KnightAndMagpie

It's nice to know that you've established the entirety of your opinion of the people of that country on your one bad experience with a girl...
Magpie.

You have to understand our skepticism. How can you go to court armed with logged evidence when she has presented none, save through her voice? Why would they bar you from YOUR home, giving her exclusive access, when the evidence has been supposedly pitted against her? There must have been something which didn't convince the judges, because she's the one who should heading home on a jet. That you're writing so venomously now makes me wonder why you didn't express the same with your wife when she had pulled a knife on you. Perhaps it is that you're braver to say such things to someone you don't know rather than to your own wife, or defend yourself well in court. Maybe he's struck a nerve with you because there's some grain in truth in what my Knight is suggesting.
I was a great deal more sympathetic until I looked over the court order; any judge would have to be blind, deaf and dumb to overlook evidence presented so strongly in your favour. Yes, we may be taken for granted, manipulated, but there's so much more that we likely don't know, as CaptainRubyHeart suggested. To provoke her so strongly there is perhaps another element unknown to us. Just as a reminder:

For the record? Knight is the most down-to-earth, humble and amazing person I know. He has gone above and beyond the call of duty throughout our own journey, though it's likely you'd hardly be interested in that. And I'd know, because I'm the one marrying him. Your petty attacks on him and your fierce defensiveness just seem to put you more in the red zone. Focus your bitter energy elsewhere. And just as you have a right to share your experiences, don't expect to receive fluff and sympathy with every response. We're all entitled to our opinions, whether you like them or not, or agree with them or not. You've asserted that yourself.
Whatever your issues, I hope fervently that you are able to resolve them -- whatever they may be.
Magpie.

Yes I agree. And you sound like a pathological liar.

Stop posting here. Everything you just posted sounds like complete garbage. I know the courts tend to favor women, but not even hearing your side? LOL.

Come clean. You beat the living hell out of her and now your pathological urge to lie and potentially sociopathic tendencies are driving you to justify what you did in your own skewed reality. You need help. Badly.
-Knight

As others have said on here, you need to protect yourself. She could try to make up anything in order to put you in a bad light, and unfortunately, courts have a tendency to listen to the girl more than the guy.
It's so sad that some people are so materialistically driven. Yes, you do need money to survive, but how can someone steal that away from someone else who has worked hard for it? You choose to be with someone because you look beyond the material things and see who they are, and that's what fortifies a relationship. You should be gracious for what you have been given, but taking advantage is a step too far. That she chose to attack you in anger because you discovered her untruths and deception sickens me, when you had done nothing wrong.
R&AINC is right -- love is incredibly blinding, but I know you'll heal and you'll find someone who will look beyond the material things and see only you. :: hug :: Don't think about the why or the how too much because it'll hurt even more. If you spend all your time wondering, then you'll only be compelled to try and repair a bridge which will always collapse beneath you. Don't fill your head with thoughts of her, because she doesn't deserve to be in your head; look to what you can change and focus on yourself instead.
Magpie.

for the record...
1) Knight's a full-time student so he's not working at the moment. When I have my green card and he's graduated, well both be working because it's a shared responsibility.
2) See above. There are also some circumstances which have meant I cannot work at the moment.
3) See above, again. We all support one another.
4) I am Knight's best friend, but he has other good friends, too. I encourage him to see his friends as he does with me. We work together so well because we share a lot of interests, and we can share those with one another's friends, too. His friends are mine, and mine are his.
5) I know that Knight's very much a man, and while we can't play a nintendo at the moment, we will be using an XBox 360. We play online games together at the moment. It's a hell of a lot of fun and it's something we can do and enjoy together.
6) But I like going out for coffee with my guy! We do other things, too -- and when I'm there, we'll all share coffee with his buds (but he prefers a frappuchino).
I am a woman and I think it's safe to say your so-called "man rules" are quite silly to me. I'm sure they make sense to you, but they're not applicable to everyone .
Magpie.

You're a wonderful, brave woman, and thank you for sharing that with us. I wish you all the happiness in the world, and to the OP :: hugs ::.
I've had a similar experience where I've been a victim of emotional, mental and some minor physical abuse because of my family (whom I'm now estranged from). I tried to do what they wished, tried to fulfil my "duty" as they decreed -- but it was just destroying me, and they were never satisfied; the only point they would be would be at the point that I was utterly broken and had abandoned everything I cared for. My mother and older brother in particular enjoyed their little power trips. I could have chosen to be the same way as a result of what I did, but I have chosen never to do anything like that to anyone, ever. Nobody should have to go through that.
Magpie.

Confuzzled, I sent you a PM...please don't let the ignorant comments on here get to you. It's also sad that people can't appreciate someone who writes as eloquently as you do. It doesn't come very often on here, so "Victorian novel" or not, your ability to express yourself, and your plight, is a gift.
I reiterate what I said, and some other VJers, have said earlier; abuse is still abuse at the end of the day. You need to look after yourself, first and foremost, and to remove yourself and the dog from that househould and your husband's life. Seek help from a third party, secure what you can financially and get away. Nobody deserves to undergo such a hellish trial.
Hugs -- please take care of yourself.
Magpie.