@JamieCO1 I believe I mentioned the crimes of husband. It was the first message I posted so your comment is really "redundant" (to put in a nice way).
I must say, that some really good people have reached out and they have helped a lot but then you get the other category that is either rude and insensitive (not that it affects me) or their comments are completely irrelevant. I'm not saying that because I welcome only "convenient" truths but you observe human nature. I would personally never comment on someone's story just for the shake of saying something--anything, its just "dummy" (there are other names too).
For those that judge me because of my man, know that I wouldn't change him for the best richest free man out there. I see a lot of couples in the free world where they have/enjoy all the freedoms that we don't, but they are miserable and pathetique. They are all around us, you see them in the pub, on your way to work, on your way home, on the station. You can "smell" an unhealthy couple from miles away.
Those people that will eventually get my application when the time comes, will scrutinize me, that's for sure. But I trust that they have they experience to detect what's real and what's not, beyond the prejudice and the silent "thoughts" of "what is she doing with an inmate", they will be able to see that we are just one more married couple.
For those nice people that had something positive to say either here or on PMs, when we got married, same day 3 more couples got married. Our pastor stopped, he looked at us and said to me and my husband "for some reason, I have a very good feeling about you two". That's all I have to say. I usually, don't bother replying to irrelevant messages but it happened that a lady PM'ed and confessed how ostracised she feels because her husband is an inmate. That there annoyed me. You have no right to judge and jump on forums making unnecessary comments. It's just..useless.