TimTams

Thanks for this info. The threats are subtle but I know her family are "preparing to go to war" if I don't agree to summary dissolution. Have this all recorded in texts. Then again her dad also directly said "I have the ICE report forms filled out and ready to submit" if I didn't leave the USA by the date of my flight a few months ago... now have a 3 yr inadmissibility to deal with as well because I did leave... I was on a work visa prior but stayed in the USA because she was the love of my life and thought she felt the same. Turns out nope. The shift was 180 the day after we got married, still can't believe it happened and all the s**t that went down.

Yeah I looked extensively for this info through the threads but was unable to find it. She is pressing for summary dissolution and using threats of deportation & ICE threats to have me do that, after months of denying we are even married on the basis that she didn't return the marriage license. I finally convinced her to just consult an actual divorce attorney (not the cheap online services) who explained yes we are actually married and she returned it a month or two ago. Still her deportation threats if i dont perfectly comply with her ever-changing ways she reframed our relationship into a ruthless power dynamic goes in lockstep with her father who despises me to my core, but his flavor is more physical violence which she fully sponsors, behind my back, whilst acting like the good cop who "tricked herself into marrying me". So long story short I need to know if it's easier to oblige by her summary dissolution threat (without it affecting my work-in-progress VAWA application) or go through a courtroom divorce which may include her doing all kinds of nasty retributional USCIS stuff (she will think the courtroom divorce avenue is purely retribution to her having an affair, not the other abuse she did, and go on full offensive if I hand her divorce papers. Pray her and her family do not research their way into VAWA.

Does summary dissolution affect VAWA or is it necessary to file for a divorce? I’m a resident of California