I have the same feeling as what you mentioned here. She made me spend all of my savings to get her here and have very little in my bank and wanted to spend that on the AOS. With the recession around the corner there are high chances I might lose my job as a contractor. I have taken this 3 BR independent house paying a huge rent and also bought all the furniture, appliances needed. My lease is till May 2023 and I'll be paying this huge rent in this 3 BR house living just by myself which I really don't need. Paid 6 months rent as deposit and the lease breakage terms are awful. My camry has an engine problem and making pushrod noise and might die at any time. If I spend the little money in the savings on her fancy flight tickets then I just cannot survive the period in the vent of job loss. She just crushed me to near death. I don't travel myself in premium economy and go by regular economy. In her country she travels in non-airconditioned bus or train. She came with iphone 7 and as my mobile carrier rejected to provide service to that old mobile I bought her a brand new iphone 13. 3 days back she said she is the difficult one and I'm a good man, good husband and a good father to her kids. Just because I talked to my lawyer in a locked room she suspects that I'm cooking up something against her. There is nothing like common property, bank accounts, credit cards etc so it's a simple straightforward divorce.
I have asked her to wait after filing the divorce till end of Sept just to make sure that the court has no objections to what we have filed and if she needs to sign any document the court might ask later but she wanted to go back urgently and have all these over the top crazy demands. I have communicated to my lawyer and waiting for him to respond. Being good has always punished me big time in this world of opportunists and deceivers. Man has to pay for all the expenses and at the end woman says she is not interested and wants a divorce all the hard earned money spent on the woman are discarded and she will get paid on top of it and man has to cut his losses. Same goes if woman is in man's shoes making the money. It feels that marriage is a curse for me and my likes.