIEST kitten ever.

Good for you! I am always terrified that kittens will be caught inside my car engine (we have ferals in the neighbourhood) and this summer one of the kittens did indeed start hiding in the cars. I had to go and bang on my husband's car in the morning before he left for work to make sure the kitten wasn't there - and I always opened up my car's hood to check - and chase him out if he was there. That little kitten is so very very lucky you were there and were willing to take the time to wait for the car's owner to come out. Congratulations on your new addition - the poor little kitten is probably hungry and frightened and all sorts of other stuff after being inside the car's engine - was probably stuck there when the car was been driven . Once he feels safe and secure he should settle down a lot- he's probably still calling for "mommie" and wondering why she doesn't come.

On the cold mornings, I always beat on the hood to scare them away, and then open it.

here is the stuff we are preparing for now

_ our emails starting 2008 ( he is gonna have to take a private jet for loading purposes they are gonna be tons)

_our call logs includes text messages

_my itenary when i visited him ofcourse we got married too

_our itenary ( trip to mexico )

_ pictures with his family and just the two of us

_ portraits we took at photo studio

for now that is about it

I can loan you a big steamer trunk for the emails, cheaper then a private jet. Best wishes at interview!!!

lol beth ,, ya i might need that girl by the way i miss you i pm you also i guess you did not see it wish you all the best too

Lily1 my inbox of PM over flowth, LOL, Im okay, taking it day by day. Thank you for your love and concern. XXXX Kisses

here is the stuff we are preparing for now

_ our emails starting 2008 ( he is gonna have to take a private jet for loading purposes they are gonna be tons)

_our call logs includes text messages

_my itenary when i visited him ofcourse we got married too

_our itenary ( trip to mexico )

_ pictures with his family and just the two of us

_ portraits we took at photo studio

for now that is about it

I can loan you a big steamer trunk for the emails, cheaper then a private jet. Best wishes at interview!!!

Morning everyone! Last night the hubby and kid and I went to the mall, and when we came out, I heard the most pitiful meowing. I finally narrowed the sound down and it was coming from the engine of a car in the parking garage. I am kind of a sap for animals, so we ended up waiting around 2 hours for the owner of the car to come back from the movies and open the hood. What crawled out was the dirtiest, grimiest black and white kitten ever We took it home and warmed it up and we are now discovering that it is also the NOISIEST kitten ever.

You big sucker!! LOL I would of done the same thing as you, for I love aninals also. SO........... what name for you decided to call your new addition to your family???? Kittens are so cute and nosey. Your a good soul Amysaid!!!

Well..My husband came up to visit and wanted to know what all the VJrrr's from Canada were talking about when they mentioned "smarties" so I had to go buy him a box and YES canucks HE DID EAT THE RED ONES LAST.

I'm afraid to ask after the week I had, and going out on a limb here, but, what is a Smarties?????

They're candy covered chocolate bits.

Pretty much like M&Ms if you've had those.

YUMMMM M&M's I love the almond ones especially!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you for the reply.

Well..My husband came up to visit and wanted to know what all the VJrrr's from Canada were talking about when they mentioned "smarties" so I had to go buy him a box and YES canucks HE DID EAT THE RED ONES LAST.

I'm afraid to ask after the week I had, and going out on a limb here, but, what is a Smarties?????

I was so upset and emotional before, and stress is one of the biggest exacerbation causes of Multiple Sclerosis, I was tremendously disappointed, overly sensitive, and angry. Please read my last post. I tried to message EWOK but was not allowed to as I sent too many messages in 24 hours? Mainly back and forth between people who messaged me.

Thanks,

Verde

Verde, I say this out of love, and I understand the frustration you are feeling, but you got to breath, and step back for a few mintues.

I know all too well how difficult and mentally exhausting this process can be. I have stood in your shoes and gone a bit further, but you need to realize 1 thing, you have not been denied a visa for your husband, they simply asked for "correct " docs, so Hon, give the what they want and wrap up this immigration journey. There is no use arguing with what embassy docs asked for then what embassy said you have to submit, give what they verbally asked for. Then live happily ever after with your hubby here in USA. Many, many dont get that happy ending, Im one of them, and wounds are still wide open, and filled with salt, but a person goes one. So you go on, give them the stuff they want if you have not already, but you need to also take care of yourself love,. get some sleep, and things will look better in the morning. Night Night Honey!!

good morning all - and i'm off to bed, it's been a long night at work.

