Yes, I completely agree. And I definitely can feel for you about others opinions. Unless you are in this position, nobody will know how it feels...😔
We have just finished up paperwork for a WOM, so hopefully we will hear news soon, but it is still so nerve wracking, and very expensive. I hope your paperwork comes through soon, you deserve to be with your wife, as do we all deserve to be with our families. It is an extremely hard and emotional/mental process, hang in there @ice-qube, the day will come, hopefully sooner than later 🤞