Morning all, its beautiful here this am. This is the very first weekend in several months where Im not fretting over this immigration stuff. New journey ahead of me., UGH!!! Have a good weekend, be safe!! Be kind to the ones that love you!!

We just got an email today.....our interview in Qatar is DECEMBER 13

Best wishes!!!!

Good, none of we guys mentioned BEER ....

Well, I was gonna, but, didn't know if I could mention crotch and beer in the same post & get away with it.

Laughter, the best medicine.

Im making it legal, after-all I got nothing to lose anymore!!!

I planted an herb garden (no... like herbs for cooking not the other "herb") and followed up with VJ to heop folks stuck in the process...

OHHHH that type of herb, okay!!!

Good, none of we guys mentioned BEER ....

Ive found margaritas is numming my pain!!! Lots and lots.................

Morning Peeps

My favorite day of the week

Sooooooo looking forward to it..first....no kiddies today and tomorrow for hubby and me

second we are having some company tonight and hubby is cooking them a real authentic Moroccan dinner

He should be up and at em already as you know couscous can become nearly an all day affair.

So much props to you baby!

I did my part...shopping and cleaned my butt off till real late last night so now it is all the hubster.

I bought some pumpkin pie pudding/pie filling from Kozy Shack...I can't wait to try it.

The next couple of weeks I got some things going on and then holiday season will be in full swing.

Good God, not ready for that at all.

I will know by tonight if I will continue with a New Year's wedding celebration or Valentine's Day.

I think Valentine's better cuz we would have more time to prepare.

Although the weather has been teh svcks I am not letting anything ruin this day.

It has been one day since hubby stepped off the plane and I am so thankful to have him here with me

Morning Gang!! Happy Friday the 13th, beware of the black cats, ladders, and broken mirrors, all bad luck, HUH, sound like a everyday occurance in my life, LOL Come on, I needed a laugh.

Be safe all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Have a great weekend!!!

why is your interview date not assign,,,,,, your case was completed in aug

Because she is from Canada, and we're currently back logged by 5 to 6 months.

It's ''FUN'' stuff.

Okay where is the forum for me???, Im no longer a CR1 filer, no longer waiting for interview, no longer in AP/AR

Not waiting on visa to be issued, Im withdrawing it, and filing for divorce. Treat me like ####### and I take it, shame on me,

cheat on me and I find out, well have no fury like a scorn woman!!!!!!!!!!!

Where is the scorn woman forum??????????????????

WHAT ON EARTH? Beth, I'm so sorry.

And karma, what goes around, comes around.

And dear Beth, you are beautiful.

Oh yeah, I found out lots I did not know. So okay, I pick myself up, dust myself off, and breath. Easier said then done, but I will do it. Found out other true facts, but I wont post. WOW, what a morning!!

You'll be able to do it Beth, you're a strong woman. And a inspiration to me if I might add. And forgive me for saying this but I'm glad the visa was not approved if he really did so much hurtful things behind your back. Karma will snip him. You'll be okay and we are all here for you if you need us! And yes, don't forget to breath deep.

As of this am, visa was still being processed, until now, Im withdrawing it, I contacted my senator, Paris and one going to USCIS and the Dept of State. YOU dont do this to a person you claimed of loved with your whole heart.

I think in my heart I knew , but denied it all cause I love him, but light shined through to protect me.

Im not a ugly hearted person, cranky at times, but a good girl who believes in marriage vows, and self respect for herself.

I wonder why God lead me on this journey to feel such hurt and pain in my head and heart in the very end. But one day I will know.

Wow I am so sorry

Brooklyn

Thank you all, I will be okay, would of been worse for me later if he came here. And I realize that now.

December 7th!!!

We got an interview!!!!!

Whoo Hoo Julie, Im so happy for you girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I wonder why God lead me on this journey to feel such hurt and pain in my head and heart in the very end. But one day I will know.

You have GOT to be kidding me!!!

Oh Beth.... how cruel....to let you go through all the waiting and longing......

I'm so sorry. You're a great person and deserve so, SO much better than this!!

If you ever want to vent, gimme a holler, okay?

Its not worth venting anymore over him and what he did to me. All lies and deceit on his part.

But I will stay in touch JJ, Hugs(((((((((((()))))))))))))))

Beth

Beth, he can't cancel the visa process...only you can do that. Yes, he probably did go and pick up his passport or otherwise he would not be legal there. Don't worry about what he is or isn't doing.

You have to start worrying about you and what your future plans will be! If you think it's over, then it's over. If you think there is a chance of renewing your possible future together then I wish you the very best of luck.

Take care sweetie.

THANK YOU, I did not think he could cancel it alone. I will contact the embassy tomorrow, for I believe they are honoring Veternas Day over there today, and probley why they did not respond to my email this am.

IN the meantime, I would compose a letter, referencing the original USCIS petition and NVC# and indicating that you want to withdraw your sponsorship. Sign it, get it notarized, and fax the letter to the consulate, DOS, NVC, USCIS everyone. That way, you make sure that there's no chance this fall through the cracks and he is somehow issued a visa (w/ you sponsorship attached to it) if you are truly convinced its over.

Lots going through my mind, but yes will handle it as your wrote.

Ive been thinking, I think the embassy told him to pick up his passport if they would not overnight it to him as instructed, Im wondering if something was said to him. When I called Dept of State for a update, there was none, so I dont think he withdrew it, none of this changes for what has happended or the behavior involved with him not speaking to me.

Im leaving him alone and see if he contacts me, all in all, I must go forward, I need time to cool off also.

Beth,

Several people had already said he can't withdraw it - only you can as the petitioner. He cannot as the beneficiary. Even if something was said to him, the right thing would have been for him to talk to you about whatever was said to him. What are you imagining could have been said to him?

Im not sure if something was said, or what it may of been. But there was a instance about 2 years ago, a clerk at embassy told him, "just cause your marring her dont mean you get a visa handed to you". He also commented, She is older then you.

When he told me what happened, I called Dept of State, the clerk was way out of line, and embassy called me to apolgize, etc. I keep obsessing, and its wrong, Im just so tired, and now so friggin confused after 3 years together.

Sorry for my rambling folks.

Beth, I don't mean to be blunt but have you thought about worst-case scenarios? What if the consulate does issue the visa to him, and he doesn't contact you? Given that you have no indication that he's picked up his passport....he may intend to leave it there until and if the visa is issued. As has been stated...he cannot withdraw the petition, only you can do that...and if you do not signal to the consulate that you no longer wish to have the visa issued,....they will do so when AP is over. What then? A recipient of an IR/CR visa is technically free to enter the US, and does not have to go to the sponsoring spouse...in fact they can change their address at POE and have the green-card be mailed to a completely different address than the USC's. I've seen it happen before. In fact, I believe there was a recent thread here on VJ with a similar case. I know that such a thing is an absolute worst case situation...but I do want to put it out there for you to think about.

Thank you for your post, its done, cancelling case, visa was NOT issued nor will be ever as me as a Sponsor or anything else. Too many things found out today, and to add to his behavior, he cheated on me, You dont do that to one you claim you love with all your heart. Im done, a nice girl got her heart ripped out, cheated on, and used.

why is your interview date not assign,,,,,, your case was completed in aug

Because she is from Canada, and we're currently back logged by 5 to 6 months.

It's ''FUN'' stuff.

Okay where is the forum for me???, Im no longer a CR1 filer, no longer waiting for interview, no longer in AP/AR

Not waiting on visa to be issued, Im withdrawing it, and filing for divorce. Treat me like ####### and I take it, shame on me,

cheat on me and I find out, well have no fury like a scorn woman!!!!!!!!!!!

Where is the scorn woman forum??????????????????

WHAT ON EARTH? Beth, I'm so sorry.

And karma, what goes around, comes around.

And dear Beth, you are beautiful.

Oh yeah, I found out lots I did not know. So okay, I pick myself up, dust myself off, and breath. Easier said then done, but I will do it. Found out other true facts, but I wont post. WOW, what a morning!!

You'll be able to do it Beth, you're a strong woman. And a inspiration to me if I might add. And forgive me for saying this but I'm glad the visa was not approved if he really did so much hurtful things behind your back. Karma will snip him. You'll be okay and we are all here for you if you need us! And yes, don't forget to breath deep.

As of this am, visa was still being processed, until now, Im withdrawing it, I contacted my senator, Paris and one going to USCIS and the Dept of State. YOU dont do this to a person you claimed of loved with your whole heart.

I think in my heart I knew , but denied it all cause I love him, but light shined through to protect me.

Im not a ugly hearted person, cranky at times, but a good girl who believes in marriage vows, and self respect for herself.

I wonder why God lead me on this journey to feel such hurt and pain in my head and heart in the very end. But one day I will know.